http://forum.santabanta.com/ You can talk of anything from Lifestyles of the sick and restless to confessions about sex, funny stories about losing your virginity to real life sexual fears. All your queries will be answered by Agony Aunt (Preeto). All new threads will be moderated. en Sat, 21 Nov 2009 06:50:01 GMT vBulletin 60 http://media.santabanta.com/forum/images_blue/misc/rss.jpg http://forum.santabanta.com/ http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165454&goto=newpost Sat, 21 Nov 2009 06:12:43 GMT *21 ways to keep the sexual fire burning * Monotony and misunderstandings creep up in marriages all the time. It would be wise to tackle them in a way that both the partners remain in love and are ready to discuss the issues at hand. Here are some sure-fire ways to revive the marriage like...

21 ways to keep the sexual fire burning

Monotony and misunderstandings creep up in marriages all the time. It would be wise to tackle them in a way that both the partners remain in love and are ready to discuss the issues at hand. Here are some sure-fire ways to revive the marriage like there is no tomorrow!

Take a look at these tips to keep your relationship off the rocks, and on solid ground.

Romance for the uninitiated: If your partner doesn't initiate with you romantically and intimately, you can encourage him or her by writing down things you like on cards and putting them in a bowl. For example: give a massage, plan a date, have a shower together, create a romantic mood, offer a hug and a kiss when you see each other after work, write poetry, etc. Get your partner to take one card out of the bowl each evening and learn to become intimate. Since they're your ideas you are more likely to respond in a positive fashion. Also it has been observed that many couples lack romance in their busy lives and many women's desire is evoked through romantic gestures. A simple way to bring intimacy to the relationship is to put together a romance chest — include wine, candles, scented oils for massage, chocolate, etc. When you're in the mood you can go to the box and set the scene for a romantic evening. ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt patelyash http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165454 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165420&goto=newpost Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:16:37 GMT Plz!! I need advice on this case!! Its a big readout so dun mind!!.... I had been in a long distance relationship for 1 n half year, something went wrong in between me n her n we broke up!!...... but still, till now me and her are not out of each other. She is in Bangalore completing her studies,... Plz!! I need advice on this case!!
Its a big readout so dun mind!!....
I had been in a long distance relationship for 1 n half year, something went wrong in between me n her n we broke up!!...... but still, till now me and her are not out of each other. She is in Bangalore completing her studies, as for me I'm in delhi (working).... I once went to bangalore without letting her know, just to give her a surprise, n I spent 3 - 4 days with her. We both didn't even realised we had a break up n everything that was happning over there was as if we were in a strong relationship till now. (N those feeling were absolutely True).
Now the main problem is, in between, a senior of her college proposed her and she said yes, but still, that relationship is not workin out well as she is still not out of me...... we used to chat a lot, talk on the phones n everything was normal as if we were still in a relationship. She still used to say everytime I used to ask her that do u still like me!!.... n she always admitted that "I was the one n only that can never be erased out from her memories"
But, now, she has started avoiding me for some days..... it has been 3 weeks. everytime I call her, either her phone is busy or she says, she's busy. She does not even reply to my msgs. only I contact her n even if I try not too..... i end up calling her.
What should I do.... I still love her MADLY.... i know she does too.... but she's tryin to get away from me..... plz advice!!.... I do not want to loose her!! ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt hrithik http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165420 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165417&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:21:37 GMT Hi there i have a relatively complex issue to discuss here, so kindly bear with me as I explain this. I met this girl at university, and we became friends, very good friends almost immediately. We were studying the same course, so we saw each other everyday. Our friendship grew and we started... Hi there
i have a relatively complex issue to discuss here, so kindly bear with me as I explain this.

I met this girl at university, and we became friends, very good friends almost immediately. We were studying the same course, so we saw each other everyday. Our friendship grew and we started doing fun stuff together - hung out whenever possible, partied, chilled with friends etc. We met everyday, talked on the phone for an hour each day etc, took care of each other - became 'best' friends. In the 2nd year of me knowing her, we started sleeping with each other. Initially, we didnt have any intercourse as I didnt want to encourage her in anyway. We merely used to participate in kissing, masturbating, having oral sex with each other. We clearly cared for each other a lot. Since she was struggling with the course at university, I didnt make her my official gf (i.e. we didnt tell our friends) so she could concentrate on her studies. To us, it was understood that we are now seeing each other. This continued for almost for 4 years at university and then we got ourselves a job in different cities. We continued to talk over the phone everyday and meet up now then. Our relationship remained intact.

One day, I met one of our common friends (a guy) who informed me that my friend and him were going out for almost 1 year at university (i.e. our 4th year). He didnt know about me sleeping with her and I didnt know she was sleeping with him too. Now, the common friend and my best friend are no longer talking to each other as they broke up sometime ago - due to a 3rd fellow who she started dating without telling this guy & me). The moment I learnt this, I confronted her about it. She turned around, laughed at me and said that I got played. She used me to get a good degree (she wasnt academically smart), get a job (I completed all her tests, assessments) and that now I wasnt needed anymore. (yep! she said that but obviously in a politically correct way). She then added, now there's nothing I can do to harm her, affect her career and that I should forget about her. She then dropped a bomb on me by confirming that she had again been going out with someone for 6 months with a guy who is richer, younger and smarter. Once this drama unfolded, I left her for good. I havent spoken to her for 3 months.

Questions:
[a] At university, the fact that I didnt make us an official gf/bf because I put her education came first - was that a mistake? Was I a good friend by putting her first? Or a fool altogether.
[b] Actions speak louder than words - would sleeping around with someone you both care for re-emphasise you as gf/bf or did I need to make this "official". She thinks that I didnt ask her out so she thought we were "friends-with-benefits". What are your thoughts?
[c] Why did she lie to me? The entire friendship/relationship turned out to be lies, lies? What could be her motive? At university, she seemed very innocent and I had no reason to not trust her.
[d] How can someone like her get away with all this? She got a degree (check), got a good job with an investment bank (check), got a rich bf (check) and yet I am the one who did everything for my friend and was lied to for almost 4 yrs.
[e] How could my friend have gone from this sweet girl to this power hungry girl without me noticing? fyi: I am not a fool.
[f] What could've I done differently? Constructive feedback please

Thanks for your time. ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt UnRegisteredGuest http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165417 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165412&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:30:12 GMT HI..im Male 19 years age..im having a complex prob regarding my way of walking...i dont know how it starts but 4m last 1 year im facing this prob that i cant walk like normal ppls actually when ever i start walking it come in my mind that i m not walking propely my legs r going in wrong way or they... HI..im Male 19 years age..im having a complex prob regarding my way of walking...i dont know how it starts but 4m last 1 year im facing this prob that i cant walk like normal ppls actually when ever i start walking it come in my mind that i m not walking propely my legs r going in wrong way or they r like shaking etc..this is just my complex this happen when im walking alone or in front of some 1 but if theres mirror in front of me then i can walk properly...so i need ur help how can i remove this thing 4m my mind coz its just my mind prob that make me walk like that otherwise theres no prob with me ..i want 2 control this thing n 2 remove this 4m my mind ....tx ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt Unregistered http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165412 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165411&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:25:19 GMT Dear Madam, I am one problem from childhood that I am not able to concentrate in studies in daytime.I am rather more comfortable at night. I am not regular in college and instead of attending classes I study better if I read a subject myself. I am an above average student and am also placed in a... Dear Madam,
I am one problem from childhood that I am not able to concentrate in studies in daytime.I am rather more comfortable at night.
I am not regular in college and instead of attending classes I study better if I read a subject myself.
I am an above average student and am also placed in a software company HCL in noida.
My problem is that there I've to go to office regularly.but I am not able to perform better during daytime as I feel dizzy all the time and feel like sleeping.
I tried to change my routine like I tried to get up early instead.But I wasted my one month in that and it gave no good results.
Please help me. ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt mp.17 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165411 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165410&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:15:36 GMT I have a friend who trying to get pregnant, but she is not physically active at all. She does no excercise, does not watch what she eats, no particular time to eat, she can eat in gap of two hours or dont eat anything for the whole day and then eat at night. She does not go for a walk, no workout... I have a friend who trying to get pregnant, but she is not physically active at all. She does no excercise, does not watch what she eats, no particular time to eat, she can eat in gap of two hours or dont eat anything for the whole day and then eat at night. She does not go for a walk, no workout and even her work is easy; so no physical activity involved. She eats all kind of unhealthy food but gladly she does not gain weight and health wise she is fine. Her doc wants her to do some kinda of excercise but she thinks she doesnt need to.
My question is will all these habits of her effect her pregnancy or have any kind of harm to her or the baby.
I will be thankfull to your advice. ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt mellissa http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165410 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165407&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:18:14 GMT Hello all, mai ek ladki ko kafi pyaar karta hu. Par mujhe patta chala ki uska pichle ik mahine se mere dost se chakkar tha just battein hotti thi nothing else par ab hum dono ek hai womujhse or mai usse bohat pyaar karta hu lakin kabhi kabhi jab mujhe ye yaad aa jatta hai ki ye wahi ladki hai jo... Hello all,
mai ek ladki ko kafi pyaar karta hu. Par mujhe patta chala ki uska pichle ik mahine se mere dost se chakkar tha just battein hotti thi nothing else par ab hum dono ek hai womujhse or mai usse bohat pyaar karta hu lakin kabhi kabhi jab mujhe ye yaad aa jatta hai ki ye wahi ladki hai jo mere ik cheater dost se baat kiya karti thi to mujhe gussa attahai. or sochta hu ki aisa bhi ye kya pyaar hi kya mujhe usse **** dena chahiye kyuki agar in futer baat shadi tak chali gyi to kahi past to ni tang karega. ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt Loving Some one... http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165407 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165402&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:42:40 GMT i m a 19 year boy from kolkata....i m very frank wid those gals who r my frnd...but i feel vry shy nd nervous to talk to unknown gals or even ask them to become my frnd.....plzz help me to control my nervousness and shyness.... i m a 19 year boy from kolkata....i m very frank wid those gals who r my frnd...but i feel vry shy nd nervous to talk to unknown gals or even ask them to become my frnd.....plzz help me to control my nervousness and shyness.... ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt Unregistered http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165402 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165326&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 08:42:42 GMT i am 19,male. I behaved very bad to our maid (5 year older than me).. but now i am terribly sorry for that. She is rlly rlly beautiful and from day1 she had me attracted wednesday when nobody was in home i tried to kiss her, she slapped me and was very angry and asked if this is the way i will... i am 19,male. I behaved very bad to our maid (5 year older than me).. but now i am terribly sorry for that. She is rlly rlly beautiful and from day1 she had me attracted
wednesday when nobody was in home i tried to kiss her, she slapped me and was very angry and asked if this is the way i will behave wid my sister or other women etc.. after taht i feel ashamed, she also said she will tell mom but till now didnt say.. so i am afraid if she will do it in coming days.. i said sorry etc but she is furious and im shy to look even at her face, i hardly go out of my room now.. plz tell me some way to solve this problem ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt Unregistered http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165326 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165324&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 08:35:07 GMT I am writing this from delhi we are married from 3 months!!
Me & my hubby have sex 4 times a week.. is having too much sex like this bad??? plz tell if this can affect us healthwise or not? ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt Unregistered http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165324 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165314&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 07:32:07 GMT My ex boyfriend is troubling me asking for sexual favors. We broke up 8 months ago and now i am happily engaged to another guy, he doesnt know about this ex.. I have told him to stop calling me or contacting me but he is not leaving me alone, he says he made a mistake and he can make me happy and... My ex boyfriend is troubling me asking for sexual favors. We broke up 8 months ago and now i am happily engaged to another guy, he doesnt know about this ex..
I have told him to stop calling me or contacting me but he is not leaving me alone, he says he made a mistake and he can make me happy and i dont even have to leave my bf. I think he is hinting at cheating my fiance.. how to handle this maam? ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt Unregistered http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165314 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165299&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 06:36:52 GMT my collegue is in desire to have sex with me , he openly flirts with me n even i also like him its all b'coz i have given him so much of liberty in this relation . its been 2yrs of my service at this place n when i joined at that time i was pregnent but after maternity leave when i joined evrythng seemed changed . we usually have a very liberal talks (almost evrythng including even sex with our partners ). but the prob. is i don't want to cross my limits as we both r married n parents of 2 kids each n most imp. my hubbie also works at the same place but our deppt. r diff. ................................. What to do ? Really attracted towards him n also fears . ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt Unregistered http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165299 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165293&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 06:17:42 GMT *Try handcuffs for sexual pleasure * More people fantasize about bondage in one form or another than you might imagine. Many of these couples try bondage at one time or another for sexual pleasure to spice up their sex lives. There are some people who, despite their fantasies, never...

Try handcuffs for sexual pleasure

More people fantasize about bondage in one form or another than you might imagine. Many of these couples try bondage at one time or another for sexual pleasure to spice up their sex lives.

There are some people who, despite their fantasies, never experience bondage. More than likely this is either because they are unfamiliar with how to perform bondage properly, or because they are unsure how their partner would react to their desire to try bondage. ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt loopnz http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165293 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165279&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 05:33:47 GMT is it normal having skin not behind penis during *****ion like in children i.e skin covering whole penis till the tip . will it become an obstacle or matter of pain durin sex ? is it normal having skin not behind penis during *****ion like in children i.e skin covering whole penis till the tip . will it become an obstacle or matter of pain durin sex ? ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt Unregistered http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165279 http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165273&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 04:53:31 GMT i m in luv wid ma cousine sis..n even she luvs mee....bt it is nt acceptable in our caste dat v gt married...bt v cannot live widout each other..plz gv me sum suggestion... i m in luv wid ma cousine sis..n even she luvs mee....bt it is nt acceptable in our caste dat v gt married...bt v cannot live widout each other..plz gv me sum suggestion... ]]> Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt swaprks http://forum.santabanta.com/showthread.htm?t=165273