Wife Needs a Break

Hi

I am 31 years old and married for last 5 years with a 4 years old son. I quite my job to start a business and trie hand in few but failed. I had many bad habbits like watching porn, being lazy, casual etc but was always loyal to my wife and love her a lot. She used to love me even more. In between I went out of town for a job, but after few months she became so restless without me that she brought me back from there. Now she got a job outside of town and we planned to work together as she will settle down and yearly session of my son school will be over and we all we start a new life.
But now she is not willing to spend her rest of my life due to the faults that i made and the fights we used to have. I tried to convince a lot by begging her to think about our child. she tells me to keep our child and she will come whenever she gets leave to meet us. I cant stay ayaw from her she is been away for more than 6 months and not for a second I spent without thinking about her, its hampering my work also as I cant focus. Please help

Well, obviously you've tried to reason with her an cajole her to stay with you but she has come to some decisions about her life. In such a case, there's not much advise that we can give you apart from telling her the merits of living together and trying to make the adjustments that she wants. Although it seems like she may not even want to consider those at the moment.
Perhaps you can enlist the support of your families and also find a good marriage counsellor for professional help.

have you given her the option of changing yourself? looks like you have stubborn with your bad habits and not ready to change. if that doesnt work, then just let her go. its not like you are an ideal husband, so consider that you are getting what you deserved because of your messed up habits.

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Originally Posted by sexymax420

Hi

I am 31 years old and married for last 5 years with a 4 years old son. I quite my job to start a business and trie hand in few but failed. I had many bad habbits like watching porn, being lazy, casual etc but was always loyal to my wife and love her a lot. She used to love me even more. In between I went out of town for a job, but after few months she became so restless without me that she brought me back from there. Now she got a job outside of town and we planned to work together as she will settle down and yearly session of my son school will be over and we all we start a new life.
But now she is not willing to spend her rest of my life due to the faults that i made and the fights we used to have. I tried to convince a lot by begging her to think about our child. she tells me to keep our child and she will come whenever she gets leave to meet us. I cant stay ayaw from her she is been away for more than 6 months and not for a second I spent without thinking about her, its hampering my work also as I cant focus. Please help

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Well its kind of late buddy. It looks like your wife have found someone else or she is happy with her new found freedom from daily boring routine and I don't blame her as she had to handle all by herself while you were trying to manage your business and later were out of town for a job. I would suggest you to wait for sometime and let her come back to reality where she starts missing you both.

Your story looks like that of Arbaaz -Malaika... just like her your wife have learned to live without you and your repeated failures has driven her apart ... just try to bring some elder of your family in between. May be she changes her mind if some elder (whom she regard) pleads her to stay with you and her son.

Just get rid of her. She is hiding something from you anyway.

does she needs a break or a breakup up? there is a difference

don't let her go away from you

​Dude it looks like she is has already made her decision and she really needs the time off and you bagging her and calling her all the time will make the matters worse... Yes seek some professional opinion and give her some time and yes work on yourself as well... Get a good financial job and I am sure that she will be happy... I truly believe that she is trying to give you a hint of what she has gone through when you were doing what you said you were doing....

It is unfortunately over. I suggest you start looking for a new women to satisfy your needs.