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    i have a gf and we together from 8 months now.

    we are now in different cities and i am going to meet her next month.
    daily we talk 1 or 2 hrs through phone..
    she wants to have sex for first time next we meet.
    I told it as a joke but she now took it serious and pressuring me.
    i am very tensed and stressed...if i tell her no now she will think i have some rpoblem.
    please help me how to tell her i dont want it now with out harming her respect for me as a man.????

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    I'm a little surprised at this girl's insistence. But anyway, you don't have to get stressed about it. Just because she WANTS it does not mean that the whole focus of the meeting would be to please her sexually.

    Don't worry about it. be cool. Play it by ear. Let her come a and see what happens during the day. The more stressed you get already, the more tense you will be then. You can always tell her that it does not work for you that way if she insists. You would like to be with her, spend time with her etc before you are ready to make love.

    See, its not just the prerogative of the girl to say yes or no. A boy can say it too!

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    if she wanted thangive it 2 her what`s your problem.
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    if u are tensed you shouldnt go for it. This can have a bad effect. Make gf understand that you dont want to

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    Quote Originally Posted by sexy_john View Post
    i have a gf and we together from 8 months now.

    we are now in different cities and i am going to meet her next month.
    daily we talk 1 or 2 hrs through phone..
    she wants to have sex for first time next we meet.
    I told it as a joke but she now took it serious and pressuring me.
    i am very tensed and stressed...if i tell her no now she will think i have some rpoblem.
    please help me how to tell her i dont want it now with out harming her respect for me as a man.????
    As the moderator says - its not just the prerogative of the girl to say yes or no. A boy can say it too! And I dont think it makes you any less of a man! I am sure you have a reason for saying no and even if you don't and feel that you are not ready to take the relationship to the next level - just be open and honest about it and say so.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sexy_john View Post
    i have a gf and we together from 8 months now.

    we are now in different cities and i am going to meet her next month.
    daily we talk 1 or 2 hrs through phone..
    she wants to have sex for first time next we meet.
    I told it as a joke but she now took it serious and pressuring me.
    i am very tensed and stressed...if i tell her no now she will think i have some rpoblem.
    please help me how to tell her i dont want it now with out harming her respect for me as a man.????
    wow!.... i am really like wow..... ur query makes me feel that u ppl are not yet comfortable with each other..... look at ur situation u cant even tell her no for something u dont want.... above all u ppl are just into 8 months of relationship and she wants sex now..... thats strange..... really strange.... it seems she is all out for sex.......

    dont be surprised if she leaves u in no time......

    anyways.....

    if ur not interested in sex than u just have to tell her what u feel about it..... let her know whats ur stand on it..... there is nothing to be embaressed with.... just explain her politely..... if she really loves u she will understand.....

    after all its a relation between two.... u have the right to express ur views......

    all the best

    god bless u

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    The earlier post was about a Guy who want to have sex but GF is not ready and here GF is ready and boy is not ready.
    Opportunity is problem and problem is opportunity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sexy_john View Post
    i have a gf and we together from 8 months now.

    we are now in different cities and i am going to meet her next month.
    daily we talk 1 or 2 hrs through phone..
    she wants to have sex for first time next we meet.
    I told it as a joke but she now took it serious and pressuring me.
    i am very tensed and stressed...if i tell her no now she will think i have some rpoblem.
    please help me how to tell her i dont want it now with out harming her respect for me as a man.????
    Mate,

    Tell her you'd prefer sex After marriage..!! What's the fuss..?

    G'day

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    Quote Originally Posted by Roger69 View Post
    Opportunity is problem and problem is opportunity.
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    You should go for it only when you are totally ready. The anxiety and strain can lead to performance issues which in turn can severely impact your relationship altogether. What about telling her that you want to go for it only after marriage and not before it. May be you can add that its because you care for her.

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    She might ask it but you have to decide if you want to do it or not. You dont have to dance according to her instructions.
    Postpone it after marriage and its safe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sexy_john View Post
    i have a gf and we together from 8 months now.

    we are now in different cities and i am going to meet her next month.
    daily we talk 1 or 2 hrs through phone..
    she wants to have sex for first time next we meet.
    I told it as a joke but she now took it serious and pressuring me.
    i am very tensed and stressed...if i tell her no now she will think i have some rpoblem.
    please help me how to tell her i dont want it now with out harming her respect for me as a man.????
    dont do it only to show her that u r a man and a man with no problems...

    if she cannot respect ur decision or not trust u- then u think shez worth the love u feel for her????

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    Dont be tensed. Take this as normal and cool. Do deep breathing excercises. it will help you. wait til you are ready completely.

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