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    hi maam,
    i never hav ny pro before in my life dis is really a big moment.
    m 24 yr old having a small bussiness nd earn sufficiently.
    its rare to b in contact of grls in my school nd college life
    so always worried tht i never hav ny gf .......
    the only grl i kno is m cusin (Masi daughter)we both hav good chemstry she understd nd care me very well nd me too.
    3 yr before i talk abt dis nd she understnd me after tht we come closer.
    now we came closer tht we cant live widout each other, we dont kno actual love defination but we think we both r in love,we dont kno this realtion is good or bad nd we never care abt wht pple says abt this, we decided to get married.
    but we dont think our parents allow us. we can do ny thing to get married now.
    now m having 2 problems:-
    1) how to talk abt dis to our parents, we both want our parents to get agree abt our relation.
    2) wht the future of our generation, i read some where that sex bwt dis typ relation is harmful for coming child.is tht true i waana kno. nd how can we over come frm dis.

    plz maam nd all other member of dis foram do look on my pro. nd give me good sugesstion how can i overcome frm this pro.

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    answer 1.

    * take help of some relative...maybe some other cousin/uncle/ or aunt to convey message .

    * be a man gather courage and tell ur parents.

    pyar karne wale kabhi darte nahi...jo darte hain wo pyar karte nahi!!!

    * ask ur cousin to tell her parenst if u cant aks urz..

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    answer 2.

    yeah thats right science does reaveal such facts... that maybe
    . u may hav problem in bearing children
    . the child born could not be healthy.

    but mind u....this happens only if there r too many links... and generations together cousin marriages r goin on... if u r the first such couples things will be normal

    only if ur parents and her parents r cousins..ur grandparents r cousins..etc etc.. then.. due to similar genes maybe..even not 100% sure

    also keep in mind that.. even if u marry a stranger(unrelated person)..thhere r chances that u may not hav children or u may hav unhealthy children..its all one in a 100 chance always..

    soo many people marry cousins and bear healthy children.. have faith nothing will go wrong!

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    Hi there,

    The problem, as I see it is that the girl you love is your first cousin. In Hindu families such close liaisons are frowned upon so you need to be prepared for that. I do believe that before you go any further into your relationship, you need to talk to your parents about this and see what their position is on this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Preeto Maam View Post
    Hi there,

    The problem, as I see it is that the girl you love is your first cousin. In Hindu families such close liaisons are frowned upon so you need to be prepared for that. I do believe that before you go any further into your relationship, you need to talk to your parents about this and see what their position is on this.
    completely agree with ma'am...
    never been in love and m not a free mind to accept that children go against parents will to marry... whom they lov only after knowing for few years..


    world wud definitely be a better place if everyone fell in love with parents consent and their likes in mind....

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    i don`t like these type of love or marriages
    yeh accha hai yar bahar koi nhi mili toh ghar mein hi dhoondh lo.
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    i guess in ur own query u wrote down u dont care for ppl.... than why on earth are u here for...... what scares u from talking to ur parents...... gettting married to first cousins in hindu religion is not right and not only among the relatives but also among the society it will spark an controversy.......

    the only option for u is to talk to the cncerned person regarding the marriage with or without the hekp of someone thats totally on u.... be prepared for anything and everything coming thereafter.....

    but think twice before u would really like to ahead with it or not

    all the best

    god bless u

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    as it is ritely said "LOVE IS BLIND".
    If you truely love her and gather some courage and talk wid ur parents abt the matter. And abt the child problems "Why ppl had made google for" just google it and know urself. but i am sure that these things hardly matters.

    Gud Luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by knocked out View Post
    aatmahatya karle
    my friend he is not here to know how silly u are but he is here for some suggestions..... personal advise.... if u dont have anything worth to offer than keep ur mouth shut or get knocked out..........

    all the best

    god bless ur mind

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    oye chad ghante te, marrying 1st cousin, dimaag tuhaade v uhne ki ne.. gharwaalo ko pata chalega to dekhi

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    Quote Originally Posted by knocked out View Post
    oye chad ghante te, marrying 1st cousin, dimaag tuhaade v uhne ki ne.. gharwaalo ko pata chalega to dekhi
    heavy punjabi accent!! cudnt get u!!

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    dude

    can u even expect the kind of shock and grievance its gonna bring to the parents and other elders in the family

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    I guess this is not right thing in our hindu religion but still if u want to marry talk with ur parents directly

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    I know it is a practice to do so in certain cultures and/or religions, but from a biological point of view I dont agree with it. It is called in-breeding and can lead to problems with off-spring and future generations.
    I personally don't support it and would advise against it.
    Rest is up to you.

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    what if your would be children get to know of ur story and feels depressed and suicidal ?

    what if your near relatives gets high BP out of stress and dies a silent death....would not u be responsible for this.

    Its clear you are incapable of thinking this possiblities....so you are dumb guy ...what were your scores in studies ? How educated are you ?

    Such feelings are sometimes found in young teens but it recedes with time!!

    Go and meet other girls and avoid her....and things will change in 2-5 yrs!!

    And biologically its not good either!!

    Never tell this to any relative ....they may suffer heart attack or might shoot you.

    U are so selfish and dumb! And dont touch her!!!
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    think...think..think how the future will go if you both continue your relationship. It's against the religion and even if you'll go for it your future children will still suffer.
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