Signs He’s Flirting With You
How to Read His Signals of Romantic Interest
Guys can be very skilled or completely clueless about sending the right signals to a girl that they like, but there are some telltale signs that he really is interested in you. Here are some key signs and cues he's flirting with you.
Picking up on cues from the opposite sex can be a challenge for some people, especially when it comes to flirting. Guys can be very skilled or completely clueless about sending the right signals to a girl that they like, but there are some telltale signs that he really is interested in you.
Flirting can be a fun, casual way to get to know someone better and helps reduce anxiety when communicating with someone; especially if they like you in a romantic way. Body language, his manner of speech and the type of eye contact he makes are just some of the ways you can decipher his flirting message and decide if you want to flirt back.
What is Flirting?
Flirting is defined as playful or coy behavior that arouses interest in someone. It is a way to communicate your interest to someone and find out if they feel the same way in a very indirect, and casual way. Some people flirt with others as their basic form of communication and to ‘test the waters’ before disclosing their real feelings about another. Other people flirt to begin the courting or dating process, and it can continue into a long-term relationship. In many cases, flirting with someone else is a very casual form of romantic interest and does not have any emotional strings attached to it.
Obvious Signs That He’s Flirting With You
Some of the most obvious signs he is flirting with you occur with the way he stands and moves when he’s around you, and when he’s talking to you. Some of the basic body postures and movements that indicate he’s interested include:
- Touching his hair or running his hands through his hair
- Casually touching you on the arm or small of your back while talking to you
- Smiling suggestively
- Giving you a wide-eyed look when you’re talking in a group
- Making extended eye contact with you
- He gives you small gifts or a note
- He seems especially nervous when he’s talking to you
In some cases, a person who is interested in you will show subconscious signs of interest during your conversation. He may laugh more easily, lean in closely to listen to you or smile a ‘secret’ smile. He might also tease you or share a joke to gauge your level of interest and find out if you’re really interested in him. These forms of communication can be subtle or overt, but are strong indications that he has a strong interest in you; still, deciphering the message and meaning behind his behavior or his words can be challenging – especially if you have a genuine interest in him.
Non-Obvious Signs He’s Flirting With You
If you’re not used to flirting with guys – or having guys flirt with you – you might miss some of the non-obvious signs that he is interested in you. While it’s easy to spot direct signs of interest with positive body language and extended eye contact, it’s not always easy to ‘read’ him when he’s talking to you, socializing with your friends or even showings signs of discomfort or anxiety. While the following signs that he’s flirting can be hard to detect, they’re all indications that he is interested in you:
He acts immaturely around you
He seems to make excuses to hang out with you
You catch him looking at you when you’re not looking at him directly
He acts embarrassed or turns red when you talk to him
He smiles at you a lot or laughs at your jokes (or everything you say)
He copies your body movements or posture
He finds excuses to call you about random things
He seems jealous when you talk to his friends and not him
His friends tease him about you
He makes an extra effort to maintain eye contact
He thinks of ways to start a conversation with you
He compliments you a lot – more than your regular friends
He always seems to pass by you or run into you during your day-to-day schedule
He seems nervous or anxious when you talk to him directly
He gives you a playful hug or touches you lightly on the arm when talking to you
Ways to Flirt Back When You’re Confident He’s Flirting With You
If you’re truly interested in the guy, you can express your interest by flirting back. Most guys who initiated the positive communication will be well-prepared for you to respond with a positive response, so you can flex your own flirting skills to show him that you are interested and that you want to continue even this casual form of communication. You can:
Touch him lightly on the arm when the two of you are talking
Playfully ask him out on a casual date or to an event you both have interest in
Smile and maintain good eye contact when you’re talking
Call him by his first name when you want to talk to him in a group
Share a joke or laugh about something you know he’s interested in
Make an effort to join a group event or get-together where you know he’ll be attending
Ways to Express Disinterest When He’s Flirting With You
If you’re not interested in the guy and he’s showing obvious signs that he likes you, you’ll need a strategy to stop him from flirting. Some guys will pick up on even the subtlest signs of disinterest, but others won’t understand until you are completely direct about it. A few ways to stop him from flirting with you include:
Most guys will back off when you show continued disinterest and are prepared to tell him you’re not interested directly. It can take time and persistence, but you communicating your disinterest effectively will reduce the risk of hurting his feelings and give you the chance to set some healthy boundaries.
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