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    Wrong reasons to marry for



    1. Marrying for money


    If the person you love happens to have money, well, that's great. And it might not be a wise thing to marry someone who is completely penniless and who has no intention to ever make a contribution to household expenses, unless you enjoy working 18 hours a day to keep things going. But marrying purely for money, regardless of your feelings for a person, is nearly always a mistake.

    The least you can do for yourself is compromise - if you really feel that desperate, then try to find yourself a rich person you enjoy being with.


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    2. Shotgun wedding


    Fifty years ago, you would have had little choice to get married under these circumstances. But these days you don't have to. Unless you particularly like the person and can see yourself spending 40 years with him or her, don't marry someone just days or weeks after meeting them.

    If you're dealing with an out-of-wedlock pregnancy, paternity tests and maintenance payments can go a long way to helping to raise the child. Don't get forced into a decision that may bring you long-term heartbreak. If you are unsure, wait until after the baby is born and then make a sober decision, keeping in mind how you feel about the person.


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    3. Wanting to leave your parents' home


    If things at home are grim, and marriage provides a way out, it is not surprising that many people choose this path. But it is often a route that takes you out of the frying pan and into the fire. It's probably less painful to stick it out at home for a year or two longer than to get hitched to the first person who asks you, who might really irk you a year or two down the line.


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    4. Your parents like the person


    It is wonderful if your parents really like your future spouse. But their liking of this person is not enough reason for you to consider marriage. Years later, you will still be stuck with the person of their dreams, who might not be the person of your dreams.


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    5. Sheer habit


    If a couple has been living together for years and sort of drift into marriage, it could still work. But where sheer force of habit gets dangerous, is where a couple, who have already married and divorced, decide to give it a second try. If it didn't work the first time round, it's not going to work the second time.


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    6. Wanting children


    Right, wanting kids is a strong driving force for many people. But would you want to bring those kids up in a situation that was less than ideal? Point is, when the kids have grown up, you're still stuck with this person. No one's perfect, but at least get a father for your children that you can like and respect.


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    7. Marrying someone with whom you've had an affair


    There are cases in which this can work, but generally this is not a good basis for a long-term relationship. Conducting an affair is a very different kettle of fish to keeping a marriage going. Get hitched with your lover only if you are confident that you'll be happy with him for the rest of your life.

    Even if there's a slight niggling thought in your mind, then don't go all the way with him.


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    8. Needing a father for your child


    If you get the right person, congratulations. But if you hesitate, don't do this. It is worse for your child to have a horrible stepfather or stepmother, than it is to have only one parent, who is good to them.


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    9. Social pressure


    All your friends are tying the knot. So be it. Ignore the relatives who ask you when you're getting married. You're better off alone than with someone who makes you miserable. Don't lower your standards simply because you want to be married. Remember, 40 years is a long time to feel irritated.

    So, be careful and consider all your options before marrying someone.


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    i agree maam... all of them are really wrong reasons..if someone marry for these reasons they are sure going to repent later..

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    Excellent bad reasons!!! SHoud be avoided.........

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    Marriage should never be done for money or sex!!!
    Because that wont last long

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    A good thread maam as usual!! Hope people dont do these
    agony aunt, marriage advice, relationship help, online agony aunt, relationship advice

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    These marriages will be total failures!!!!!!!!!

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    Fantastic thread Preetoji Sadly most of the marriages that happen has one or more of these points mentioned and they either fail or just stick to each other just for the sake of rep/etc
    It's the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life so interesting. . .

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