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    My BF Had agirlfriend earlier (not now)..he recently confssed this to me saying they hd evn sex also
    now i dnt kno wat to do next.. i didnt say nething to him till now coz im confused and sad..

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    Look, I agree that its very hard to think of your partner sharing his/her body with any other person but you, but you also know that it was in the past. Not just that, but your BF trusted you enough to tell you about it.

    So, let the past remain in the past, stop obsessing with it and carry on with life.
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    Hi

    Why do girls do this all the time...

    First they grill the poor guy into confessing about his previous girlfriend,

    then they grill him some more and get him to describe what she looked like and

    as if that was not enough they probe further if he ever slept with him!!!! And if the poor fellow thought that was the end of it.... think again...

    WHY WHY WHY

    Reasons for probe - few possibilities

    So that they can can taunt him for the rest of their time together!!

    Send him on a guilt trip on regular intervals

    So that they can torture themselves thinking about him with another woman

    Regularly remind him how lucky he is to get a virgin girlfriend..

    Of course you are sad and confused.... Every girl wants to hear the man say to her that she is his first and last love.. sorry to say.. it doesn't happen often with our generation much these days..

    Even if he would have lied about it, you would not have believed him.. There's nothing much you can do now about the past. If this thing upsets you so much leave him and move on in life..

    But please dont stick to him and use this information to taunt him and torture yourself... as the relationship will be doomed due to lack of trust and faith sooner or later.

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    Quote Originally Posted by it matters to me View Post
    So that they can torture themselves thinking about him with another woman

    Of course you are sad and confused.... Every girl wants to hear the man say to her that she is his first and last love.. sorry to say.. it doesn't happen often with our generation much these days..
    Very well thought out and nice reply
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    you can do one thing make a time machine and go back and stop him and if u cant then just live with it cause nothing can be done so its better to remain calm

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    You have to take a decision, remaining confused is not solution!! If his confession is honest, if he will not repeat it in future then u can trust him!!
    Nothing wrong in it
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    Quote Originally Posted by it matters to me View Post
    Hi

    Why do girls do this all the time...

    First they grill the poor guy into confessing about his previous girlfriend,

    then they grill him some more and get him to describe what she looked like and

    as if that was not enough they probe further if he ever slept with him!!!! And if the poor fellow thought that was the end of it.... think again...

    WHY WHY WHY

    Reasons for probe - few possibilities

    So that they can can taunt him for the rest of their time together!!

    Send him on a guilt trip on regular intervals

    So that they can torture themselves thinking about him with another woman

    Regularly remind him how lucky he is to get a virgin girlfriend..

    Of course you are sad and confused.... Every girl wants to hear the man say to her that she is his first and last love.. sorry to say.. it doesn't happen often with our generation much these days..

    Even if he would have lied about it, you would not have believed him.. There's nothing much you can do now about the past. If this thing upsets you so much leave him and move on in life..

    But please dont stick to him and use this information to taunt him and torture yourself... as the relationship will be doomed due to lack of trust and faith sooner or later.
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    It was a very bad thing by him to go into physical relationship with another while he was in love with u... now its upto u to decide whether to forget and forgive or leave him
    u know him better than any of us.. so decide whether he is actually being sincere now and feeling guilty.

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    u can give him a chance if u want to.. else dump him. These two choices are tehre for u

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    first of all you did wrong. just remember whatever u heard about yr bf's past it only hurts so never ask anything about his past nor u told about yours. enjoy your present and talk about your future plans how relation can be taken in supreme height. Love hurts so dont ask everyone has past and in love nothing can be acceptable fairly. so just avoid whatever happened.

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    You have to analyze his confession.. how much honesty he has etc, then only it can be determined... iF u are of this type of person who gives good importance to trust, it will be hard for u to forgive

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    U may give him a chance.......

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    Since the incident happened earlier i think it can be ignored. (if u can do that). If you never cheated u after he confessed that show he means what he said

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    looks like an honest confession to me.. whether he will repeat it or not is beyond me and whether u can forgive him or not is upto u

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