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    Default Valentine Special! Why do we fall in love.

    Why do we fall in Love !!!

    "It is better to have loft and lost than to never have loft at all." — Groucho Marx




    What is Love?

    Romantic love both exhilarates and motivates us. It is also critical to the continuation of our species. Without the attachment of romantic love, we would live in an entirely different society that more closely resembled some (but not all) of those social circles in the animal world. The chemicals that race around in our brain when we're in love serve several purposes, and the primary goal is the continuation of our species. Those chemicals are what make us want to form families and have children. Once we have children, those chemicals change to encourage us to stay together to raise those children. So in a sense, love really is a chemical addiction that occurs to keep us reproducing.



    We all have a template for the ideal partner buried somewhere in our subconscious. It is this love map that decides which person in that crowded room catches our eye. But how is this template formed?

    Appearance

    Many researchers have speculated that we tend to go for members of the opposite sex who remind us of our parents. Some have even found that we tend to be attracted to those who remind us of ourselves. In fact, cognitive psychologist David Perrett, at the University of St. Andrews in Scotland, did an experiment in which he morphed a digitized photo of the subject's own face into a face of the opposite sex. Then, he had the subject select from a series of photos which one he or she found most attractive. According to Dr. Perrett, his subjects always preferred the morphed version of their own face (and they didn't recognize it as their own).

    Personality
    Like appearance, we tend to form preferences for those who remind us of our parents (or others close to us through childhood) because of their personality, sense of humor, likes and dislikes, etc.

    Pheromones
    The debated topic of human pheromones still carries some weight in the field of love research. The word "pheromone" comes from the Greek words pherein and hormone, meaning "excitement carrier".

    In the animal world, pheromones are individual scent "prints" found in urine or sweat that dictate sexual behavior and attract the opposite sex. They help animals identify each other and choose a mate with an immune system different enough from their own to ensure healthy offspring. They have a special organ in their noses called the vomeronasal organ (VNO) that detects this odorless chemical.

    The existence of human pheromones was discovered in 1986 by scientists at the Chemical Senses Center in Philadelphia and its counterpart in France. They found these chemicals in human sweat. A human VNO has also been found in some, but not all, people. Even if the VNO isn't present in all of us -- and may not be working in those who do have it -- there is still evidence that smell is an important aspect of love (note the booming perfume industry). An experiment was conducted where a group of females smelled the unwashed tee shirts of a group of sweaty males, and each had to select the one to whom she was most "attracted." Just like in the animal world, the majority of the females chose a shirt from the male whose immune system was the most different from their own.


    Staring Into Each Other's Eyes

    Professor Arthur Aron, of the State University of New York at Stonybrook, has studied what happens when people fall in love and has found that simply staring into each other's eyes has tremendous impact. In an experiment he conducted, Professor Aron put strangers of the opposite sex together for 90 minutes and had them discuss intimate details about themselves. He then had them stare into each other's eyes for four minutes without talking. The results? Many of the subjects felt a deep attraction for their partner after the experiment, and two even ended up getting married six months later.

    "Mujhe likhkar kahi mehefus karlo
    Tumhari baato se nikalta ja raha hun mai..!"

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    ...Alternate Theory...

    Falling in love is a magical experience that happens between two people. So why do people fall in love? Professor Arthur Aron from State University of New York at Stonybrook has been exploring the dynamics of what happens when two people are falling in love:


    Q: What motivates people to seek out love?
    A: Our primary motivation as human beings is to expand the self and to increase our abilities and our effectiveness. One of the ways we accomplish this is through our relationships with other people. We have learned in our research that it is important to feel that you have the ability to be an effective person, especially in our relationships.

    Q: How does this theory of self-expansion explain the process of falling in love?
    A: Usually, we fall in love with a person that we find attractive and appropriate for us, but also someone who demonstrates that they are attracted to us. This creates a situation where a great opportunity is open to us for self-expansion. The fact that they are attracted to us offers a significant opportunity — when we perceive this, we feel a surge of exhilaration!

    Q: Does it always work this way?
    A: No, an interesting exception to this occurs if we feel badly about ourselves. The process gets thrown off if we can't believe that another persons finds us attractive — like the Groucho Marx joke where we don't want to belong to a club that would have us for a member. We tend to miss out on opportunities for falling in love if we don't feel good about ourselves.

    Q: What conditions are best for meeting someone and falling in love?
    A: When you meet someone under conditions that are highly arousing — a political demonstration, turbulence on a plane, a stimulating performance — a time when the body is stirred up and excited, we tend to experience attraction at a heightened level. This effect is well documented but the explanations for it are very controversial. I tend to believe that we come to associate the arousal of the situation with this person and our own self-expansion.

    Q: When do we fall in love?
    A: Contrary to what most people think, the statistics show that most people fall in love with someone that they have known for a while. People only report falling in love quickly about 1/3 to 40 percent of the time. Of course, this varies from culture to culture. Falling in love happens differently between cultures but it does occur in most cultures.

    Q: How does our appearance factor into the equation of falling in love?
    A: This is interesting; we have found that if you are very unattractive, it can hurt you a lot in forming romantic relationships. However, being attractive doesn't help that much.

    Q: How do you explain that?
    A: We have found that two important characteristics, kindness and intelligence, are extremely important in the process of falling in love. And attractiveness is not connected to these things. These two attributes are things that people learn about someone from knowing them over time. Intelligence is important in all aspects of life, especially in love. But kindness is the strongest indicator for a successful long-term relationship.


    "Mujhe likhkar kahi mehefus karlo
    Tumhari baato se nikalta ja raha hun mai..!"

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    ...Best Of Luck All of You For Valentine...


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    nice thread karan keep it up

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    we fall in luv for a purpose
    the purpose can be luv, care, sex or money

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    Q: When do we fall in love?
    A: Contrary to what most people think, the statistics show that most people fall in love with someone that they have known for a while. People only report falling in love quickly about 1/3 to 40 percent of the time. Of course, this varies from culture to culture. Falling in love happens differently between cultures but it does occur in most cultures.
    still not a satisfying answer for the question....
    I Hope They Remember You...



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    For a long time it was believed that love originates in heart, which is not true actually and it is now proved that it happens in mind
    So next time offer your gf your "Mind" not your "heart(it has got nothing to do with love)"

    For example, instead of sending picture of some "heart" send this :

    It's the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life so interesting. . .

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    We fall in love because we all have an innate desire to have someone to love and belong to us (and us to them). It makes us feel important, doted on and treasured..... as if there's a sweet purpose to life and we mean something to someone. So it's deeply connected to our self-esteem and sense of purpose in life. So we continue seeking approval from others, consciously or unconsciously, throughout our lifetimes.... starting from our childhood when we seek love from parents/guardians/elders and siblings/friends, to youth when we look for a companion who would belong exclusively to us..... and goes on for the rest of our lives, which mainly involves developing relations with other individuals.

    Ummm...... do I sound lame already?

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    i dont know man that is big question for me ..........i'm still thinking

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    we shud rise in love...not fall?

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    thnx 4 sharing

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    you know what is love????????????

    pls read my signature..................
    Nothing is permanent in this World....

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    hmmm many views are here but every one has its own philosphy on love...
    So dont care yaar...

    and Thanx for repp and replies....
    "Mujhe likhkar kahi mehefus karlo
    Tumhari baato se nikalta ja raha hun mai..!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by wonderkid View Post
    We fall in love because we all have an innate desire to have someone to love and belong to us (and us to them). It makes us feel important, doted on and treasured..... as if there's a sweet purpose to life and we mean something to someone. So it's deeply connected to our self-esteem and sense of purpose in life. So we continue seeking approval from others, consciously or unconsciously, throughout our lifetimes.... starting from our childhood when we seek love from parents/guardians/elders and siblings/friends, to youth when we look for a companion who would belong exclusively to us..... and goes on for the rest of our lives, which mainly involves developing relations with other individuals.

    Ummm...... do I sound lame already?
    No sweetheart, this isn't lame. You've put it pretty well and it is right
    It's the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life so interesting. . .

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