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    Dear preeto mam,
    Please help me as i dnt know whom i shall go and seek help other than you. I am 27 yr old female and its been almost 4 months that i hv been married. It was a love cum arrange mrg and we love each other a lot. My husband is just perfect in everythng n cares for me a lot. Aftr mrg, we have had many passionate moments but no sex. Earlier my husband atleast used to try for sex but i think due to nervousness, unknowingness etc we never succeeded. I think he also ejaculates too early. But he is quite an introvert and does not talk opening abt sexual related matters even if i try to. Now a days we only end up in foreplay and he never even try for it. I dnt know wats wrong with him. Please help me with this.
    Please tell me isnt it wierd that aftr 4 months we r still virgin??
    I also convinced him and saw a porn flick with him thinking it may help but it also didnt help. He seem to hv forgotten that its an imp part of married life and it happens. I dnt feel like telling him directly that i want to have sex, please atleast try.
    Please tell me wat to do. Pleaseeeeeeeee help

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    Hmmm, there could be a multitude of reasons here. Your husband may have performance anxiety, or he may be asexual, or having a premature ejaculation problem. Basically, you do need to see a counsellor about the issue, and whatever the reason may be, it can be worked out.

    I know it may be difficult for you to broach the subject, but do talk to him about the expectations you have as a wife, and your concern about making your marriage a good one.

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    Is there any way by which i can make him realise without telling him directly?

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    This could be anything from a physical problem to or some fear, shyness etc for sex!! Only with his help this can be solved.
    Since u are not willing to talk about this urself, take the help of a doctor!! That will bring more effective solutions too!! By this u can find out also whats wrong
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    This is very much abnormal...so first thng to do is to ask him directly. You can do it with out hurting him. Ask something like -are you unwell? is it why you avoid sex? tell me whats wrong etc..
    That will let u have a beginning point of conversation and by that u can force him to go to the doctor as well

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    Passionate moments are a good sign to show that he has atleast sex drive left.... i doubt he is afraid of something. Perhaps lacking confidence or some problem with his body etc.
    Either talk to him to find it or take him to a doctor

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    GO BUY some NICE AND HOT CLOTHES THAT WOULD MAKE YOUR HUSBAND GO WILD


    or

    U EMPTY A BOTTLE OF VIAGRA IN HIS EVENING TEA
    THIS WILL MAKE YOU HAVE SEX TILL MORNING

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    hi moist
    whatever preeto told you is almost good.
    I know a person, one of my friend, he also love married, and one day he told me that he feel a very strange feeling when ready to have sex and that feeling makes him calm and he can not do sex, it can happen sometimes.
    if you can not say him directly, you must talk to your mother about that, then she will talk to your father or your husband's mother, then if the matter reache your husband's father then he can guide him well,
    may God bless u

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    You need to start getting him to talk about sex in general, for as you rightly mentioned, it is an important part of married life. Premature ejaculation will take a long time to cure, but is curable. Try googling some methods.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loveguru83 View Post
    hi moist
    whatever preeto told you is almost good.
    I know a person, one of my friend, he also love married, and one day he told me that he feel a very strange feeling when ready to have sex and that feeling makes him calm and he can not do sex, it can happen sometimes.
    if you can not say him directly, you must talk to your mother about that, then she will talk to your father or your husband's mother, then if the matter reache your husband's father then he can guide him well,
    may God bless u
    Bringing this up through this route will completely crust the man's ego. Not advisable.

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    well d reaction of ur husband is strange.
    but in any relationship d conversation plays a vital role.
    v r livein in 21st century, u must leave ur shyness, so must talk 2 ur husband on dis issue.
    it is very imp 2 have a chat wid ur husband, only den u can solve d matter & can live a happy life.

    bEST oF lUCK.............

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