Fiance is fat(115kg) afraid of sex....

shweta_25(jaipur) · 25-02-2010, 02:19 PM

My wedding is fixed, fiance and family are good.
But he is very fat and overweight. He told me once he is 115 kilos now and will reduce weight slowly after marriage... but i am afaird that during sex he will hurt me. WHen i think about having sex with him, the thought is suffocating me. What shall i do? is it too late to tell my parents that they should find another boy for me?

**prakash27** · 25-02-2010, 02:57 PM

YOu dont have to be so much afraid!! IF everything fails try some position in which u will not have to feel his weight
Like woman on top etc!!
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**bhushan1982** · 25-02-2010, 03:48 PM

How many months you have now for the marriage? If its more than 2 you have some time to get him reduce the weight. Make him join a gym, push him to lose weight. If u encourage him daily, he will be interested in doing it in an attempt to please you...

**anandjain** · 25-02-2010, 03:55 PM

Originally Posted by shweta_25(jaipur)

My wedding is fixed, fiance and family are good.
But he is very fat and overweight. He told me once he is 115 kilos now and will reduce weight slowly after marriage... but i am afaird that during sex he will hurt me. WHen i think about having sex with him, the thought is suffocating me. What shall i do? is it too late to tell my parents that they should find another boy for me?

I think its better u make him lose wieight bfore marriage itself !!

DOnt wait for post-marriage time as he said

Because he may be lazy after that

On the other hand now he will do anything for u !!

You have to only ask him

Say your demand as a weight between 75-85. That will be fine !!

**FeeDback** · 25-02-2010, 04:09 PM

Originally Posted by shweta_25(jaipur)

My wedding is fixed, fiance and family are good.
But he is very fat and overweight. He told me once he is 115 kilos now and will reduce weight slowly after marriage... but i am afaird that during sex he will hurt me. WHen i think about having sex with him, the thought is suffocating me. What shall i do? is it too late to tell my parents that they should find another boy for me?

He is not overweight, he is obese perhaps moderately obese. It can give rise to numerous diseases most important being Cardiovascular.

**number1** · 25-02-2010, 04:14 PM

Dont get tensed!!! Its not as difficult as u think
Losing weight has become like a fashion now!!! simply join some weight lose centers. THey charge you for the kilos u lose!!!
Like if you have to lose 5 kilos then its RsXYZ etc. Contact ur nearest center

**malik791** · 25-02-2010, 04:59 PM

WEIGHT HAVE NO ROLE IN SEX!
HAPPY MARRIAGE & ENJOY!

**Roger69** · 25-02-2010, 05:10 PM

I have seen some ad on big hoardings of One Beauty treatement Company, I think its vlcc or something, where person looses weight upto 20-25 kg in couple of months. check the authenticity of the same and ask him to join.

**champaklal** · 26-02-2010, 01:31 AM

Originally Posted by shweta_25(jaipur)

My wedding is fixed, fiance and family are good.
But he is very fat and overweight. He told me once he is 115 kilos now and will reduce weight slowly after marriage... but i am afaird that during sex he will hurt me. WHen i think about having sex with him, the thought is suffocating me. What shall i do? is it too late to tell my parents that they should find another boy for me?

You shouldn't have said a yes, when you found he was too obese. Depending on his height, he'd have a range which would be considered healthy, so try to find that, and ask him to reduce weight before marriage.
It so happens that people usually gain weight after marriage.

Under no circumstance, it is good to dump him, just because he's too fat. It'd be callous and shortsighted.

regards,
Chmpk

**Momme** · 26-02-2010, 01:45 AM

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**Harii_Puttar** · 26-02-2010, 06:24 PM

Originally Posted by Momme

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**one4all** · 27-02-2010, 02:23 AM

During talk with him bring up this subject... If he feels like you are worried about it, he will try to reduce weight..
Men also dont like to be called as overweight just like women

**patelyash** · 27-02-2010, 10:05 PM

Weight loss program will work. At beginning it will take some time.
But slowly u will begin to lose weight if u keep the work on

**Madanjit** · 28-02-2010, 12:12 PM

You can try one sex position for this situation. Lie on your sides on the bed and then try to have sex from forward or behind sideways. That will help in avoiding body weight over u

**siddharth3.5** · 01-03-2010, 12:05 AM

This is exceses eight and must be reduced... else he will also have trouble. You will not be able to enjoy sex properly.. do anything to make him undergo some workou