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    Hello Mam!

    I am in big problem and needs your help. Mam, I am 22 and working in an esteemed Multinational company from last 1 year. Before 6 months, one of my senior (who used to be with me in the same office whole day with 4 other people), contacted me and said that He likes me so much infact he loves me and keep noticing me whole day like way of talking, how I walk etc etc. As he is married so I got disturbed and didn't answered. But, As the passage of time I don't know how I got attracted towards him and ultimately fallen in pure love with him. I told him and we became very good friends as well. We used to talk with each other in good envoirnment. We used to keep in touch on the cell phone etc. He also loves me so much and such a nice person he is. But Mam, I felt like doing something wrong with his wife and kid. In this period we even didn't touched each other but both of us are realy became crazy for each other. I can't live without him but he is married, and father of a son also. I just can't live without him, but can't be his life partner.This is killing me. I don't know how to cope with the situation because I will get married after 7 or 8 months. But really can't imagine of any other guy in my life. Mam please suggest what to do? I need your sincere advise.

    Thank you so much in advance!!!!!!

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    Hi there,

    well child, I cant say that I really blame you as much as this guy who should have though a million times before approaching you. Not only is he being unfaithful to his wife, but is all set to take you through an emotional merry go round.

    My sincere suggestion is to distance yourself from him as fast as you can. he is not going to jeopardise his marriage for you and before yoyu know it, you will be so involved that its going to cause nothing but pain to extricate yourself.

    So, it will be hard now, but better than a messy situation later.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    Hello Mam!

    I am in big problem and needs your help. Mam, I am 22 and working in an esteemed Multinational company from last 1 year. Before 6 months, one of my senior (who used to be with me in the same office whole day with 4 other people), contacted me and said that He likes me so much infact he loves me and keep noticing me whole day like way of talking, how I walk etc etc. As he is married so I got disturbed and didn't answered. But, As the passage of time I don't know how I got attracted towards him and ultimately fallen in pure love with him. I told him and we became very good friends as well. We used to talk with each other in good envoirnment. We used to keep in touch on the cell phone etc. He also loves me so much and such a nice person he is. But Mam, I felt like doing something wrong with his wife and kid. In this period we even didn't touched each other but both of us are realy became crazy for each other. I can't live without him but he is married, and father of a son also. I just can't live without him, but can't be his life partner.This is killing me. I don't know how to cope with the situation because I will get married after 7 or 8 months. But really can't imagine of any other guy in my life. Mam please suggest what to do? I need your sincere advise.

    Thank you so much in advance!!!!!!

    You say that you can't have any other man in your life and you are also saying that you are getting married in 6 months.

    Isn't it a paradox??

    You can think about you afterwards, but just think about the person you are going to marry. You don't have any right to spoil his life. He is completely ignorant about your love.

    So, first I suggest you to break your marriage. You say there are 6 months and that is ample time to cancel your marriage.

    Now, coming to the person in your office.

    Did he say that he loves you so much that he can give his wife divorce????

    I think the person wants to use you sexually. If you continue this, you will be helping him to betray his wife and son. You will also be breaking a family.


    I am not saying this to make you feel guilty, but just think about his son atleast if not his wife.

    My suggestion is stay away from him. Don't have any contact with him, not even an SMS.

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    YOu have to understand one important factor here !!

    This guy do not have any good intention

    When he was complimenting u on the way u walk talk etc and when he is trying to make u an emotional slave he sure had bad motives

    He is bad and dangerous !!

    He is ch3eating his wife and family and his little son

    You are not innocnet at all, you did the same or worse things too

    You knew he is married but u wanted to steal him from his wife and son

    Even now u dont realize u are doing wrong

    Control urself till marriage, after that lets hope u will forget this guy

    Till that period dont go near him

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    well a guy who is never faithful to his wife and son will be never loyal to u tooo........ when someone more beautiful girl comes in his life he'll forget u also....like it or not thats the fact....
    dont waste ur time and enegry on useless fellas who cant give anything to u.... go and get married


    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    Hello Mam!

    I am in big problem and needs your help. Mam, I am 22 and working in an esteemed Multinational company from last 1 year. Before 6 months, one of my senior (who used to be with me in the same office whole day with 4 other people), contacted me and said that He likes me so much infact he loves me and keep noticing me whole day like way of talking, how I walk etc etc. As he is married so I got disturbed and didn't answered. But, As the passage of time I don't know how I got attracted towards him and ultimately fallen in pure love with him. I told him and we became very good friends as well. We used to talk with each other in good envoirnment. We used to keep in touch on the cell phone etc. He also loves me so much and such a nice person he is. But Mam, I felt like doing something wrong with his wife and kid. In this period we even didn't touched each other but both of us are realy became crazy for each other. I can't live without him but he is married, and father of a son also. I just can't live without him, but can't be his life partner.This is killing me. I don't know how to cope with the situation because I will get married after 7 or 8 months. But really can't imagine of any other guy in my life. Mam please suggest what to do? I need your sincere advise.

    Thank you so much in advance!!!!!!

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    The stupidity in what u are doing is clear in what you have said!! You are loving a married man and that too in ur office
    Its really a bad idea!! Dont destroy their family, find another guy for urself
    When he began to get close to u, he has proved he is a cheat
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    The main mistake here is you can never call this a love
    Its a mistake. He is doing a mistake and you are repeating the same mistake.
    Now, whether u want to correct ur wrong doing or want to be a victim of it for ever, is completely ur choice. My suggestion is for correcting urself, and through that correct that man also

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    Hi

    Just picture yourself getting married after 6-7 months and having a baby after a year.... and just when you thought life was settled... you heard about your husband having an affair with her colleague in his office!!!

    Ask him few questions which will help you to reduce the confusion you are feeling and might even help you to get over him asap

    - is he ready to leave his wife and child for you
    - Does his wife knows about you and him
    - Is he ready to marry you
    - Are your parents aware of this and is he ready to go and meet them and tell them that he wants to marry you
    - Does he mind being seen with you as a couple in the office and outside
    - Is he ready to introduce you to his parents

    What you are doing is crime in legal terms and I am not sure about the Indian law, but I m sure his wife can take him to court for negligence and having an emotional affair outside their marriage with you.. And dont think that you will be spared in all the mud slinging!

    Have no words for that looser and cheating boyfriend of yours but Try not to be the reason of destroying another woman's home and your own future..





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    how can he be good if he is cheating his wife?

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    i fully agree wid ROSALIE
    the best option is to quit frm this relation

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    i am sorry mam am really sorry but i need to ask u this.... are u really dumb?

    dont mind it but ur acting really dumb in here... and i wonder y?

    ur calling him a good man " a married man being a father of one comes up to u saying he loves u.... & he is a good man... a man hu is cheating his own wife his child and ofcourse u...is good... thats really dumb

    if at all ur going to say... when love happens one doesnt have control over it..it just happens...... ok it can be the case but when .... when two ppl are real close to each other, been talking and discussing things... have a bond and gradually things change into love .. a married man doesnt have scope for love at first sight.... hope u get it.. in here he had been observing u..... each and every move of urs...was w8ing for the right time to appraoch u and so he did.... he played his card very safe..... and succeeded in that..... wonder how cudnt u think on these lines......

    u feel doing something wrong with his wife and kid....... in here u dont have to feel u shud be sure that u are...... no one likes to have a broken relationship be it for whatever reason...... and specially no one likes to have a broken marriage..... u urself are not liking it ..... when u know one day u have to part ways with him..... than how can u just feel... u shud know.....ur worng.........

    u know u cant be his life partner.... nor he wud have thought of makinng u one... anyways when u know things aint going to work..... when things dont have future its better to leave them in present and let them be ur past...... becuase its our future what we work to make better... and u know u dont have future with him... what are u w8ing for... leave him.... how can u not know ... what to do....

    u cant live without him and ur going to be married in six months.... when things are in a mess u need to clear the mess first before thinking of going in another.... in here when u say u cant live without him..... how can u say yes to someone for getting married with..... where does that relation stand than...... have u heard "first things first"..... let go off this married guy and than think of going in another.... how can u just walk into things without giving it a thought....

    u have done nothing which makes sense......

    be clear that guy is in love but not with the person u are.... but the body that u have..... he wants u on bed as simple as that...... he wont leave his wife and definately will not marry u..... he knows ur dumb after all his observation ... & he feels u to be a easy catch.... get it right...
    its better u call this relation off.... as it is u know this relation doesnt hold a future.... so dont go in for more agony just call it off....

    if poss postpone ur marriage... get in terms with it..... get sensible.... think what u want.... get a proper state of miind and than think of getting married.....

    all the best

    god bless u
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    U r gonna get married remember this . ..

    Change ur job . . there are 100 of jobs

    stop talkin to him . .dont worry he will flirt with ur replacement too .

    look towards ur future
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    Why don't you looh for somebody single. the path you are trying leads to unhappiness all around.
    You need NOT to spend so much time with that guy, get another job if possible, and leave a married man alone.
    If he cheats on HER with YOU, he's going to "cheat" on you with his wife, too.
    He's never going to leave her for you, so get that idea out of your head.
    You will ALWAYS be the homewrecking other woman.

    There is little chance he is ever going to leave his wife and I wonder what he tells her about you. ??? There is no future, what if it goes on, he is with his family for holidays and you sit alone waiting for that little time he can get away from them.

    You need to respect and think more of yourself than this.

    Don't put your feelings above right and wrong,you lose. When you play with fire you will
    always get burned. You will suffer the consequences of your actions.

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    Default give it a thought..

    well at first i feel it's the guys mistake, tat though he is married he never thought of what he is doin.. neva thought that he would ruining three life's including ur's and his family's.. The only and best way is to end this relation i know it may sound cruel are may b painful bt tat's the rite thing to do.. trust me u would feel proud in future tat u wer nt the reason to ruin someone's married life.. tc n gudlck..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    Hello Mam!

    I am in big problem and needs your help. Mam, I am 22 and working in an esteemed Multinational company from last 1 year. Before 6 months, one of my senior (who used to be with me in the same office whole day with 4 other people), contacted me and said that He likes me so much infact he loves me and keep noticing me whole day like way of talking, how I walk etc etc. As he is married so I got disturbed and didn't answered. But, As the passage of time I don't know how I got attracted towards him and ultimately fallen in pure love with him. I told him and we became very good friends as well. We used to talk with each other in good envoirnment. We used to keep in touch on the cell phone etc. He also loves me so much and such a nice person he is. But Mam, I felt like doing something wrong with his wife and kid. In this period we even didn't touched each other but both of us are realy became crazy for each other. I can't live without him but he is married, and father of a son also. I just can't live without him, but can't be his life partner.This is killing me. I don't know how to cope with the situation because I will get married after 7 or 8 months. But really can't imagine of any other guy in my life. Mam please suggest what to do? I need your sincere advise.

    Thank you so much in advance!!!!!!
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