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    Hi Preeto Maam hope u are doing fine

    I am 19yrs old girl and my prorblem is i get easily influenced by others.. i mean by everybody

    Its like when my parents or relatives or my brother or anybody elder say something i agree to it and go by their choice leaving my decision
    Even when i know my view are correct i cant reject them and get influenced thus

    Please tell me how i can also be of strong character like others??? Is it possible? whats wrong with me and i want to know also how i can solve it. Thanks Maam

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    You know the best thing when alternate views are expressed, is not to jump to any conclusion right away but to think about them for sometime and reach your own conclusions. the reason that you are getting so easily influenced is because you are too hasty to REACH a conclusion. Wait! listen to everyone! Think about it and then form your opinion and course of action!

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    I agree with Maam's opinion!! Llisten to others ideas, and think about those. Then compare with yours. Then choose the best.
    Just because somebody said something, you dont have to accept it fullly!!
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    THis may be slightly related with lack of self confidence and a feeling of inferiority. Believe in yourself and your ability to analyze a situation. What can you lose at the most? Yeah, may be your decision will prove to be wrong. But isnt that a learning opportunity? If one is afraid of even setting foot on the first step, fearing slipping and falling down, how can he reach the summit?

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    For some time period ignore everybody else's opinion
    Its not the wise thing to do, but it will help you to concentrate on ur ideas and thoughts and will make u feel like independent

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    u are 19 yr old and still get influence from others?????....try to take the right decision..while taking decision think its loss and profit by your own...and tell that to ur freinds,ralatives,parents for which they are taking some other decision...be mature enough mature...

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    Dont ask anybody for any opinion from now on. Tell them only after u do a thing

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    This can be solved only if u are ready to push yourself to stop it
    Whether ur decision is good or bad, simply choose it for sometime till u gain confidence

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    Well I'd say..its not bad if you listen or follow your parents or your brother's advice now...They'd never misguide you. But at the same time, you must start to think about your decisions. The one thing that you can do is lay your decision before your family members and ask for their advice. Just see what they've to say on it, and then go further. Don't worry, nothing is wrong with you. With time, you'll start to be like your parents and will soon make some wise choices for yourself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nimmy-J View Post
    Hi Preeto Maam hope u are doing fine

    I am 19yrs old girl and my prorblem is i get easily influenced by others.. i mean by everybody

    Its like when my parents or relatives or my brother or anybody elder say something i agree to it and go by their choice leaving my decision
    Even when i know my view are correct i cant reject them and get influenced thus

    Please tell me how i can also be of strong character like others??? Is it possible? whats wrong with me and i want to know also how i can solve it. Thanks Maam
    Last edited by unbeatable_virus; 13-04-2010 at 02:38 AM.

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    Whenever somebody try to influence u, keep distance fromthem

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    Dont think others are more expert than you.. They are also just like u, and in personal matters always chooose ur decision

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    One trick to try is not to take any more advice from anybody

    And go by ur decisions whether they are good or bad !!


    Or yu can do it in a step by step manner

    For example, limit ur dependency to only one person

    And take advvice from him only than listening to everybody !!

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    U can easily get over this problem. But for that higher level of confidence will be required. Try to believe in urself and that will give u confidence

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    COunselling will be best for you. Or your parents will have to spend a lot of time in giving you confidence. Probably you were always considered insignificant that you are feeling like this

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    If u really need advice or opinion, then dont take from everyone. Because if there are hundread people, they will have 100 different opinion. So choose one or maximum two people as ur close ones and take their advice only

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