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    hello Preeto Aunt, plz help me.

    I am 18.I have a bf who I love very much and we want to move to physical aspect of the relationship. the first time we talked about it i told him to give me some time but i want to do this and the only reason i keep on telling him is my past

    when i was 16 i was kind of raped by a guy in my school and then we had sex (with me full consent) a couple of times until i realized it was a mistake to do such thing at such an early stage

    now my bf doesn't know anything and I think it will be not right if i tell them it is my first time

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    Listen, don't go overboard with the confessions. Most guys aren't equipped to handle them. make sure that you don't get a backlash if you do confess.
    It takes a very, very sensitive guy to understand what it is that teh girl is communicating. mostly, they will look at it as if you have done a moral wrong and it may change their opinion of the girl.
    Do keep this in mind if you decide to confess up!

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    Guys are very possessive when it comes to their wives or girlfriends!! Revealing thsi the first day you meet your guy can be dangerous. But wait few days to find out if he is the type who can understand a confession. Then only do it!! Important thing is not to repeat it after u get married
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    Thumbs up Better tell the truth

    If ur BF loves u a lot he would accept u the way u are and if he does'nt than he is not the right person for U. If he comes to know about this later than he would be realloy upset and might also leave u so better tell him.

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    if u were raped then its not ur fault. Dont feel sad about this please

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    Please keep your BF updated with your desires

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    even if u tell about ur past,ur bf will probably not react..bcoz he still needs sex with u.. after getting satisfied a few times he will begin to show his negative shades..

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    It started as a crime, and turned into a pleasant mistake and finally you found out you were in the wrong path and corrected it. Thats the best one can do, you have acted in a responsible manner, atleast in the later stages. From your question, its clear that you do not have any such interest or any contact with that old person anymore, nor do you have any intention to continue it. That make you a pure soul. Everybody fall down atleast once in their lives. Some get up, and some prefer to lie in the mud, thats what make people different, thats what makes some special, and let me assure you that you belong to this group

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    u can tell if u want to be honest
    though most guys will not take it as a good thing

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    strange after doing mistake first time also u didnt improve , dont tell anything about ur past and ruin ur relationship and life , why are u so desperate to have sex ? he will also definatley have sex and leave u after having sex , huh , do anything u want, huh

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    Never let past haunt you, if it can, thats only becuse u let it to!!!
    Instead let the present charm you and let the future thrill you...

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    This is not the age to think and do all these things.Once you committed the mistake again you want to do it.Stay away from it and concentrate on your studies and have healthy hobbies.

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    Thats because u are letting it to harm you !!

    If u can forget about it and move on with ur life then the problems ends therre

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