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    Hello i got married 3 months ago and everything was going well.
    We had a good sex life too. But last week we were talking about our past and my wife told me upon questioning that she had a past love and had sex with him.
    I forgave her and told her its ok its old thing u dont have to worry.
    I hae a problem after that. I am unable to have sex with my wife after that day.

    we tried couple of times, but i am not getting a turn on or i am not even able to think of sex with wife. Is this linked with her confession? whats happening to me? please help us

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    Well, it does seem as if psychologically its got something to do with her confession. So, please don't force yourself. Give yourself time to deal with this piece of information and in the meanwhile just build on your relationship.

    You have to be very careful at this time that you dont let distances come in between you, but deal with each other wil love and care. If after some weeks you still cant get over it, then it may be wise to seek the help of a counsellor, but I do think that with love and understanding, you will be able to surmount this problem.

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    This is a psychological problem. Talk with a psychiatrist about what u are going through. The lack of interest will surely be curable with the right kind of therapy

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    Ok your mind is playing the villain here..
    Eventhough u say that u have forgiven her, her past affair is still worrying ur subconscious mind.

    Only way out of it is that you must accept the reality. Train ur mind by constantly telling it, nothing about past can be changed now. ALso she is completely loyal to you now. That must be enough reason for you to be happy

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    I think you have some thoughts like ur wife is now not 'pure' or something like that. If there are any such thouhgts, then it must be got ridden of. A psychiatrist can help u with it.

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    Try to forget what she told you. Also remember one thing, u are very lucky to have such a wife.
    she told u even such an old matter to u with out hiding it. That means she is trustworthy fully.

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    No need to think of her past. She was honest enough to confess her mistakes and yes let her live happily with you.She is honest and that is a great part of her

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    Then u must say this to her and to ur doctor
    Else she will think u are having some physical problem, while this is purely psychological

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    Right now, she loves u only. Also for a woman to reveal such matters, she must be having a good amouht of trust on the other person.
    So it means u should be happy that she feels that kind of freedom with u. For her it has become history, its time for u also to accept it

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    Spend more time with wife, Regain that love, trust, confidence etc.
    Then proceed. It might take some time, but its purelly a psychological issue. In case u cant solve it urself, see a doc

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    For some time forget about sex. Try to regain that old respect u had for each other.
    Remember, nothing has changed in ur wife. This problem occured after u heard what she told. But even when u didnt knew, she was the same person.

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    wow u r amazing buddy i really grow up sme respect for u bt ur wife she is also very loyal to you nd thts y she told u ths big thing so u should always respect her buddy try to forgrt her past nd enjoy ur life with her

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    See a psychiatrist. He will help u come out of this
    Its related to mind.

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    Need to believe like nothing happened
    Coz evenif u are saying this is all fine, inside u are deeply worried
    Dont hide ur worries, face it.

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    Make the atmosphere very calm and relaxed and try again.
    Avoid anything distracts you, or anything which will think of past. YOu will need a lot of control over ur mind to achieve it

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