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    Question Who should I marry? virgin or non-virgin when I am aready a virgin?

    Hi, I am Fuad, I am still virgin and I also want my life partner to be a virgin because I feel like being unjustified if I marry someone who is not virgin. Do I have any confusion about virginity? sometimes I feel I will never be able to tolerate if she is not virgin and sometimes I also feel that does it matter if she is not, because it's her mistake! then I again start thinking that if that mistake has never been done by me so why should I consider her mistake? How will I know she is virgin or not. I can't even imagine that my future life partner did sleep with somebody, I can't imagine the intimate situation. Girls in Bangladesh will never disclose this secret to someone she is going to marry and even they will never disclose it to their boyfriends as well thinking there could be a problem in their relationship if they reveal this secret. I don't know how I am thinking about this thing. Sometimes, when I think about any of my female close friend then I also feel that how would I get tough for her knowing she is not virgin, how can I be so mean again I think that no if she does not reveal it before I step ahead for a relation, I will feel like I am cheated.

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    If u believe virginity is important then marry a virgin only. Else u will spoil ur family life with suspicion and fights. Life should not be wasted like that

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    If u will take my advice forget this whole stuff... because u can not find out if a girl is virgin or not. All u can do is to believe what she says. How can u know a girl is not lying due to fear?

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    @Piyush: I would love to marry a virgin girl but what I can do if the girl I am going to marry is virgin or nor

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    @Joshepmark: Joshep you can get to know this at the very 1st night...whether her hymen exist or not doesn't matter but 1st time it will be hard for both of you to get ur p...s into the v....na becoz of virginity, and this is the straight forward answer by the 5 married man who got the luck to find a virgin girl in their life as a life partner....so it is easier to dtect virginity and medicall science also says to use 2 fingers to dtect virginity coz 2 finfers will never go easily into the vagina....
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    Hymen can not be trusted method for finding virginity. It can be broken through other activiteis too, like sports. So in effect there is no way u can determine virginity of girl

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    The hymen technique is not a reliable and sure-shot proof of virginity. Some scientists doubt the very existence of hymen in women. So there is no method to determine the virginity of a girl. The hymen can also be broken due to sports or masturbation. But this does not mean that the girl is not a virgin.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fuad2100 View Post
    Hi, I am Fuad, I am still virgin and I also want my life partner to be a virgin because I feel like being unjustified if I marry someone who is not virgin. Do I have any confusion about virginity? sometimes I feel I will never be able to tolerate if she is not virgin and sometimes I also feel that does it matter if she is not, because it's her mistake! then I again start thinking that if that mistake has never been done by me so why should I consider her mistake? How will I know she is virgin or not. I can't even imagine that my future life partner did sleep with somebody, I can't imagine the intimate situation. Girls in Bangladesh will never disclose this secret to someone she is going to marry and even they will never disclose it to their boyfriends as well thinking there could be a problem in their relationship if they reveal this secret. I don't know how I am thinking about this thing. Sometimes, when I think about any of my female close friend then I also feel that how would I get tough for her knowing she is not virgin, how can I be so mean again I think that no if she does not reveal it before I step ahead for a relation, I will feel like I am cheated.
    Ok ur concerns are understandable but i think u r going too much overboard with the issue..Even i m a virgin and wud love to hav a virgin wife but is there any need to lose my sleep over the topic?? All u can do is make a good, wise selection of a life partner and trust her...


    Quote Originally Posted by fuad2100 View Post
    @Joshepmark: Joshep you can get to know this at the very 1st night...whether her hymen exist or not doesn't matter but 1st time it will be hard for both of you to get ur penis into the vagina becoz of virginity, and this is the straight forward answer by the 5 married man who got the luck to find a virgin girl in their life as a life partner....so it is easier to dtect virginity and medicall science also says to use 2 fingers to dtect virginity coz 2 finfers will never go easily into the vagina....

    No its not that easy to find out...Atleast not unless the girl is a pornstar or something. And yeah it does not need 'luck' to get a virgin...The world isnt that bad u know...

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    Since you are virgin, then sure your wishes of having a virgin wife are perfectly justified. You deserve one. Keeping oneself chaste requires hard work and self-control, after all.
    Yes it's true that non-virgin girls do not prefer to disclose the truths to their husbands, but then all I can say is that you could only hope and pray that you get a girl who is pure and of your moral standards. There are still such girls left. Just be patient, choose carefully and hope for the best. Good luck!

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    @Wonderkid: Thank you for your comment, I have kept my virginity safe only because I want to get the pure one, and If I don't get that will definitely be disappointing, I of course pray but I also found some people whose wives are not pure though they were pure, is't it pathetic, it's a very hard to get them speak but I did every possible way to know the truth, it's actually frustrating....but yes I do pray. Western girls are honest in these cases that they mostly disclose the experience b4 marriage but countries like Bangladesh, girls will never reveal.....

    @Complete_Man: it's easy to say to go for a wise selection and if it was actully easy then take my responsibility on ur shoulder to find a pure one....And I am not saying the world is that much bad but most of the girls after graduation can't stay virgin, they get planty of time to lose virginity within those days.

    @Niva_srm: I studied about it more than u did, I am familiar with ur written lines they are not a new concept to me. All I want is to recommend u to study more, hymen is never the way to detect virgin I said somewhere that 2 fingers are enough to know.. got that??

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    I can actually understand your predicament, but i do feel that you only have your upbringing to blame for your current state of mind. Get this clear ok. Loosing virginity is not always a mistake. Moreover, it's one's personal matter and choice on how they felt on that precise moment of time. That personal choice, is something that should be respected by the future partner or it should be something that is never talked about .

    Now, what i suggest for you is that you come out of your shell and start socialising with lots of girls whilst having no expectations in mind . Hopefully you will come to realise that there are things much more beautiful than virginity such as acceptance for who a person is deep within, a fun loving character, intellect, persona and so on.
    Do what thou wilt and ye harm none

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    marry whomever u like, virginity not be the standard for getting a good wife. Look at her character instead

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