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    Hi Maam I am working in gulf since 5 yrs, i am 27, i am in friendship with a pakistani family i am in love with there doughter, but they are not allowing me to get marry, because iam indian. they say they can't visit there doughter any time they want due to india pakistan relationship, but the girls too loves me ...... please give me opinion what to what i am not able to concentarte on my work,

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    Well, what shall I say? Its sad that the diplomatic and political boundaries come in the way of love, but you know, they do have a point. Really, its a sad situation, but its best that you try and convince them that no matter where they marry their daughter, its not as if they'll be popping into her house that much- once she gets busy with her new life, she'll be able to spend only a limited time with them anyway.

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    he will not allow you, don't you think you should leave this issue here only.... common don't bring pain for yourself.

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    of course they have a solid reason for it..you have following choices..
    1. if u can have house in gulf and if you think you can manage everything after marriage living in gulf, not in India, then you can convince them in this manner..
    2. you should batter leave her soon, if u can not do anything as i said upper...becoz if u think urself on her place, if they say you to leave your parents and live with them in Pakistan then can you do it???

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    Well religion is the big thing and before you convince them think things through like what the kids will be and all that...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Noman quarshi View Post
    Hi Maam I am working in gulf since 5 yrs, i am 27, i am in friendship with a pakistani family i am in love with there doughter, but they are not allowing me to get marry, because iam indian. they say they can't visit there doughter any time they want due to india pakistan relationship, but the girls too loves me ...... please give me opinion what to what i am not able to concentarte on my work,
    Dam to love
    its so cruel sometimes
    bhai , just try to move on , it won't work
    religion is a huge matter , and the two countries as far as I
    know have lots of quarrel over such things , God bless you
    and her!!

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    As you are Indian, I believe you know how sensitive Indo-Pak relations have been in the past! If you are planning to live in India, you will have to end it here because what the girl's parents are saying is true. But if you are planning to live in the gulf, then you might have a chance because Pak and gulf have no volatile relations as such. Whatever your choice may be, think over it with a cool mind as this is a question of your life.
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    Dont lose hope. Try convince girl's parent and talk to your parents too. Explain them the whole situation and tell them to talk to girl's parent.. maybe they will be able to sort things out for you. Other thing you can do is ask the girl to convince her mother or sister and maybe if once the mother gets the confidence of the daughter then she may try and convince dad too. And you could suggest them that she will be living with you and not in India (i.e. if only you can afford her with you). Best of luck and keep trying. I am sure things will work out for you as its not a big hurdle

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    Quote Originally Posted by Noman quarshi View Post
    Hi Maam I am working in gulf since 5 yrs, i am 27, i am in friendship with a pakistani family i am in love with there doughter, but they are not allowing me to get marry, because iam indian. they say they can't visit there doughter any time they want due to india pakistan relationship, but the girls too loves me ...... please give me opinion what to what i am not able to concentarte on my work,
    I can only see few options for you:
    1. Forget about the girl
    2. Shift your base to Pakistan.
    3. Give them example of Sania Mirza and Shoaib Malik and try to convince them.
    4. Ask her to run away and marry you against parent's wishes.

    You can choose one that suits you.
    It's the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life so interesting. . .

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    Quote Originally Posted by MarHin View Post
    Dam to love
    its so cruel sometimes
    bhai , just try to move on , it won't work
    religion is a huge matter , and the two countries as far as I
    know have lots of quarrel over such things , God bless you
    and her!!
    Religion I don't think here is a matter as he said he is Indian but I am guessing Muslim by religion and girl is Muslim Pakistani or

    Hindu Indian and Hindu Pakistani.

    In short they both are of same religion.
    It's the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life so interesting. . .

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    Quote Originally Posted by FeeDback View Post
    Religion I don't think here is a matter as he said he is Indian but I am guessing Muslim by religion and girl is Muslim Pakistani or

    Hindu Indian and Hindu Pakistani.

    In short they both are of same religion.
    Hum , I don't know bhai I am not either Indian or Pakistani
    I just thought that when the family refuses marriage proposals
    when it comes to Indo paki thing just the matter
    of religion comes to my mind 1st before anything else !!

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    Quote Originally Posted by MarHin View Post
    Hum , I don't know bhai I am not either Indian or Pakistani
    I just thought that when the family refuses marriage proposals
    when it comes to Indo paki thing just the matter
    of religion comes to my mind 1st before anything else !!
    Well yeah, if it was religious conflict with add-on that they are from India and Pakistan, then it would have been almost impossible.

    But I am guessing they both are from same religion but different countries that too India and Pak, so yeah still a big thing but possible.
    It's the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life so interesting. . .

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    Quote Originally Posted by FeeDback View Post
    Well yeah, if it was religious conflict with add-on that they are from India and Pakistan, then it would have been almost impossible.

    But I am guessing they both are from same religion but different countries that too India and Pak, so yeah still a big thing but possible.
    Who knows ,maybe one day they both
    will be a married couple and will come here
    to tell us the whole story like the movie veer zara but with no
    saddy plot haha , God bless all inshallah ameen
    , we want the happiness for all

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    Convince girl's family that you will in gulf after marriage

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    Quote Originally Posted by FeeDback View Post
    I can only see few options for you:
    1. Forget about the girl
    2. Shift your base to Pakistan.
    3. Give them example of Sania Mirza and Shoaib Malik and try to convince them.
    4. Ask her to run away and marry you against parent's wishes.

    You can choose one that suits you.
    agree to all apart from 4th point

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