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    Hi Preeto;

    I got in touch with one of my schoolmates over one of the social networks a yr ago.Had a huge crush on her during schooldays but never had the guts to say her. I am now married with a kid and around 35 yrs in age.

    My thing is that I still carry the torch for her..and she is also married with a kid.I am in touch with her since then and the intensity has increased.She knows it very well that I am bonkers about her..period.Nothing much to be said from her side. I do not know how to take this ahead?

    Don't want to lose her as a friend either....but at the same time would like to have a serious relationship with her. Shall I explicitly tell her and its like make it or break it or just keep this silent love going as long as it goes?

    Regards;
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    Hey listen! Don’t play with your life and put your marriage and reputation on the line. Don’t tempt her to do so either. If it means a bit of a heartache now, take it and put a cap on these feelings of interest in her ASAP. Otherwise, you may both end up experiencing a lot of pain and trouble.
    Once these things get kick started, there’s no putting an end to them, and you both have to think about your families, don’t you?

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    Tell me one thing are you in your mind or out of your mind??? Both of yous are married and have a child. Also, like maam said don't play with your life and her life either. IF you do this you will ruin 6 lives altogether. I really don't know what you are doing this to your wife and child. They don't deserve this right. So STOP this ASAP.

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    its very natural to hold a torch for ur early romances ..... leave the torch there ,,,, and focus on being good friends with her..
    u have a wife and a kid who are dependent u ,pls do not cheat on them ..
    If u try n be explicit with her ..she might just run away ..and will it be worth to lose a schoolfriend ??

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    Com'on , you're a mature man so as she! You both are married , I suggest you in this case not to even maintain your friendship with her because hidden feelings might grow one day and you lose everything! Respect your wife and her husband and show some maturity so your little child would look up to you. Bless you.

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    hii u can just be friends with her... but if u are not able to overcome the craze for her,its better u stop talking to her.... else u would not be faithful to your wife & kid.
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    nice replies..... agree with these
    Quote Originally Posted by Preeto Maam View Post
    Hey listen! Don’t play with your life and put your marriage and reputation on the line. Don’t tempt her to do so either. If it means a bit of a heartache now, take it and put a cap on these feelings of interest in her ASAP. Otherwise, you may both end up experiencing a lot of pain and trouble.
    Once these things get kick started, there’s no putting an end to them, and you both have to think about your families, don’t you?
    Quote Originally Posted by shivani2121 View Post
    its very natural to hold a torch for ur early romances ..... leave the torch there ,,,, and focus on being good friends with her..
    u have a wife and a kid who are dependent u ,pls do not cheat on them ..
    If u try n be explicit with her ..she might just run away ..and will it be worth to lose a schoolfriend ??

    Live amongst people in such a manner that if you die they weep over you and if you are alive they crave for your company.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rajeev_in007 View Post
    Hi Preeto;

    I got in touch with one of my schoolmates over one of the social networks a yr ago.Had a huge crush on her during schooldays but never had the guts to say her. I am now married with a kid and around 35 yrs in age.

    My thing is that I still carry the torch for her..and she is also married with a kid.I am in touch with her since then and the intensity has increased.She knows it very well that I am bonkers about her..period.Nothing much to be said from her side. I do not know how to take this ahead?

    Don't want to lose her as a friend either....but at the same time would like to have a serious relationship with her. Shall I explicitly tell her and its like make it or break it or just keep this silent love going as long as it goes?

    Regards;
    Rajeev

    I suggest you leave her be (the sooner the better) you have little to gain, you can still go on loving her without ever staying in touch... your life is no longer yours to do as will, it equally belongs to your wife and child, bringing a third person into the equation wouldn't be fair on them at all. I'm sure this lady has absolutely nothing to offer that your partner doesn't already have, you just need to look harder... it's just a case of remapping your marriage and discovering whatever is creating the void and fulfilling it from within those boundaries. Wise-up, Be responsible ! Life is not always ha-ha-heheee !!

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    i think u sud get into touch with each of ur crush till date... then u sud decude to have an affair with each of them, then u sud become confused and stay put at home with ur wife

    ridiculous
    I need to stop saying to people, "How stupid can you be?".....they think it's a challenge!

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    I won't say much here. I will only share a thread with you.

    http://forum.santabanta.com/showthre...ing-unfaithful
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    Quote Originally Posted by rajeev_in007 View Post
    Hi Preeto;

    I got in touch with one of my schoolmates over one of the social networks a yr ago.Had a huge crush on her during schooldays but never had the guts to say her. I am now married with a kid and around 35 yrs in age.

    My thing is that I still carry the torch for her..and she is also married with a kid.I am in touch with her since then and the intensity has increased.She knows it very well that I am bonkers about her..period.Nothing much to be said from her side. I do not know how to take this ahead?

    Don't want to lose her as a friend either....but at the same time would like to have a serious relationship with her. Shall I explicitly tell her and its like make it or break it or just keep this silent love going as long as it goes?

    Regards;
    Rajeev

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    Stop being selfish.. you are going to ruin your married life as well as hers.. leave her in her life alone... and what if your wife had a crush on someone like this and want to meet that person and al.. how hurt you'll feel??? then how can you allow this hurt to your wife.... day by day things like afairs are increasing because we human we cant control ourself.. you call yourself a mture person at this age??? then y you taking decision like an imature person??

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    It is not a wise thought... stop talking to her... u have no right to flirt around.. u have kids.... do u knw d meaning of "shame"!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by wonderkid View Post
    I won't say much here. I will only share a thread with you.

    http://forum.santabanta.com/showthre...ing-unfaithful
    I wanted to paste this link too

    Bhai learn something from the above mentioned link

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