My sis is 22, I am 25 (girl). My sister has always looked up to me. We are hindu. She was falling in love with a muslim guy. So, she talked to us (family) and discussed. This was 1-2 yrs ago. We said no as we know that muslims are very rigid and try to use hindu girls etc. No offence, I hv muslim friends too but it is extremely difficult for us to have someone in the family with a different religion as they are very kattar. Anyway, my sis said ok and said she'll not say yes to him then. That was that. However, my sister is in medical college and this guy is in her class. So, she cannot avoid him. And she doesn;t even want to! We cannot do anything because we try to talk to her about him and ask her, she says " i dont want to answer thuis question"... she doesnt tell us anything. She says shes studying but she is with him all the time. Also, I found other evidences that she was with him which I dont want to discuss. It will do no good to tell my parents as she has already said to all of us tht if we do not support her, she will leave the house and shift somewhere else. We want to keep the family in tact. We do not want to lose her. As a sister, I am terribly hurt because i feel tht she didnt trust me to tell me the truth. She is constantly lying to us to be with him. What should I do? She asks for my suoport, and keeps her life totally hidden from us. I am really hurt. ... I want her to be happy but at least dont lie to us?
I cannot say tht i wont support you because i love her too much. and dont want to lose her.