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  • Arranged marriage

    13 56.52%
  • Love marriage

    10 43.48%
  • Live-in relationship

    5 21.74%
  • stay single

    4 17.39%
  • Can't say

    3 13.04%
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Thread: Which one is best? Arranged marriage, Love marriage, or LIVE-IN relationship?

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    Post Which one is best? Arranged marriage, Love marriage, or LIVE-IN relationship?


    Looking at the trend where a live-in relationship is much on the go in metropolitan cities. Which one do you support and favor?

    From a girls point of view:
    Girls with not so good looks are bound to have a arranged marriage, but is also seen to go through a love marriage if the guy is totally blind in love, which is altogether a different matter.

    For good looking girls, spectrum becomes a little broader. Lot of onlookers, lot of takers, main,, main.. main karoonga ... saadi, mujshe karle saadi... this also has headache to girls parents, ki kisse karwaye, jaat paat ke bina shaadi thodi na banti he.... love case hogaya, bhaag ke saadi ki, toh hamari parampara, yeh woh karke khoon bhi hojaate.

    The arranged marriage perspective: Married women should be like Sita: Bombay HC


    Last Updated : 09 May 2012 12:48:19 PM IST

    MUMBAI: The Bombay High Court on Tuesday observed that married women should take a cue from goddess Sita, who followed her husband Lord Ram
    even during his exile, while hearing a divorce petition filed by a man on ground that his wife is unwilling to relocate to his new place of work.

    "A wife should be like goddess Sita who left everything and followed her husband Lord Ram to a forest and stayed there for 14 years," a division bench of
    justices P B Majmudar and Anoop Mohta observed while hearing an appeal filed by an employee of the Shipping Corporation of India seeking divorce from
    his wife on the ground that she was not willing to shift with him to Port Blair where he was transferred.

    The couple had an arranged marriage in 2000. While the applicant's wife is a resident of Mumbai, he hails from Kolkata and continued to stay in Mumbai
    as he had been on ship duty for five years since they tied the knot.

    In 2005 when he was given a land posting at Port Blair he called upon his wife to come and stay with him but she refused following which he filed for
    divorce. The couple has a nine-year-old daughter.

    The court during the day tried to counsel the couple saying at least for the child's sake, the duo should reunite. While the husband agreed to reconsider,
    the wife shot down any kind of settlement.

    The court has posted the matter for further hearing on June 21.

    Ab jab arranged marriage ki band divorce bankar bajjrahi he toh... arrange marriage karke kya fayda?

    Why should one opt for love marriage when there are honor killings?

    Recently, there has been a spate of honor killings in the country and this has led the government to decide what laws should be put in place to stop this heinous crime. Also whether the Hindu Marriage Act should be reformed or not is being debated. The latest case of honour killing was reported from New Friends Colony, where a couple was murdered by the father of the girl, Vimla (20), and a guard named Robin, after they found 28 yr old Hari from Jalandhar and Vimla in a compromising position in an under-construction building. So what is the definition of honour killing and what leads families to commit this heinous crime so that they can protect their family honour? Is this practice prevalent only in India or is it prevalent in other parts of the world also? What are the misconceptions regarding honour killing and what are the solutions to stop this crime from spreading? These are the questions that this article seeks to find an answer to.

    Honour killing is defined as a death that is awarded to a woman of the family for marrying against the parent’s wishes, having extramarital and premarital relationships, marrying within the same gotra or outside one’s caste or marrying a cousin from a different caste. Honour killing is different from the dowry deaths that are also a very common practice in India as, in the case of dowry deaths, the perpetrators of that action claim that they have not been given enough material rewards for accepting the woman into the family. In that case there is a lot of harassment from the in-laws and more times than one, it has been noted that the wife commits suicide rather than being killed by the in-laws, though it has to be said that she has been mentally killed, if not physically. We have had a tradition of honour killing. This tradition was first viewed in its most horrible form during the Partition of the country in between the years 1947 and 1950 when many women were forcefully killed so that family honour could be preserved. During the Partition, there were a lot of forced marriages which were causing women from India to marry men from Pakistan and vice-versa. And then there was a search to hunt down these women who were forced to marry a person from another country and another religion and when they returned ‘home’ they were killed so that the family honor could be preserved and they were not declared social outcastes from their region. At that time, the influence of religion and social control was much greater and hence there were at least a couple of honour killings a day, if not more. The partition years can be seen to be the beginning of the tradition of honour killing on a large scale. It’s worth mentioning here that Honor Killing is not specifically related to India only. This is a practice that continues to be prevailing in North and South America, Africa, Turkey and many other countries. But the thing that has to be kept in mind is that the number of incidents relating to this crime is very low and there is a very strict punishment for committing this crime in other countries.

    Now, there are various reasons why people or family members decide to kill the daughter in the name of preserving their family honour. The most obvious reason for this practice to continue in India, albeit, at a much faster and almost daily basis, is because of the fact that the caste system continues to be at its rigid best and also because people from the rural areas refuse to change their attitude to marriage. According to them, if any daughter dares to disobey her parents on the issue of marriage and decides to marry a man of her wishes but from another gotra or outside her caste, it would bring disrepute to the family honour and hence they decide to give the ultimate sentence, that is death, to the daughter. Now as has become the norm, the son-in-law is killed as well. Sociologists believe that the reason why honour killings continue to take place is because of the continued rigidity of the caste system. Hence the fear of losing their caste status through which they gain many benefits makes them commit this heinous crime. The other reason why honour killings are taking place is because the mentality of people has not changed and they just cannot accept that marriages can take place in the same gotra or outside one’s caste. The root of the cause for the increase in the number of honour killings is because the formal governance has not been able to reach the rural areas and as a result. Thus, this practices continues though it should have been removed by now.

    There are various misconceptions regarding the practice of honor killing. The first misconception about honor killing is that this is a practice that is limited to the rural areas. The truth is that it is spread over such a large geographical area that we cannot isolate honor killings to rural areas only, though one has to admit that majority of the killings take place in the rural areas. But it has also been seen recently that even the metropolitan cities like Delhi and Tamil Nadu are not safe from this crime because 5 honor killings were reported from Delhi and in Tamil Nadu; a daughter and son in law were killed due to marriage into the same gotra. So it can be seen clearly that honor killing is not isolated to rural areas but also to urban areas and as already pointed out, it has a very wide geographical spread. The second misconception regarding honor killing is that it has religious roots. Even if a woman commits adultery, there have to be four male witnesses with good behavior and reputation to validate the charge. Furthermore only the State can carry out judicial punishments, but never an individual vigilante. So, we can clearly see that there is no religious backing or religious roots for this heinous crime.

    What can we do to prevent such a thing from happening? Firstly, the mentality of the people has to change. And when we say that the mentality has to change, we mean to say that parents should accept their children’s wishes regarding marriage as it is they who have to lead a life with their life partners and if they are not satisfied with their life partner then they will lead a horrible married life which might even end in suicide. Secondly, we need to have stricter laws to tackle these kinds of killings as this is a crime which cannot be pardoned because. Humans do not have the right to write down death sentences of innocent fellow humans.

    Love marriage karke jaat paat badnaam hota toh marne ke chance bhi rehti.. love marriage karke kya fayda?



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    Love Marriage: Resembles procedural programming language. We have some set functions like flirting, going to movies together, making long conversations on phone and then try to fit all functions to the candidate we like.


    Arranged Marriage: Similar to object oriented programming approach. We first fix the candidate and then try to implement functions on her. The main object is fixed and various functions are added to supplement the main program. The functions can be added or deleted.


    Love Marriage: It is a throwaway type of prototype as client requirements rises with time thus it is a dynamic system and difficult to maintain.



    Arranged Marriage: Requirements are well defined so use of waterfall model is possible.



    Love Marriage: Family system hangs because hardware called parents are not responding.



    Arranged Marriage: Compatible with hardware Parents.



    Love Marriage: You are the project leader so u are responsible for implementation and execution of PROJECT- married life.


    Arranged Marriage: You are a team member under project leader parents so they are responsible for successful execution of project Married life.



    Love Marriage: Client expectations include exciting feature as spouse cooking food, washing clothes etc.


    Arranged Marriage: All these features are covered in the SRS as required features.



    Love Marriage: Acceptance test possible you can try before you Buy.



    Arranged Marriage: Product is sold on an as is where is basis. Product once sold will not be taken back!
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    Why live-in relationship?

    Live-in-relationship is 'seriously-in' in India these days after dozens of celebrities, now common public also getting opened for live-in relationships. At present, large number of couples is having live in relationships in Delhi. Live-in relationship is nothing but a type of cohabitation when two opposite sex are ready to live together without getting married on the basis of mutual approval. People are moving into such relations with their partner to kick away that loneliness from their lives without tying knot, any marriage boundation and responsibilities.

    Some Real-life live-in couples are Siddharth and Shruti Hassan, ‘Slumdog Millionaire’ stars Freida Pinto and Dev Patel, Katrina Kaif and Salman Khan, John Abraham and Bipasha Basu, Lara Dutta and her ex-boyfriend Kelly Dorjee were in a live-in relationship and few other Bollywood couples tagged under Live-in-relationship label are Aamir Khan and Kiran Rao, Ranvir Shorey and Konkona Sen Sharma, Ameesha Patel and filmmaker Vikram Bhatt.

    If you are planning to move in open relationship with your partner and you are female then you should be aware of the fact that in India laws live-in-relationships is not equal to marriage till now. However, Maharashtra government is quite ok with it but central government has not shown green signal to such relations. A good news for women committed in such relationships is that under the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005, all such women will be able to leverage various benefits covered in the “domestic relationship” act under Section 2(f) framed for woman living.


    Why I think livin relationship is best?
    Jitna din chali toh chali, kaun court kacheri ghoomna chahega, getting divorce is also headache thing. Trust plays a important role, when you cant trust someone whom you are married to and are always under pressure by the likes of cheating, etc, live-in relationships stands only on the basis of trust and commitment. Jitni der tak reshako saath rehlo, baad mein tata bye bye. in other words, live together until you get fed up of each other and move on.

    Now aapki baari apna thoughts share karne ki.

    Which one is best? Arranged marriage, Love marriage, or LIVE-IN relationship?

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    The end result is same for the first two options.

    Ab toh live-in pe bhi court ne kuch pawandi lagaya huwa hai ...
    Play To Win or Don't Play At All
    Always Expect The Unexpected

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    One Night Stand!
    Your love is all I need to feel complete.

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    Yes this is also true.

    A person I know was in a live-in relationship. and he lived too, but then could not afford to live and maintain the unemployed woman, today she has filed domestic violence case and is claiming his property that he once had a relationship with her, just having a photo as evidence of them standing together with phool ki maala.

    Quote Originally Posted by passion_unlimitedd View Post
    The end result is same for the first two options.

    Ab toh live-in pe bhi court ne kuch pawandi lagaya huwa hai ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kallu Kalan Kaalia View Post
    Yes this is also true.

    A person I know was in a live-in relationship. and he lived too, but then could not afford to live and maintain the unemployed woman, today she has filed domestic violence case and is claiming his property that he once had a relationship with her, just having a photo as evidence of them standing together with phool ki maala.
    Fas gaya bechara
    Play To Win or Don't Play At All
    Always Expect The Unexpected

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    Quote Originally Posted by hotspicyhot View Post
    One Night Stand!

    SMART BOY.

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    Voted .................
    one of the greatest freedom is truly not caring what anyone else thinks of you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mavvrick_111 View Post
    Voted .................
    Voted all options.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Roger69 View Post
    Voted all options.
    all options = can't say
    one of the greatest freedom is truly not caring what anyone else thinks of you.

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    Arranged Marriage is best.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mavvrick_111 View Post
    all options = can't say
    kal hi to arranged marriage v. love marriage me sab ek dusare ka sar fod rahe the. Aaj usipar naya thread? Yesterday's old daru in today's new bottle. Martin, ko to daru ka business hai lekin apane pas bolane ko jada kuch nahi hai.
    So, eat popcorn

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    Quote Originally Posted by Roger69 View Post
    kal hi to arranged marriage v. love marriage me sab ek dusare ka sar fod rahe the. Aaj usipar naya thread? Yesterday's old daru in today's new bottle. Martin, ko to daru ka business hai lekin apane pas bolane ko jada kuch nahi hai.
    So, eat popcorn
    kisne kaha tha sar fodne ko !

    now chillax
    one of the greatest freedom is truly not caring what anyone else thinks of you.

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    Only a person who knows Punjabi can understand this.

    जिन लोगों की Arrange-marriage होती है ....... वो सारी उम्र आपस में लड़ते ही रहते हैं .
    और जिन लोगों की love-marriage होती है .....वो ???

    हुन्दी ताँ ओहना नाल व़ी कुत्ते-खानी ही है पर बाहर दस्सदे नहीं. !!!!!





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