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    Hi everyone..

    Well... I broke up from a 5.5 yr old relation coz I realised tat my ex will nvr marry me nd found him cheating(though he dint agree I found enough evidence). I had told abt our relation at home nd had convinced my mom for it. So its been 2 months since the brk up.About one month ago my mom showed my horoscope nd apparently it TIME for me to marry. I initially denied but mom asked me to accept her decision since she had agreed to al my decisions in life.I thought it was my chance to make her happy for she s being extremely supportive in everything.

    I m not sure if I m really ready for marriage.I put up a strong front in front of whole world but deep inside something has just died within me. I had only one relation in my life till date to which I gave 100% and the way it turned out has uprooted al my belief in love guys nd relationships!! Though I feel nothing for my Ex my trust on guys is completly gone

    But I m not gonna say NO to marriage only coz of mom.I feel she does not deserve to be sad coz of my foolishness. I do not know how to prepare mentally for marriage? Also I lost my virginity to my ex nd I do wanna tel the whole truth to my partner before marriage. But I do not know if it ll be a wise decision since families r involved.



    I do not know how to deal with these upcoming events.Pls guide me through..

    1. Wat shuld I look for in marriage--- Is it really a bond of love? or something on terms lik "friends with benefits?" or I shuld settle for "attraction admiration money status "

    2. Should I tel abt my EX --- if yes(How much of it shuld I reveal?)

    Thanks

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    Good question. I am a 24 yr old guy and coming frm a man you should consider this advise...

    1. Never marry because you need to make someone happy. Even if your lover is forcing you to get married. Always be comfortable with this institution. Its a very complex yet beautiful relationship, that can be as disturbing if not handled properly.

    2. Explain your mother the things going on in your head. She will appreciate and listen to your story. You need to be honest and mature (as mature as you were when you were losing your virginity).

    3. When someone breaks up, it takes time to heal and trust someone else. The amount of time is different from everyone. But eventually you will understand that it was a phase and you need to move on from it. If you cant then concentrate on your studies/job and try not to think about love. Its not a source of your energy and you will not die without it being in your life.

    4. Marriage is different from the relationships you have with your parents/siblings. It comes with an easy settlement of divorce for any reason and is primarily based on a good match (good salary, good looks, good home) whether its love/arranged marriage.

    First you need to get into the mindset of getting married. And only then will you be able to take a mature decision. At then end of the day, its a gamble. A rich, handsome softspoken guy might turn out to be an idiot and an ugly, middle class guy might treat you with real love and care.

    When your parents will be searching for a soulmate for you they will look for the best match. It is you who would have to find the right match.

    5. You need to be honest with your future husband (whenever it happens). Guys in India especially are quite opinionated about virginity. Especially the ones that are virgins themselves. They think that the girl was independent, mature enough to move out of her home barriers, keep the secrets hidden and take a bold step if having a physical relationship.

    No one has the right to judge your character. But you cannot stop anyone from doing so. The only solution is to be honest with the guy and get to know about his feelings about the matter so that you do not ruin his future and your condition as well.

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    Life is too short to think about what kind of marriage u want.


    In the end ex why zed wont matter.

    What matter most is ...ur spouse there with u when ur seventy.
    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    Hi everyone..

    Well... I broke up from a 5.5 yr old relation coz I realised tat my ex will nvr marry me nd found him cheating(though he dint agree I found enough evidence). I had told abt our relation at home nd had convinced my mom for it. So its been 2 months since the brk up.About one month ago my mom showed my horoscope nd apparently it TIME for me to marry. I initially denied but mom asked me to accept her decision since she had agreed to al my decisions in life.I thought it was my chance to make her happy for she s being extremely supportive in everything.

    I m not sure if I m really ready for marriage.I put up a strong front in front of whole world but deep inside something has just died within me. I had only one relation in my life till date to which I gave 100% and the way it turned out has uprooted al my belief in love guys nd relationships!! Though I feel nothing for my Ex my trust on guys is completly gone

    But I m not gonna say NO to marriage only coz of mom.I feel she does not deserve to be sad coz of my foolishness. I do not know how to prepare mentally for marriage? Also I lost my virginity to my ex nd I do wanna tel the whole truth to my partner before marriage. But I do not know if it ll be a wise decision since families r involved.



    I do not know how to deal with these upcoming events.Pls guide me through..

    1. Wat shuld I look for in marriage--- Is it really a bond of love? or something on terms lik "friends with benefits?" or I shuld settle for "attraction admiration money status "

    2. Should I tel abt my EX --- if yes(How much of it shuld I reveal?)

    Thanks

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    Default get married

    so easy
    get married
    no need to tell anything about your past
    very straight
    all the best

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    Wow... u said it all right... reputaion to you man


    Quote Originally Posted by archer_paradise View Post
    Good question. I am a 24 yr old guy and coming frm a man you should consider this advise...

    1. Never marry because you need to make someone happy. Even if your lover is forcing you to get married. Always be comfortable with this institution. Its a very complex yet beautiful relationship, that can be as disturbing if not handled properly.

    2. Explain your mother the things going on in your head. She will appreciate and listen to your story. You need to be honest and mature (as mature as you were when you were losing your virginity).

    3. When someone breaks up, it takes time to heal and trust someone else. The amount of time is different from everyone. But eventually you will understand that it was a phase and you need to move on from it. If you cant then concentrate on your studies/job and try not to think about love. Its not a source of your energy and you will not die without it being in your life.

    4. Marriage is different from the relationships you have with your parents/siblings. It comes with an easy settlement of divorce for any reason and is primarily based on a good match (good salary, good looks, good home) whether its love/arranged marriage.

    First you need to get into the mindset of getting married. And only then will you be able to take a mature decision. At then end of the day, its a gamble. A rich, handsome softspoken guy might turn out to be an idiot and an ugly, middle class guy might treat you with real love and care.

    When your parents will be searching for a soulmate for you they will look for the best match. It is you who would have to find the right match.

    5. You need to be honest with your future husband (whenever it happens). Guys in India especially are quite opinionated about virginity. Especially the ones that are virgins themselves. They think that the girl was independent, mature enough to move out of her home barriers, keep the secrets hidden and take a bold step if having a physical relationship.

    No one has the right to judge your character. But you cannot stop anyone from doing so. The only solution is to be honest with the guy and get to know about his feelings about the matter so that you do not ruin his future and your condition as well.

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    Revenge Your Ex
    Each day hundreds of men and women seek revenge on their ex-mates for a
    variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on.
    Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to
    vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like "Get Revenge On Your Ex"
    for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge. So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting
    nude photos of her and so on.

    The best way according to the web site Right Choices 101 is to live your life well. This is true no matter who you are seeking revenge on. Coworkers,
    past bosses, bad friends or ex-lovers. Put your energy into succeeding and
    enjoying your life, not wasting your time, energy and resources on revenge
    that can end up costing you much more. Plus, when you seek revenge, you send
    them a massage that you have not gotten over the relationship. It's much
    better to show you are indifferent and don't care.
    According to Kenneth Agee of A Foreign Affair, a service that specializes in
    helping men find young beautiful foreign women, "The best revenge is to date
    or marry a women 10 years younger than your ex. This will piss her off to no
    end. No woman ever wants to be replaced with a younger, more attractive
    woman. Just like a man never likes to get replaced by a guy who is wealthier
    or more successful.
    I will never forget one of my first clients we took to Saint Petersburg,
    Russia." says Agee, "The client told me that two days on our tour was better
    than two years of therapy. Having hundreds of attractive women fighting over
    you gets your ex out of your mind pretty quick.
    I personally went through break up when my ex ran off with another man. But
    a short time later, I met a new lady who was ten times better. I ran into
    that man who stole my ex and I gave him a big thanks. In fact, I could not
    thank him enough. He was stuck with an older nagging women, while I was now
    with a young, beautiful, caring women. Plus, my ex had gained about 100
    pounds. I don't look at that fellow as any kind of enemy but as the person
    who saved me from my ex and years of suffering." This is the best a revenge
    when you win without lowering yourself.
    Other sites like "Get Over Her Now" give practical advice and tips for
    getting over a past relationship.
    Top Tips from Get Over Her Now:
    Start making platonic relationships with as many women as possible, old,
    young, skinny, fat, cute or ugly. This greatly helps you get back in the
    game of socializing with the opposite sex. And it opens up lots
    opportunities to meet their cute attractive friends in a more relaxed
    environment. This also helps you build your game and confidence.
    Improve yourself, start working out, get up early every day and exercise.
    Buy new clothes. Dressing better makes you feel better and improves your
    confidence.
    Focus on work and getting a promotion or raise. Don't let a break up effect
    your work negatively. Put that extra effort into work and it will pay off
    with a better position and more money. This will also build your confidence
    and help attract better quality women.
    Any time you are depressed, improving yourself helps greatly. When you feel
    depressed, don't sit and watch TV and then sleep-in late. Get out and do
    something that will make you feel like you've accomplished something. Take a
    class, go hiking, fix something you've been putting off.
    Don't start drinking. Drinking will always have a negative impact on your
    life. Don't drink while depressed or when you are trying to get over some
    one. After all, drinking is for celebrating. So if you are not celebrating
    something, don't drink. A quality women is not going to be attracted to
    someone who drinks a lot or has a drinking problem.
    Don't sleep in; sleeping late increases depression. Get up as early as you
    can and go for a walk, take a hike, or go to the Gym. Research shows getting
    up early and exercising can eliminate depression. You will have no game be
    depressed.
    Conclusion, the best revenge is when you improve your life so well that she
    realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
    someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
    seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place!

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    Depends on how old you are. Anyway dont just get married for the sake of it or your mom. If you decide to get married, me sure that you understand the risks and are ready for any outcome. Live for yourself meanwhile. All guys are not same, but some are worse than your ex. Depends on who you end up with, it is all a gamble. Some people gamble, some dont.

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    Revenge Your Ex

    Each day hundreds of men and women seek revenge on their ex-mates for a
    variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on.
    Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to
    vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like "Get Revenge On Your Ex"
    for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge.

    So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting
    nude photos of her and so on.

    The best way according to the web site Right Choices 101 is to live your
    life well. This is true no matter who you are seeking revenge on. Coworkers,
    past bosses, bad friends or ex-lovers. Put your energy into succeeding and
    enjoying your life, not wasting your time, energy and resources on revenge
    that can end up costing you much more. Plus, when you seek revenge, you send
    them a massage that you have not gotten over the relationship. It's much
    better to show you are indifferent and don't care.

    According to Kenneth Agee of A Foreign Affair, a service that specializes in
    helping men find young beautiful foreign women, "The best revenge is to date
    or marry a women 10 years younger than your ex. This will piss her off to no
    end. No woman ever wants to be replaced with a younger, more attractive
    woman. Just like a man never likes to get replaced by a guy who is wealthier
    or more successful.

    I will never forget one of my first clients we took to Saint Petersburg,
    Russia." says Agee, "The client told me that two days on our tour was better
    than two years of therapy. Having hundreds of attractive women fighting over
    you gets your ex out of your mind pretty quick.

    I personally went through break up when my ex ran off with another man. But
    a short time later, I met a new lady who was ten times better. I ran into
    that man who stole my ex and I gave him a big thanks. In fact, I could not
    thank him enough. He was stuck with an older nagging women, while I was now
    with a young, beautiful, caring women. Plus, my ex had gained about 100
    pounds. I don't look at that fellow as any kind of enemy but as the person
    who saved me from my ex and years of suffering." This is the best a revenge
    when you win without lowering yourself.

    Other sites like "Get Over Her Now" give practical advice and tips for
    getting over a past relationship.

    Top Tips from Get Over Her Now:

    Start making platonic relationships with as many women as possible, old,
    young, skinny, fat, cute or ugly. This greatly helps you get back in the
    game of socializing with the opposite sex. And it opens up lots
    opportunities to meet their cute attractive friends in a more relaxed
    environment. This also helps you build your game and confidence.

    Improve yourself, start working out, get up early every day and exercise.

    Buy new clothes. Dressing better makes you feel better and improves your
    confidence.

    Focus on work and getting a promotion or raise. Don't let a break up effect
    your work negatively. Put that extra effort into work and it will pay off
    with a better position and more money. This will also build your confidence
    and help attract better quality women.

    Any time you are depressed, improving yourself helps greatly. When you feel
    depressed, don't sit and watch TV and then sleep-in late. Get out and do
    something that will make you feel like you've accomplished something. Take a
    class, go hiking, fix something you've been putting off.

    Don't start drinking. Drinking will always have a negative impact on your
    life. Don't drink while depressed or when you are trying to get over some
    one. After all, drinking is for celebrating. So if you are not celebrating
    something, don't drink. A quality women is not going to be attracted to
    someone who drinks a lot or has a drinking problem.

    Don't sleep in; sleeping late increases depression. Get up as early as you
    can and go for a walk, take a hike, or go to the Gym. Research shows getting
    up early and exercising can eliminate depression. You will have no game be
    depressed.

    Don't binge eat. If you start gaining weight, you will feel less self-worth
    and lose your confidence. Confidence is a quality that women are extremely
    attracted to.

    Conclusion, the best revenge is when you improve your life so well that she
    realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
    someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
    seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place!

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