I'm a 29 yr old lady working in the same profession as my husband at an equal designation as him. Ours was a love marriage. my husband comes from a small town and his family is not very financially well off. On the other hand I have my bringing up in metro cities and my parents are comfortably well off. though i was aware of the situation of my husband's family, i still got married thinking i would be able to adjust. but of late, i've realised that i'm not able to come in terms with their way of living. they have no hassels borrowing money from people, they go overboard to show off what they dont have actually. my father in law is no more and we have to share our responsiblities towards my husband's mother but she doesnt seem to understand that we are living hand to mouth and dont save enough for ourself also.. she tends to demand things which in my belief are superflous and can be done without. i have serious fights with my husband and i am really disturbed about it. i dont mean to make my husband shirk away from his responsibilities towards his mother but i do want him to understand that i am his wife too. he takes no responsibilty of our own house whatsoever. i bear all the expenses of our house since we are not staying together and mine is the main establishment.