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    Default Urgent!!!In a terrible situation.Very Scared of myself.Need advice.

    Hi Friends!
    I am a simple guy.26+ Single.Never had a GF.I am facing an issue that i have not shared with anybody fearing rejection.I don't trust anyone with such a delicate matter.The only reason i am sharing here is because my identity is safe.

    The issue: My elder brother just got married.I live with my brother and sister-in-law.Sometimes i get very uncomfortable around my sister-in-law when my brother is not at home.I get bad thoughts in my mind.On other occasions i am ok.We talk comfortably.
    Let me tell you how it all started.
    I was sick and bed-ridden for few days and watched a lot of TV.I watched a popular crime show a lot.Everything was fine.But then i saw a few episodes about murder and sexual-crimes.Crimes that were committed by people whom victims trusted.After that was very scared.I begin to imagine why would someone do such a thing.Then if i could do such a thing.I begin to put myself in such position and was scared to death.I lost trust in myself.
    That day i began to shiver when i was alone with my sister-in-law.I felt like i could hurt her.Then i started reading hanuman chalisa and left the house.After a while the feeling subsided.

    After few months when i got well.The feeling went away.I stopped asking such stupid questions and thinking if i could do such a thing.But i did not share this with anybody.
    But now it has started again.But not as intense as before.
    Also now i feel more awkward around any girl.

    Is it normal?Is it just my sexual frustration?I don't know.I have lost my peace of mind.
    Please help me!!
    Also please answer with a little sensitivity.

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    Your sexual frustration has nothing to do with your idle mind. You must involve yourself in activities pertaining to your happiness and enrichment.

    You may be awkward around a new person in the house and that too a young woman, but you must not keep thinking about her and scenarios that are too filmy.

    Instead of hanuman chalisa (no offence) try reading a book or surfing the internet or any hobby you like to divert your mind. And even if your thoughts go to that areas, then they are just day dreams. Ignore them.

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    You are 26+ dude. You should have told here about what you do in life and for a living. If you have full time school/job and evening hobbies like gym/sports and have friends and your own social life outside home, such feelings and thoughts will never come to your mind. If not, then get a life.

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    Hey, you are 26+ already. You should find a partner and marry soon. And enjoy a good sex life. Then you won't have that sort of thoughts about your Sister-in-law.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Simple_Guy_2626 View Post
    Hi Friends!
    I am a simple guy.26+ Single.Never had a GF.I am facing an issue that i have not shared with anybody fearing rejection.I don't trust anyone with such a delicate matter.The only reason i am sharing here is because my identity is safe.

    The issue: My elder brother just got married.I live with my brother and sister-in-law.Sometimes i get very uncomfortable around my sister-in-law when my brother is not at home.I get bad thoughts in my mind.On other occasions i am ok.We talk comfortably.
    Let me tell you how it all started.
    I was sick and bed-ridden for few days and watched a lot of TV.I watched a popular crime show a lot.Everything was fine.But then i saw a few episodes about murder and sexual-crimes.Crimes that were committed by people whom victims trusted.After that was very scared.I begin to imagine why would someone do such a thing.Then if i could do such a thing.I begin to put myself in such position and was scared to death.I lost trust in myself.
    That day i began to shiver when i was alone with my sister-in-law.I felt like i could hurt her.Then i started reading hanuman chalisa and left the house.After a while the feeling subsided.

    After few months when i got well.The feeling went away.I stopped asking such stupid questions and thinking if i could do such a thing.But i did not share this with anybody.
    But now it has started again.But not as intense as before.
    Also now i feel more awkward around any girl.

    Is it normal?Is it just my sexual frustration?I don't know.I have lost my peace of mind.
    Please help me!!
    Also please answer with a little sensitivity.
    It looks to me that you never had interaction with many girls before and hence you feel awkward around them. Instead of running away from your problem, face it and overcome it. Talk to your SIL and try to be normal all the time. Do this till you feel completely normal while talking to any girl. Also, stop relating your life to the crime shows and murder mysteries. Those are fiction and dont mix your life with these.
    Fight your Fears and you will be in Battle Forever
    Control your Fears and you will be Free Forever



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    Default Hi Bud

    You need to keep yourself busy in things and I think that you are thinking too much about this situation and you need to just relax.

    Quote Originally Posted by Simple_Guy_2626 View Post
    Hi Friends!
    I am a simple guy.26+ Single.Never had a GF.I am facing an issue that i have not shared with anybody fearing rejection.I don't trust anyone with such a delicate matter.The only reason i am sharing here is because my identity is safe.

    The issue: My elder brother just got married.I live with my brother and sister-in-law.Sometimes i get very uncomfortable around my sister-in-law when my brother is not at home.I get bad thoughts in my mind.On other occasions i am ok.We talk comfortably.
    Let me tell you how it all started.
    I was sick and bed-ridden for few days and watched a lot of TV.I watched a popular crime show a lot.Everything was fine.But then i saw a few episodes about murder and sexual-crimes.Crimes that were committed by people whom victims trusted.After that was very scared.I begin to imagine why would someone do such a thing.Then if i could do such a thing.I begin to put myself in such position and was scared to death.I lost trust in myself.
    That day i began to shiver when i was alone with my sister-in-law.I felt like i could hurt her.Then i started reading hanuman chalisa and left the house.After a while the feeling subsided.

    After few months when i got well.The feeling went away.I stopped asking such stupid questions and thinking if i could do such a thing.But i did not share this with anybody.
    But now it has started again.But not as intense as before.
    Also now i feel more awkward around any girl.

    Is it normal?Is it just my sexual frustration?I don't know.I have lost my peace of mind.
    Please help me!!
    Also please answer with a little sensitivity.

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    First and foremost stop watching crime serials.

    But still if you have interest in crime shows, then watch some funny detective serials......CID on sony......ACP Prad-human and team is just awesome....

    As far as bad thoughts are concerned, I guess u need to go out and interact with people. Spend more time with your friend circle.... Chill out with them. Or when alone, get yourself involved with some work.

    And as far as Hanuman Chalisha is concerned, well... I like it.... its good.... Why you stopped reading it.... ??
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    You try to relax yourself.. Do yoga, activities... Practice your hobbies.. You'll forget everything gradually... In the mean time, you should search for a life partner according to your choice and your family... After you are married you'll see, all these feelings will vanish.. All you have to do is to get married, you'll lead a happy life with your wife and also will satisfy all your desires.. And legally...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Simple_Guy_2626 View Post
    Hi Friends!
    I am a simple guy.26+ Single.Never had a GF.I am facing an issue that i have not shared with anybody fearing rejection.I don't trust anyone with such a delicate matter.The only reason i am sharing here is because my identity is safe.

    The issue: My elder brother just got married.I live with my brother and sister-in-law.Sometimes i get very uncomfortable around my sister-in-law when my brother is not at home.I get bad thoughts in my mind.On other occasions i am ok.We talk comfortably.
    Let me tell you how it all started.
    I was sick and bed-ridden for few days and watched a lot of TV.I watched a popular crime show a lot.Everything was fine.But then i saw a few episodes about murder and sexual-crimes.Crimes that were committed by people whom victims trusted.After that was very scared.I begin to imagine why would someone do such a thing.Then if i could do such a thing.I begin to put myself in such position and was scared to death.I lost trust in myself.
    That day i began to shiver when i was alone with my sister-in-law.I felt like i could hurt her.Then i started reading hanuman chalisa and left the house.After a while the feeling subsided.

    After few months when i got well.The feeling went away.I stopped asking such stupid questions and thinking if i could do such a thing.But i did not share this with anybody.
    But now it has started again.But not as intense as before.
    Also now i feel more awkward around any girl.

    Is it normal?Is it just my sexual frustration?I don't know.I have lost my peace of mind.
    Please help me!!
    Also please answer with a little sensitivity.
    The answer to your problem is very simple if your are unemployed at the moment kindly find a job for yourself and use the job to keep your mind fresh and diverted from your sister in law.Also only return home everyday after your are brother regularly comes home.If for some reason he is delayed then quickly get out of the house and go to some area far away from the house at least 50 kilometers away and only return home after your brother has come home.If for some reason your brother has to leave home for a few days or so then move in for that small period with any bachelor friend.

    But the best option will be for you to get a job as soon as possible and find another place for your self to live.

    By the way all those guys advising him to talk to girls do you know that at such stage when the core issue of conflict in this guy's life is a woman it's not safe psychologically to advise him to interact with more woman.I mean this can have a unimaginable impact on his mental condition.By the way if he is 26+ that does mean it is imperative he get's married, What I mean if he want's to satisfy his sexual urge he can watch porn or visit call girls.

    By the way talking to today's modernized girls so that a man can begin some sort of relationship with them is similar to banging your head against a concrete wall.

    By the way friend I mam 28 years of age, I too exactly like you I never had a girlfriend and I too had some feelings for my cousin brothers wife which went away as soon as I got a good job and I stayed away from home for long periods of time.Also whenever I feel some sexual tension I use my broadband internet connection to open porn sites and I masturbate which totally clears the entire sexual tension in my body and mind.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Simple_Guy_2626 View Post
    Hi Friends!
    I am a simple guy.26+ Single.Never had a GF.I am facing an issue that i have not shared with anybody fearing rejection.I don't trust anyone with such a delicate matter.The only reason i am sharing here is because my identity is safe.

    The issue: My elder brother just got married.I live with my brother and sister-in-law.Sometimes i get very uncomfortable around my sister-in-law when my brother is not at home.I get bad thoughts in my mind.On other occasions i am ok.We talk comfortably.
    Let me tell you how it all started.
    I was sick and bed-ridden for few days and watched a lot of TV.I watched a popular crime show a lot.Everything was fine.But then i saw a few episodes about murder and sexual-crimes.Crimes that were committed by people whom victims trusted.After that was very scared.I begin to imagine why would someone do such a thing.Then if i could do such a thing.I begin to put myself in such position and was scared to death.I lost trust in myself.
    That day i began to shiver when i was alone with my sister-in-law.I felt like i could hurt her.Then i started reading hanuman chalisa and left the house.After a while the feeling subsided.

    After few months when i got well.The feeling went away.I stopped asking such stupid questions and thinking if i could do such a thing.But i did not share this with anybody.
    But now it has started again.But not as intense as before.
    Also now i feel more awkward around any girl.

    Is it normal?Is it just my sexual frustration?I don't know.I have lost my peace of mind.
    Please help me!!
    Also please answer with a little sensitivity.
    I have a simple solution for u , have a girlfriend .If u r in relationship with someone u tend to hold ur nerves better than before.

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    Hi!!!

    seems like the show had heavy imapct on u.. sensitive people fel this way.. maybe u relate everything aound u... so just relax.. here are few tips:

    &* now u know u are sensitive person, so please stop watching such shows.

    * Remember & keep reminding yourself... that just by watching that it wont apply to your life... tell urself often... i m strong .. crime is for week minds..
    * keep seeing your SIL as ur own sister..

    * try to focus on good things.. & watch things which help u get good thoughts in mind.
    * meditate
    Live amongst people in such a manner that if you die they weep over you and if you are alive they crave for your company.

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