Me and my boyfriend are together since 4 years. we completed our degree and i got a job but he is still unemployed since 2 yrs. am waiting for him since 2 yrs. i always look for adverts etc for him to apply but it seem he is too choosy with jobs. i believe there is no shame in doing a job like accounts clerk etc for a start later he can still apply for higher jobs. He sometimes look uninterested in looking for jobs. i wonder whats the matter. i have talk to him. i know his life is tough in this phase because several times he told me his mum taunts him for not having a job etc. i support him and tell him keep faith. but i wonder when will he realise he should not be choosy with jobs like this otherwise he may end unemployed for life.
i have talk to him and in anger he even once said i dont want to work because once i will get a job your parents will be after me to marry you and at 24 i dont want to get married or engage! i feel very down when i hear this because when we started our relationship he never said he is not willing to get married. what hurts me, he is not happy or wish to even get engage, i dont mind with just getting engage and get married after 2 more years when he is 26.
am only 1 yr younger than him. my parents are worried for my marriage. my relatives always keep asking my parents when your daughter will get married etc. i hate to hear about people talking about my marriage. since two yrs am supporting him. but he dont even realise am waiting for him since so many days. he made so many promises. but it looks like he has forgotten about his promises.
he neither wish to leave me but when i tell him whats the harm in getting engage at least in anger he always tell me move on if you get someone. it hurts how can he tell me this. sometimes when i see his low interest in applying a job i feel better i leave him in his life. because am tired.
no one understand my feelings. neither my parents nor my bf. i feel whats the use of me being successful sometimes.
He is not making big effort to get a job and then complains with me he is not getting a job. sometimes i feel he just says he himself not applying for jobs just not to feel embarrass that he is applying but not getting any interview. because once in argument he broke dow and told me, am applying but damn am not getting any response. i dont know what to do because sometimes i clearly see his disinterest in applying jobs.. he seem to aiming too high for a start and he doesnt understand when i talk to him.