I usually write to you- if you remember. So here's my problem now ... We are 3 sisters I'm the youngest, the elder two are married. Recently i got engaged so it was something big to be happy about as my parents specially my father are old. The problem started when my brother-in-law ( sister who got married 9 months back) did not showed up on my engagement (my sister had come a day before and her husband was to come on the engagement day) everyone started asking where he was even my in laws started questioning about his absence on such a big day. My sister kept on calling him but his phone was switched off,she even tried her mother-in-law's and her sister-in-law's no. but they were too conveniently switched off. It was a very hurting situation as i could see my sister crying and getting upset with all the questions that people were asking. In all of this hustle me, my mother and my sister told 3 difference stories to my in-laws just to justify his absence. The twist happened when after two days he came to pick up my sister (she called him multiple times to pick her up without talking about that day). He came and my father asked him what was the matter or if he had a fight with my sister and that was the reason for not showing up for the engagement. He said he wanted my sisters share in my parents property. It came as a complete shock for us, he said he always wanted us to support him financially because in-laws do that and that he wants his wife's share in the money and the property (what ever little we have). With a heat up argument between him and my parents he left my sister and went. We are having a very hard time right because my sister told us that he has been asking for the money and the share from the very first day of their marriage and that he has multiple affairs and when my sister questions him- he fights with her and asks her to give him space. My sister did not shared any of this with us because my parents are old and she did not wanted to worry or bother them. She even told us that he use to abuse her infront of the neighbors and torture her mentally by calling her ugly ( my sister is very pretty and fair skinned) just to give her inferiority complex. It all struck as a lightening bolt on us- we thought it was a happy marriage although we did sensed something terribly wrong with the guy but my sister always assured us that she is happy and all's well. After alot of discussions with the family we have decided not to sent her back and and not to fulfill his demand. My sister has always been the introvert one - you know the type of girl who always think that she is not good enough for anything and you can step on her very easily and she wont even complaint or say a word maybe that is also the reason why she kept on suffering without us knowing anything. We are sad, we have given massive dowry which is all there and her jewellery clothes every single thing. I'm worried how are we going to tell about my sisters separation to my in-laws as we had said so many good things about my brother-in-law just for the sake of our IZZAT (respect) and now they will throw uncountable questions at my parents i.e if he was such a good man as you had said earlier then why are you going for the separation- does that mean you people were lying !!!! Its so hard.... because in all of this drama i have totally forgotten that i got engaged and i feel no happiness about it .... i feel nothing. I'm loosing my faith in the institution of marriage- if something so planned and perfect ( as we thought) can collapse so badly then nothing right or good will ever happen. I feel sorry for my sister.... she did not deserve this. She wants to go back .... she said she'll compromise in every situation as she does not want to loose the respect and what will people say and what will my in-laws say. We are totally confused .... how can we sent her back to someone who only married her for the sake of money and financial help?
What should we do ?