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    Exclamation Rape is not just about sex !

    RAPE IS NOT JUST ABOUT SEX !

    Though the legal definition, and our common sense understanding of the word ‘rape’ implies forced sexual activity by a man on a woman, on a mental or psychological level, rape involves a serious mental disorder, is not just about sex alone. For most normal human beings, sex is an intricate, inextricable part of the larger emotion of love. Sex is the coming together, the special, sacred union of two individuals, who have become one in body and soul. Sex is an activity where the partners express their love for each other by coming as physically and mentally close as it is possible to. Sex is an act of creation, where the union of two people gives rise to a new life here on earth. Sex is about becoming vulnerable; sex is about dropping our reservations, our inhibitions, and our sense of shyness and of being an introvert, and opening ourselves up completely and melting into another human being. Sex is an act of surrender, of let go for the sake of love. Sex is a divine activity, for it leads to creation and progress of the human race.





    What about rape? Rape happens when a man forcibly dominates and sexually assaults a woman. Where the act of sex and love are filled with tenderness, concern and sensitivity, the act of rape is a brutal one, filled with violence and anger. If sex is a creative act, rape is a destructive one. Although rape implies sex, in reality, sex and rape are at two ends of the spectrum. Consensual sex means that both partners give their acceptance to open themselves to one another, out of love and respect. Rape, on the other hand, has no such ingredients. No permissions are sought and it becomes a violation of an individual’s privacy and decency. It is an activity where one person forcibly takes away the freedom of another human being and inflicts tremendous physical, mental and psychological damage on her. While sex is about loving and caring for another individual, rape is about destroying the body and morale of a woman. Rape often happens for reasons which exclude love---out of a sense of anger, resentment, a need for revenge, as a punishment, to demean and insult someone, or as a plain pleasure seeking and sexual addiction.






    Rape is a crime that is committed only by man; such a thing does not exist in the animal kingdom. Anybody who commits rape has to sink to a very low level which is below even that of animals. Why does someone indulge in rape? If it was only about sexual gratification, if it is only about satisfying one’s sexual desires, obviously, there are so many other ways to obtain it, without damaging another person, which are safe and without any legal implications. If it was only sex that the rapist wanted, he would not rape, but would find other easier, less complicated ways. Rape is not just about sex. The idea of forcible sex cannot arise in a normal mind, for a normal balanced mind has enough awareness, intelligence, love, sympathy, empathy, compassion and sensitivity to know another’s mind and feelings and to know the consequences of this act. The idea of rape can only arise in a diseased mind. Every adult male has the theoretical potential to commit rape, yet a very small percentage actually commits this crime. A rapist is a perverse individual, a sadist, who gets pleasure not so much in the short lived act of sex, but in the fact that he has done something unbelievable, something great, something out of this world. Rape is about violence, about domination, about causing hurt to the other, about destroying the other, about feeling a ‘high’ at someone else’s downfall. Finding pleasure and satisfaction in rape is also an ego problem, where certain male egos feel that this is the best way to show their superiority over the female.





    Normal sex is like appreciating a rose---seeing it, touching it, smelling it and loving and experiencing its beauty. A rape is like tearing apart the rose flower, piece by piece and crushing it under one’s feet, and feeling proud that one has done something great, something out of this world.




    Does legal punishment cure a rapist? Does it serve as a deterrent to others from indulging in rape? It seems highly unlikely, because the law only tries to put the fear of imprisonment into the rapist to prevent him and others from committing this crime. As the crimes against women rise every day, it seems obvious that legal measures alone are not the answer. A rapist may be otherwise sane in his day to day life, but when he commits the abominable act of rape, he is definitely insane. No sane, normal individual with an average consciousness can think of ever inflicting such a degree of physical and mental violence on another human being. What every rapist needs, along with imprisonment, is intense psychiatric treatment in a mental institution, where he spends the rest of his life, surgically or medically castrated, and under medication, chained to his bed. There is a need to change our laws and to create a new type of prison for the perpetrators of rape, which is a combination of a jail and a mental institution, where they can be put away for life.

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    Unhappy What about the future life of the rape victim?

    What about the future life of the rape victim?

    The rapists will get sentenced to death or will get life imprisonment.

    Has it occured to anyone about what will happen to the girl's future?

    Who marry her?

    Can it be possible to get her married to the same rapist who raped her?

    What would happen to her future?

    Anybody thought?

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    Good essay!!!!

    Sex versus Rape!
    I'm a shhh girl
    Loving me could be a crime

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gudu Gudu Returns View Post

    Can it be possible to get her married to the same rapist who raped her?
    Oh my god.
    Why the hell do you want to marry an educated, working, qualified engineer to an uneducated, rapist bus driver..? What the **** is wrong with you?
    Just because she was raped by those men doesn't mean she should be sent to live in hell. Her boyfriend should marry her. I'm sure there will be many open minded people who will understand her plight and see that what happened with her was torture. She had no control over it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HaveABlast View Post
    Oh my god.
    Why the hell do you want to marry an educated, working, qualified engineer to an uneducated, rapist bus driver..? What the **** is wrong with you?
    Just because she was raped by those men doesn't mean she should be sent to live in hell. Her boyfriend should marry her. I'm sure there will be many open minded people who will understand her plight and see that what happened with her was torture. She had no control over it.
    That does happen in my village, rapist will tie knot with the victim. Hasnt it happened in the city limits ?

    It has.

    But this is what I was wondering.

    Who will marry a rape victim?

    There must be open minded people out there who would want to give life to the girl.

    Such a devastating act has been done. Such huge media coverage.

    Even if anybody willingly marry this girl], it will be a painful journey for both of them.

    SO very sad
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    phir to har koi ek mangalsutra lekar ghoomega saath mein , rape karega aur gale mein daal dega

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gudu Gudu Returns View Post
    That does happen in my village, rapist will tie knot with the victim. Hasnt it happened in the city limits ?

    It has.

    But this is what I was wondering.

    Who will marry a rape victim?

    There must be open minded people out there who would want to give life to the girl.

    Such a devastating act has been done. Such huge media coverage.

    Even if anybody willingly marry this girl], it will be a painful journey for both of them.

    SO very sad
    This isn't your village mate. This is the city. Backward stuff like this doesn't happen here. (Yeah sounds sarcastic but its not).

    What i think should happen- Her boyfriend should support her, marry her. It doesn't matter that she was raped. She didn't cheat on him, did she? She will love him forever.

    What will actually happen- Her boyfriend may leave her, if her name comes out in the media, she is doomed for life. If not, maybe her parents will arrange her marriage to some man in a far off city without telling them about the rape incident.

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    Why would she marry the rapist ?.......Why is marrying someone necessary anyway? If we talk about the current case in delhi, the primary concern is if she is able to live a healthy life, thats more important - Living the life. And she wants to live, and yes, it will be tough and unimaginable but we can just pray for her it is less painful. She would need family and friends support. And she has a boyfriend too who tried to save her, he may probably marry her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by adirocksit View Post
    Why would she marry the rapist ?.......Why is marrying someone necessary anyway? If we talk about the current case in delhi, the primary concern is if she is able to live a healthy life, thats more important - Living the life. And she wants to live, and yes, it will be tough and unimaginable but we can just pray for her it is less painful. She would need family and friends support. And she has a boyfriend too who tried to save her, he may probably marry her.
    Absolutely correct. OP do you know that its almost 2013. Or are you just trolling?

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    Quote Originally Posted by amitsush View Post
    phir to har koi ek mangalsutra lekar ghoomega saath mein , rape karega aur gale mein daal dega

    sirf thread banane ke liye kuch bhi thread bana rahe tum , existing threads mein saari query khatam kar lo apni
    ok trying to know the mind of the members here, no offence sire
    Quote Originally Posted by HaveABlast View Post
    This isn't your village mate. This is the city. Backward stuff like this doesn't happen here. (Yeah sounds sarcastic but its not).

    What i think should happen- Her boyfriend should support her, marry her. It doesn't matter that she was raped. She didn't cheat on him, did she? She will love him forever.

    What will actually happen- Her boyfriend may leave her, if her name comes out in the media, she is doomed for life. If not, maybe her parents will arrange her marriage to some man in a far off city without telling them about the rape incident.
    These are scary facts which are bound to happen in the future.
    Quote Originally Posted by adirocksit View Post
    Why would she marry the rapist ?.......Why is marrying someone necessary anyway? If we talk about the current case in delhi, the primary concern is if she is able to live a healthy life, thats more important - Living the life. And she wants to live, and yes, it will be tough and unimaginable but we can just pray for her it is less painful. She would need family and friends support. And she has a boyfriend too who tried to save her, he may probably marry her.
    It'd be very painful. Such long time it takes to recuperate and be normally functional in the coming years. The thought itself is scary.

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