Results 1 to 14 of 14

Thread: Loved a good friend who rejected

  1. #1
    New Born
    Join Date
    May 2009
    Posts
    11
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Loved a good friend who rejected

    Hello everyone,
    I have a very good friend but after I went overseas for my studies, I missed her a lot. I always thought about her. I knew I was in love with her.
    A few months back when I went back home for a vacation, I got my chance of meeting her (even she studies overseas and was there at the same time)
    So I decided I would confess it to her. I started by giving her small hints and indications. She understood them but didn't see anything happening between us. I was told by another friend that she only considers me a good friend and has no feelings for me, so I should stop this.

    I didn't knew what to do, wrote a letter for her and left. She later told me online that we can still be friends.
    But my problem is that I can't be just friends with her anymore and I don't even know what to do in order to get her back into my life the way I want.

    Looking for some positive replies and probably a solution!

  2. #2
    Moderator Lieutenant General Preeto Maam's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Posts
    60,218
    Rep Power
    100

    Default

    Well, if she has communicated to you through someone that she is not interested in you romantically, then she's pretty serious about her message. You will really have to start accepting that she's not going to have a romantic relationship with you. Sorry, i cannot say what you would like to hear but well, I would advise you to step back now and not expect any such feeling from her.

  3. #3
    :: The Zenith :: Lieutenant-Colonel
    Join Date
    May 2010
    Location
    Unknown
    Posts
    8,731
    Rep Power
    45

    Default

    Your problem is that u cant be frends with her and our problem is that we reallh cant do anything about it! .. If she doesnt likes you then stop bothering her and get a life dude..

  4. #4
    SB Champion Lieutenant o00's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Posts
    1,557
    Rep Power
    16

    Default

    The only solution is that you should move on. She is not into you and you cant change her. What do you mean by positive? We can't give you false hopes man. You are not the only one in the world who did one sided love.

  5. #5
    radiant light ! Captain ariesgirl's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Location
    god's own country!
    Posts
    3,979
    Rep Power
    23

    Default

    many ppl face the same problem..but you can't do anything since she has stated her stand clearly..so just respect her decision..if you are still particular,keep trying..but if you think its really difficult to be just friends with her,break off the friendship too..
    Last edited by ariesgirl; 01-05-2013 at 02:09 PM.

  6. #6
    SB Addict mysticmantra's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Location
    פатЕѕ тο неГГ
    Posts
    603
    Rep Power
    27

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by aditya584 View Post
    Hello everyone,
    I have a very good friend but after I went overseas for my studies, I missed her a lot. I always thought about her. I knew I was in love with her.
    A few months back when I went back home for a vacation, I got my chance of meeting her (even she studies overseas and was there at the same time)
    So I decided I would confess it to her. I started by giving her small hints and indications. She understood them but didn't see anything happening between us. I was told by another friend that she only considers me a good friend and has no feelings for me, so I should stop this.

    I didn't knew what to do, wrote a letter for her and left. She later told me online that we can still be friends.
    But my problem is that I can't be just friends with her anymore and I don't even know what to do in order to get her back into my life the way I want.

    Looking for some positive replies and probably a solution!
    Bro two things wrong Ist you cudnt read her and second u shudnt have used third person in between. The only thing u can do ask why she is not interested and what u can do to get her.

  7. #7
    New Born
    Join Date
    May 2009
    Posts
    11
    Rep Power
    0

    Default

    Thanks everyone for the reply...I want to move one now. I've obviously had many infatuations, but she was the first person I really loved so I wanted things to work between us.
    But I m still pinning some hope by maintaining small communications as she too hasn't been in a relationship for 5 or 6 years and she confessed that arranged marriage seems to be the only option for her. On the other hand, I do want to be that so called 'Chipku' by continuing to bother her every now n then.

  8. #8
    SB Addict Neha1's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Location
    Himalya ki vadiyon mei
    Posts
    818
    Rep Power
    18

    Default

    Brother just a piece of advice for u. love n all crap is just crap.v love like idiots,sacrifice ourself,laugh n cry with them but the person on other hand choose what is best for them. so best of luck for your future.i hope at the end u dont feel like a fool or betrayed.

  9. #9
    ..Yaar Patialavi.. Lieutenant-Colonel a_decent_1's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    Location
    Wanderer
    Posts
    10,498
    Rep Power
    53

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Neha1 View Post
    Brother just a piece of advice for u. love n all crap is just crap.v love like idiots,sacrifice ourself,laugh n cry with them but the person on other hand choose what is best for them. so best of luck for your future.i hope at the end u dont feel like a fool or betrayed.
    Don't blame LOVE because you fell for a Jerk.
    Blame the Jerk.

    G'day
    Miss you Dadaji

  10. #10
    SB Wizard Captain theachiever's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    Location
    Earth
    Posts
    2,849
    Rep Power
    45

    Default

    It can be at times the most painful thing when someone you really like does not have the same feelings towards you.But that's what life is all about.You win certain things and you lose certain things.......Try to move on and accomplish something great in a journey called life........probably you deserve someone much better........If she has conveyed her message accept it and move on......
    Wenever you miss sumone dont close your eyes to get der image into your head . . Jus pick da damn phone and cal dem . . .

  11. #11
    SB Addict RoleModel007's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    Purgatory
    Posts
    881
    Rep Power
    39

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by aditya584 View Post
    Thanks everyone for the reply...I want to move one now. I've obviously had many infatuations, but she was the first person I really loved so I wanted things to work between us.
    But I m still pinning some hope by maintaining small communications as she too hasn't been in a relationship for 5 or 6 years and she confessed that arranged marriage seems to be the only option for her. On the other hand, I do want to be that so called 'Chipku' by continuing to bother her every now n then.
    Good Lad.

  12. #12
    New Born LiveLif3's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    168
    Rep Power
    23

    Default

    neha I know you have been hurt very badly but please try to be positive. I know it's easy to say but hard to do. I also know that you are a strong girl. Life is not about crying for ppl who don't deserve you but smiling for ppl who loves and care for you.. Be strong and be positive and in the end you will feel it was worth it... God bless you Take care...

    Quote Originally Posted by Neha1 View Post
    Brother just a piece of advice for u. love n all crap is just crap.v love like idiots,sacrifice ourself,laugh n cry with them but the person on other hand choose what is best for them. so best of luck for your future.i hope at the end u dont feel like a fool or betrayed.

  13. #13
    Banned Major General
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Location
    Happy New Year maccha :D
    Posts
    30,578
    Rep Power
    0

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by aditya584 View Post
    Hello everyone,
    I have a very good friend but after I went overseas for my studies, I missed her a lot. I always thought about her. I knew I was in love with her.
    A few months back when I went back home for a vacation, I got my chance of meeting her (even she studies overseas and was there at the same time)
    So I decided I would confess it to her. I started by giving her small hints and indications. She understood them but didn't see anything happening between us. I was told by another friend that she only considers me a good friend and has no feelings for me, so I should stop this.

    I didn't knew what to do, wrote a letter for her and left. She later told me online that we can still be friends.
    But my problem is that I can't be just friends with her anymore and I don't even know what to do in order to get her back into my life the way I want.

    Looking for some positive replies and probably a solution!
    Bas tu move karte rehgaya..

    Apan bolta..


    Mauke pe chauka maarne ka.

    Chauka miss hogaya toh kya hua naya bowlerni aayegi.. Phir maar chauka...


    Ball toh miss hogaya re tera.. Over khatam hone ki deri he bas, tu bhooka, agli waali bowlerni phenkegi toh sixer maardena... Sharam se sirr jhukake bolegi tujhe.. You bowled me over yaar!

  14. #14
    New Born
    Join Date
    Jun 2013
    Posts
    37
    Rep Power
    11

    Default

    a girl named neha in my class hav eyebrows that of a ape-woman .

Similar Threads

  1. Who is the Good Friend ?
    By praveen190881 in forum General Discussion
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 14-03-2013, 08:45 PM
  2. The good friend has the following qualities:
    By sheikh in forum Chit Chat Corner
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 16-09-2010, 05:34 PM
  3. I dont want to be his good friend
    By Unregistered in forum Ask Preeto / Agony Aunt
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 08-09-2010, 10:50 PM
  4. Good friend!? >>>>> How To Be A Good Friend
    By j_bilal in forum General Discussion
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 20-03-2009, 09:08 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •