I have been reading this forum for a long time.. I like the way people reply in their advise.. Its quite useful.. I also faced few problems mentioned in thread and it did help.. Thanks a lot it.. I am stuck with very difficult problem in life at present and want advise on it..
I am 22 yr boy in love with same age girl. We have been in relationship for 4 yrs now. I always have been a career oriented guy. We both are very happy with each other. I happened to go US for one year for studies. Still, the spice in relationship for perfect. We used to talk everyday on calls and video calls. We rarely had fight with each other for 4 years. Only one thing my girl complained to me was she said yes to me very soon. She likes freedom and wanted to stay single and enjoy life more. I think it was my mistake I proposed her when she was just 18 yr old and she said yes. It was too young age for both to fell in love. But, it never created problem during 4 yr of relationship. She is very beautiful girl and am average looking boy.
After I returned from US, she confessed to me that she felt attracted to another boy in my absence. I took it positively and supported her feelings. She was guilty on attraction and said she still loves me and it was just attraction and she will get over it. I never forced her and slowly things got normal. She forgot about that boy. She joined a job in Delhi and was living in company quarters. Couple of weeks after joining she again confessed to that she feel attracted to another boy in office but feeling is temporary and she will get over it. I got bit worried at this point. I took this opportunity and discussed why this happening. She confessed to me she never felt attracted to me but also she loved me because she wont get such loving person in life. Moreover she is little superstitious, as one "baba" (astrologer) told her she is not heading in correct way in life. She regrets taking decision on me soon.
As result she requested me to take temperory break up for sometime so that she can feel love and attraction to me. Its been over a week now we havent talked. She just texts me that she misses me but wen i try to talk she never responds properly and says she enjoying life as single and want more freedom. Till date I havent forced on her for anything. But problem is I am very much used to her. I have considered her as life partner. Its difficult to spend a day without her.
I am confused that she puts two contradictory things together that she loves also and doesnt feel attracted. I deep inside heart understand her problem. But brain doesnt understand it. Fights have increased now like nothing. I dnt wana see end of such a beautiful journey. I need advise how to stable such a situation. I can't see her sad and also can't bear pain caused by her.