No sexual attraction to wife

[Yaksh_D]

Dear Mam

Ive been married for almost a year now, Im perfectly fit , its a love marriage, my problem is that i dont get aroused by my wife, or im not sexually attracted to her. Im not comparing her to anyone, but i do get aroused when i look at other girls, I even met my college friend we both got attracted to each other but i didnt go into the affair as i was married, what can be the reason. my wife also complains i dot have sex with her. in our entire relationship we have hardly had sex for not more then 15 times approx for past year.. what can be the reason.? please guide. :-/

[Preeto Maam]

OK- so you do get attracted to other women but not to your wife, although you do love her. It looks like there's something in your mind that's stopping you from looking at her as an object of desire- maybe you feel somewhere or the other that your wife should be respected and should not be an object of desire...

Anyway, one way out is to see and experience some erotica together. That does set the tone and the mood for further progress- maybe some films, some magazines...try it and see how it goes.

[MICHEAL BARBOSA]

this is every mans problem my friend, even if ur married to katrina kaif, in few years ul start liking other women, i had had enuf gud lukin gals but cant keep having sex with jus one rest of life, so u see my friend in short man is a dog.

[atiqsyedpk]

dangerous for maritial life . . . .

[himansh]

hmmmm
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[ariesgirl]

agreeing with preeto's reply..
And imagine you guys are still in a relationship,i mean not yet married and that she is your girlfriend..and think that you guys are gonna make love,get physical,..may be things would get better..

[Inspector Pathan]

late night adult movies....

[don99]

this is every mans problem my friend, even if ur married to katrina kaif, in few years ul start liking other women, i had had enuf gud lukin gals but cant keep having sex with jus one rest of life, so u see my friend in short man is a dog.

what are you saying man!!! :O Is it true?????

[sens]

Hiii!!!


take your wife to beauty salon.. get her good new make over... nice new clothes... make her feel good about herself... love her... & then see the glow on her face.... & then u see how u feel atttracted to her/..

[murtazas]

U need to do role playing stuff... stuff of dreams and fantasies...

[Nonika]

Well, let me tell u the other side possible story.

You did not go for affair bcoz you know that you dont feel attractive to ONLY ur wife.
But if your wife is noticing this which is obvious thn she might starts feeling its not enough for her or count can get down to 4-5 a yr thn she might go for an affair.
and Believe me this possible as you were already abt to fall for someone from college. Married ppl do look for someone who can hide the secret with them.

Hope this reality check will help you to feel more attraction/affection for her as she might be attractive to others and she can too feel that outside the marriage.

So better save your relationship ....

Hope this will help you !!

[o00]

You love her? Purely platonic love? I doubt it. There is something which you have not shared in your post. You need to elaborate more.