Mom in law getting physical

[! K !]

maintain a safe distance from her. ask your husband to take you abroad with him. what else?

[barbiedoll]

yes i agree but i have given solution for her query only.

You just thinking from the point of view of DIL. why do not you understand that MIL is also a female. She s widow. She needs some physi*** satisfaction as well. I absolutely agree that this is not the way to full fill ur urge but somewhere down the line, she is expecting it from her DIL, not from a stranger. Even DIL is also living alone, so it would not be too problematic for her to have it for few days. It will vanish as some time passes. Ultimately it will strengthen relation of both with each other. And if her husband comes to know then she will definately spoil the relation of Mom Son n MIL DIL. MIL will be left with no other choice (if her son also leave her)
Its very sensitive yet solvable problem within themselves. Go ahead DIL n just do it for your MIL.

Firstly dear, if DIL would have liked her MIL's approach, I dont think she would have come to this column asking for solution. Will she?

Even if your words have to be taken, DIL would be cheating on her husband if she succumbs to her MIL's intentions. Ethically, none of us can support cheating.

Secondly, we cant be biased towards MIL. She might be a widow but definitely this is not the way to approach her own son's wife to satisfy her urges. Added to that, DIL doesnt seem to like.

This is just my opinion. It might differ from yours. Lastly, as we all know, its upto the questioner's choice to follow the advice of members given.

[ManyataKB]

Exactly. She has just asked the question BUT she may change her opinion after knowing the fact that her MIL needs her in this phase of life. N what do you mean by cheating? are you kidding me? She s not sleeping with any other random MAN here.. its just between the same gender which, i am sure, will vanish after some initial excitement. Let them go through it. Her MIL will definitely stop this all by herself after some plays between them. No one will cheat either. N More on that, by any means it will make there bond much stronger than before. rIght?

[adirocksit]

Exactly. She has just asked the question BUT she may change her opinion after knowing the fact that her MIL needs her in this phase of life. N what do you mean by cheating? are you kidding me? She s not sleeping with any other random MAN here.. its just between the same gender which, i am sure, will vanish after some initial excitement. Let them go through it. Her MIL will definitely stop this all by herself after some plays between them. No one will cheat either. N More on that, by any means it will make there bond much stronger than before. rIght?

so sleeping with a known person is not cheating ?? .....While being married, sleeping with a Random MAN or Random WOMAN or a known MAN or WOMAN specially who is your relative....It all comes under the Category of CHEATING !!!!......and what is the guarantee that her MIL will stop?......To make their Bond stronger, every MIL should sleep with their DIL ??...what kind of insane logic is that ??....Is that the only choice left for widows ???....Thats hilarious..

[neo29]

A first case I have ever heard ... Best is to not sleep over at your mil place . don't tell your husband . solve it by maintaining your distance

[Shravan6886]

Until unless u r sure of her intentions of getting physically involved with u, don't judge her. There might be pretty hard chances that u misunderstood her. People do have tendencies to put there arms around or land their legs on the other person sleeping around them. So, unless she has done something which is totally cannot be explained there are very good chances that u are wrong about her.

And if u are sure of it, then try talking to her directly in a more polite way than like confronting kind of way.

[valk]

i really like u and ur comments manyata..whenevr i come in dis forum i read ur comments 1st

[ManyataKB]

what?? mind ur tongue..
n my comments r my opinion. if any1 wants 2 agree then f9 else leave ur comment here. Priya will decide which way 2 go. You guys dnt answer my opinion.
N still i m saying, she should go with it. Its nothing harm. Physical satisfaction is imp.

[RoleModel007]

@ManyataKB,
I come in peace and I mean no harm madam. But, why do I get a strange feeling that you are the MIL in disguise!

Further, if women were to sleep with others just out of sympathy then I would be living the sex-life of Charlie Sheen. Even Eve (allegedly) went like 'Show me the money, honey' when Adam tried his hands on her for the second time! It simply doesn't happen that way or does it?


@valk,
I can totally see where you are coming from!


@Priya,
Some juvenile suggestions...
1) Tell her she reminds you of your grandmother.
2) Get one of those random family kid to stay with you.
3) Ask you husband to stay with you or vice-versa.
4) NO-MEANS-NO
5) Give up showering/ Apply strange balm citing medication/ Apply that strange facial and sleep.
6) Separate bed or room. Period!
7) Tell her she is not your type or league.
8) Show her this thread you posted. 'Nuff said...


and finally, talking about 'keeping it within the family'... were is @Logical_Guru when you need him?

[Logical_Guru]

O Priya Priya,

I really thought this would be a case of abuse for dowry and the MIL is beating you up. But, what a surprise!!

First, let us address the MIL issue. In most Western societies, she would have moved in with a partner or taken a part-time lover. Maybe, even married someone. You seem to be her only option, although you failed to elaborate if it was just a cuddle or she can munch on a carpet four hours.

Second, In India, we still need to come to terms with homosexuality. It is still a taboo although the courts have taken off the illegal status. I still remember Shabana Azmi and Nandita Das in Deepa Mehta's Fire. It was so beautifully portrayed.

Third, you seem to have taken the right step in moving out rather than involve the Law. And let me confess, most of the men I know love to see two women making out. The only thing that beats that is to be in between them.

Fourth, I do not agree with Manyata that you have to give in to her advances, irrespective of the possibility of your encounter being pleasurable. Sex is an act of passion, not a duty. If it is considered duty, then the Maid should do it.

Fifth, if you want to find a remedy, I would contact the local clergyman / priest and ask him to perform an exorcism. You would need to convince your husband that she has developed deviant tendencies due to demonic possessions.

@RoleModel, Lastly, some things (like charity) begin at home, but the neighbor's stew eventually turns out to be better than your Biriyani.

Unfortunately, our Society is just like what Al Pacino says in the Devils Advocate - "See, but don't touch, Touch, but don't taste, Taste, but don't swallow"...

[Lisbonstar28]

O Priya Priya,

I really thought this would be a case of abuse for dowry and the MIL is beating you up. But, what a surprise!!

First, let us address the MIL issue. In most Western societies, she would have moved in with a partner or taken a part-time lover. Maybe, even married someone. You seem to be her only option, although you failed to elaborate if it was just a cuddle or she can munch on a carpet four hours.

Second, In India, we still need to come to terms with homosexuality. It is still a taboo although the courts have taken off the illegal status. I still remember Shabana Azmi and Nandita Das in Deepa Mehta's Fire. It was so beautifully portrayed.

Third, you seem to have taken the right step in moving out rather than involve the Law. And let me confess, most of the men I know love to see two women making out. The only thing that beats that is to be in between them.

Fourth, I do not agree with Manyata that you have to give in to her advances, irrespective of the possibility of your encounter being pleasurable. Sex is an act of passion, not a duty. If it is considered duty, then the Maid should do it.

Fifth, if you want to find a remedy, I would contact the local clergyman / priest and ask him to perform an exorcism. You would need to convince your husband that she has developed deviant tendencies due to demonic possessions.

@RoleModel, Lastly, some things (like charity) begin at home, but the neighbor's stew eventually turns out to be better than your Biriyani.

Unfortunately, our Society is just like what Al Pacino says in the Devils Advocate - "See, but don't touch, Touch, but don't taste, Taste, but don't swallow"...

hahaha ! i'm in stitches laughing.
reps added for all the wrong reasons! lol