I have married two months back. we have done an arrange marriage. After our engagement we didnt talk much. I tried but she always ignored my calls. Everytime i asked her whether she is engaged with anybody or is there any pressure on her for the marriage but she refused. After our marriage, she refused to make any physical relation with me without siting any reason. I asked her about her past life. She told me about some guys with whom she was not serious. I ignored all these things and told her that I am not interested in her past life. i am just interested in her present and future. she behaves very good with my parents and takes care of them and me very well. But everytime when it comes to any physical contact she denies. I presuded her for physical relations. We did something but could not do the whole thing because she refused in the middle. Also, she does not let me put the light on. I did everyting in the dark. So, neither i was satisfied nor me. Suddenly one day before this physical contact, she told me that she was seriously engaged with some guy for three years and wanted to marry here but her parents refused for inter-cast marriage. I told her that if still she wants to marry that guy then i can arrange that. But she told me that she does not want to marry him now and she is very happy in my family. The problem is this whenever i ask her for physical relation, she avoids. and I everytime think that whatever i am doing(oral or real sex), i am doing without her permission. she is not invloved. thats why i always return from the middle. she likes my company very much, but is not comfotable in physical relation. We are married for almost two months, but i have not got any real feeling from her for physical relations. Now, i also dont try to even kiss her and she never does on her behalf. I dont know till what time we will live like that. I love her very much and thats why i havent told my parents about this because then the things will go to her home also. I dont want that she feel insulted and she does anything under pressure. I one day told my mother about this and after that only she agreed and we did something but that also without anybody's satisfaction. I stopped my mother to tell this to anybody in my home and in her home also. Now, my mother thought everyting is fine. But the problem is still there. I cannot tell my mother again because she will tell her mother and i dont want to make any relation with her under pressure. I want she herself realise what she is doing.
Maam i dont know what to do and want ur help.