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    Hi All,
    I know it sounds crazy, but it's a fact - My life is being ruined by an Android phone which I had gifted to my wife on her birthday last year.
    Last year in April, on my wife's birthday I had gifted her an Android Phone. Since then, she is COMPLETELY ADDICTED to it. She has made a lot of online friends and she is always chatting with them. Due to her addiction, my 3 years old kid, our house and our relationship, her health, everything as a family is badly suffering.
    Due to this addiction, she has become extremely careless in whatever she does.
    Her interactions with her son has reduced to merely cooking for him and feeding him. She does not spends any quality time with us as a family. Our communications has reduced merely to daily errands. The kid is getting completely ignored, and is not learning things to the extend to which he should have learnt. The only time which kid gets to play with someone is when i come home from office. Until then the kid is either put to watch tv or plays all alone, even though his mom is right within the house.
    The house is ill maintained. I have to come back from office and get the house in order. All household work is on me because she "does not gets time" to take care of household. Even when we are with relatives & in other social occasions, instead of interacting with elders and other family members, she is on phone. Due to her behavior, it is creating problems in our family.
    Until 2 - 3 am, she chats on the phone and gets up at 7 am tired. Since she uses phone even when she is preparing breakfast & getting other things ready for the day, she takes more time. Because of which we leave home very late and is having an impact on our respective offices also.

    whatever she does - be it cooking, driving together, feeding the kid, office, shopping, having food together and even when she uses the toilet - she is on phone, always chatting with her friends.

    I have tried to talk to her about this multiple times, but she blatantly refuses to admit that she has an addiction. She says I am being too finicky about this simple thing. She quarrels with me whenever I take this point out. She refuses to admit the problems being created by her behavior. She even blames me that she is on phone because I am not with her.


    I do not know how to best put it in words, but probably i have managed to show the tip of the iceberg.

    Please Help !!!!
    Taking her phone away is not a solution as she can always buy a new phone. I want her to use it responsibly instead of getting addicted to it.

    Last but not the least, I love her very much.

    - Android Victim

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    Wow! Thats an issue all right and well, it maybe a while before she realises that she is letting important things go by and spoiling the quality of life for the family and home. I guess, you're going to have to talk to her again- and tell her just how serious the problem seems to be getting. Without doing the blame thing, very seriously, speak with her and your concerns. If you feel that she's not listening to you then get her friends or family involved- but after telling her that you will be speaking to them about it otherwise she will think that you've been complaining.

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    Chatting? With whom? Tell her that you are not comfortable with her chatting with stranger "friends" over the phone. She has to stop chatting and texting, and I dont think there is anything else on the phone which will keep her glued to the phone all the time. Ask her to uninstall all the social networking apps, skype, whatsapp etc. .. she can keep news apps etc. If she refuses, then there is a problem..make her parents and family members aware of her addiction and let them know that their daughter is not listening to you at all and needs to be talked to. Convince her to get better hobbies like sports or something creative etc.

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    There are 4 people you need to sue. Alexander Graham Bell, Martin Cooper, Sergey Brin and A Raja. There is one person you need to spank - That is yourself.

    People become slaves / addicts to strange things. The Internet, the mobile phone, the friend's wife, the neighbor's underwear, the wife's ex-boyfriend and so on. Your wife is indulging in vicarious activities that helps her feel liberated. However, this is just an illusion. She is a victim to the web cast by the technology firms who are ably assisted by marketing and PR firms. The Telecom service provider is equally guilty.

    I would disconnect her telephone or ask her to leave the house with an unlimited data package as her alimony. The need to stay connected, endorsed, recommended, comforted and consoled has taken over all our other needs. It has cast a looming shadow on our responsibilities. The next time you wish to buy a gift to your next wife, I would recommend a treadmill.

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    Sorry to hear that your wife is ignoring her family and social life due to her addiction.

    I think you can try few tricks and also think of more tricks depending on your circumstances. This may take a while but I hope she will realize sooner or later.

    1. Plan weekend outing or picnic with your kid only and do not ask or involve your wife at all. Or even plan a short vacation with your kid without involving your wife.

    2. Visit your friends or relatives with your kid only and do the same thing as above.

    3. Ignore your wife completely at home. I know it is not easy but she needs to be in the same situation she put you in.

    4. Sometimes leave some notes (mentioning how you miss your lovely wife or a sweet mom of your kid or something of the sort) when you leave for your office.

    I really hope that your wife will understand and return to her life. Good luck!

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    I KNOW THIS WIL SOUND CRAZY BUT THER ARE A LOT OF MARRIED GIRLS LIKE THIS, THEY EITHER USE BB,WATSAPP OR FB CHATS TO CHAT WITH GUYS WHO R FLIRTING WITH THEM THEY ALSO INDULGE IN CASUAL PHONE SEX, MOST OF THESE GIRLS R RESTRICTED TO PHONE AFFAIRS ONLY, VERY FEW GO OUT AND SLEEP AROUND AS IT INVOLVES BIGGER RISKS, MY DEAR FRIEND TAKE HER OUR FR A HOLIDAY FOR 3-4 DAYS ND SORT THIS MATTER OUT, ELSE VERY SOON UR WIFE WIL BE IN SUM1 ELSE BED, MAY B MINE

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    5. Ask her (or request) for a "NO-PHONE-1-Hour-Time" daily or on alternate days or weekends whichever suits you. Ask her to promise that all the phones will be shut off during that period no matter what. Make sure to spend that time with your wife and kid in a positive and cheerful ways such as cooking together, playing games, going for walks etc. If she agrees to it and follows it, appreciate her efforts staying away from the phone.

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    try washing the phone thoroughly with soap...it will work...

    other things that could work are:

    1. Smashing it against a wall...
    2. Running your car over it...
    3. Playing kick boxing with it...
    4. Taking it swimming...
    5. Using it to measure the depth of a cliff...

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    she's on an addiction spree, watever u say, her habitual dependency is gonna make her deny & resist the change...
    u both neee to see a marriage counsellor asap...he/she vl make her realise its a serious problem n she ain't understandin'd gravity of d situation!
    once she understands its seriousness n d effects, she vl start responding n vl accept d correctional de addiction routine provided by ur counsellor!

    I had once suffered from excessive loggin in at sbf during exams in 2012, somethin' really helped me back then in restrictin myself, m sharin' it here wid u...




    So, do you feel you are one of the addicts too? (Now don't ask the definition of social media addict - if you're one, you'll know it inside)... Then, here is a simple five-step guide to curb it (well, if you wish) before it gets you completely.

    Admit: A very healthy and promising start! Although can be difficult and humiliating, admit this fact. Be brave and tell yourself - 'Yes, I'm addicted to social networking sites' (and do that in no proud way).

    Declare: Be as loud about your admission as possible (and it doesn't mean sending 'updates' and posting it on 'any' walls). Declare it in your close circuit; so the family, friends, well-wishers (who themselves aren't the sufferers) start taking it as a duty to help and strengthen you in this turbulent task.

    Tally your time: Put timers, alarms, sit with a stop-watch; but once and for all, track down (honestly) how much time you everyday spend on social networking sites. If you are keen on recovering from this addiction - this process should embarrass you, resulting in an automatic improvement.

    Cut your means: Cell-phones were originally used to make calls and receive them. So even if there is no net connection, it doesn't become any less useful. Stop net connection on phone. Also, your office is where you 'work'. Just because office pays for the net-connection, doesn't mean it pays for the reactions that your constant log-in to all your networking sites brings upon you. Find better mans to entertain yourself.

    Open the doors and go out: Start physically meeting and confirming the existence of people who 'like' you and your talents. Talk to them, one-to-one; share things, face-to-face; embrace the magic of human touch, friendship, parenthood in the real world - it's definitely more addictive in all better ways.

    hope it helps u consider a few options..all d best!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kk12 View Post
    Sorry to hear that your wife is ignoring her family and social life due to her addiction.

    I think you can try few tricks and also think of more tricks depending on your circumstances. This may take a while but I hope she will realize sooner or later.

    1. Plan weekend outing or picnic with your kid only and do not ask or involve your wife at all. Or even plan a short vacation with your kid without involving your wife.

    2. Visit your friends or relatives with your kid only and do the same thing as above.

    3. Ignore your wife completely at home. I know it is not easy but she needs to be in the same situation she put you in.



    I really hope that your wife will understand and return to her life. Good luck!
    Trying this for some time is feasible i feel ... bcos no matter what you say ... she is not going to listen to u
    An alternative would be complaining to her parents because after all said and done your kid is missing out on his mom's nurturing .
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    Dear Android Victim, I am sorry there is no 'APP' you can download for this .

    Alright, jokes apart. As with any addiction, the first step to overcoming it is to admit the problem. For that you got to make your wife realize that she has a problem.1) Show her the phone bill (compare before and after she started to use).
    2) Calculate from the bill the amount of time each day that she uses her phone and make her realize that.
    3) Then ask her to google NOMOPHOBIA in the internet.
    4) Take her to doctor/ therapist and make her aware that 'Mobile-phone addiction' is a real thing.

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    There indeed is one Application that can be downloaded for this. It is called a Divorce application. I would recommend the Webster's dictionary for NOMOPHOBIA.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RoleModel007 View Post
    Dear Android Victim, I am sorry there is no 'APP' you can download for this .

    Alright, jokes apart. As with any addiction, the first step to overcoming it is to admit the problem. For that you got to make your wife realize that she has a problem.1) Show her the phone bill (compare before and after she started to use).
    2) Calculate from the bill the amount of time each day that she uses her phone and make her realize that.
    3) Then ask her to google NOMOPHOBIA in the internet.
    4) Take her to doctor/ therapist and make her aware that 'Mobile-phone addiction' is a real thing.

    lol.. nomophobia never knew such things also exists!

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    i also have android phone & i can tell u that i don`t chat on that so don`t blame the phone lol

    online frnds can be made on any phone not just on android

    what she`ll do man ur the problem man don`t give her proper time & attention so she chat u know what problem is u just want a perfect wife who cooks take care of child nothing else then it`s all good
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    Dear Lieutenant,
    I have already spoken to her multiple times, in all of her moods but the moment this point is taken out, her pitch increases and she is on her way to create a scene.
    I have also got her mom involved, of course after intimating my wife, but it backfired. He became even more furious for getting her mom involved and no change in her online activities...
    please help...

    - Android Victim

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