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    Hello Mam,


    I am a 26 years old girl in a relationship with a guy and planning to get married in the end of this year. Everything is fine as his and my parents are happy with this relationship. My Bf is a very good person and love me a lot, he takes care of me like a child. He gives me importance, time, surprises, listen to me and do all good things to keep me happy. He is good looking, well settled, honest, smart, responsible and a very good person. He has very good sense of humor and makes me laugh. We are in this relationship from 10 months and we started physical relationship from last month. The only problem is that he has small penis about 4 inches and I do not feel satisfaction after sex.


    I love him a lot and I know if I will say no to him, I will not be able to find a person like him. He is very good in everything he does except sex. Apart from sex he makes love with hugs and kisses and always make me feel special. My family also like and respect him and my nephews/nieces and family members enjoy more with him than me. But my parents are very supportive and they will support me if I say no to him.


    I had a doubt that may be after sex his interest in me will decrease and behavior might change but neither interest neither his behavior has changed. I am writing all these because you can understand what type of good person he is.


    I know he will love me and take care of me for all my life but sex dissatisfaction point is distracting me.


    After my parents and grand parents he is the only person who loved me so much and respected me. He has very good understanding and always teach me a lot of things and because of all these, I do not want to hurt him and his self-respect, at-least not after marriage.


    please tell me, should I give importance/priority to sex over all other qualities? if Yes then why and if No then why. Please help me, I do not want to ruin my and his life

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    It all depends on you. For a normal female, penile length of her partner is not something she will keep before the other important things. You guys can still have enjoyable sex as there are many techniques for men with short penis to satisfy their partner. Google it out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alisha14 View Post
    Hello Mam,


    I am a 26 years old girl in a relationship with a guy and planning to get married in the end of this year. Everything is fine as his and my parents are happy with this relationship. My Bf is a very good person and love me a lot, he takes care of me like a child. He gives me importance, time, surprises, listen to me and do all good things to keep me happy. He is good looking, well settled, honest, smart, responsible and a very good person. He has very good sense of humor and makes me laugh. We are in this relationship from 10 months and we started physical relationship from last month. The only problem is that he has small penis about 4 inches and I do not feel satisfaction after sex.


    I love him a lot and I know if I will say no to him, I will not be able to find a person like him. He is very good in everything he does except sex. Apart from sex he makes love with hugs and kisses and always make me feel special. My family also like and respect him and my nephews/nieces and family members enjoy more with him than me. But my parents are very supportive and they will support me if I say no to him.


    I had a doubt that may be after sex his interest in me will decrease and behavior might change but neither interest neither his behavior has changed. I am writing all these because you can understand what type of good person he is.


    I know he will love me and take care of me for all my life but sex dissatisfaction point is distracting me.


    After my parents and grand parents he is the only person who loved me so much and respected me. He has very good understanding and always teach me a lot of things and because of all these, I do not want to hurt him and his self-respect, at-least not after marriage.


    please tell me, should I give importance/priority to sex over all other qualities? if Yes then why and if No then why. Please help me, I do not want to ruin my and his life
    BTW you posted the same query twice, I hope the admins merge it. On a separate note, maybe there is something wrong with you are you will not be able to enjoy with a fellow having a 10 inch rod. Get yourself tested or experiment with someone else in case you have not done yet. Else pease elaborate more on what you mean by 'I do not feel satisfaction after sex.'

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    Dear Alisha,

    In my honest opinion, as prospective partners, exploring Sexual compatibility is an evolutionary step in the approach towards marriage.

    1. If he is unable to thrust his man meat deep enough to fill in your cavities, there would be a disappointment. If there are other performance related issues, they could be sorted out, where some women achieve earth shattering orgasms through clitoral simulation (see how nicely clit and oral are dovetailed) and not through Vaginal intercourse. Many men tend to leave a Vacuum despite their best efforts.

    2. If you overlook this shortcoming in your fiance over his other virtues, there is a possibility of the frustration growing from a small boil on your backside to a malignant tumour that would dwarf your mammary glands. You could even develop a deep hunger for dark meat and go shopping for those sausages.

    3. All our parents, grand parents, nephews and nieces will also agree that most fights are resolved on the bed. There is nothing better than to Fcuk and Make Up. Now, if the resentment and dissatisfaction stems from the bed, then one needs to uproot this stump and plant a new sapling that will grow to be a healthy trunk.

    Logical Guru is the internationally renowned, right thinking moral source of good advice on all topics related to Sex, Spirituality and shortcomings in marriages.
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    Excuse me asking but how many times have you had sex with a man with a huge tool ?

    They say - The less a man has, the more he tries.

    The one who has a big tool has nothing to worry about, hence tries lesser. !


    Please sound like a mature girl and set your priorities right. Sex is just a part of married life and it is not like he cannot have sex at all. In your 50 years of marriage compare how many times would you have sex to how much time you'll spend together talking, living and enjoying !

    With due respect, he may also be dis-satisfied with something in your body.. Maybe he does not like the way you have sex with him, maybe he is willing to overlook all this to spend life with you.. !

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alisha14 View Post
    Hello Mam,


    I am a 26 years old girl in a relationship with a guy and planning to get married in the end of this year. Everything is fine as his and my parents are happy with this relationship. My Bf is a very good person and love me a lot, he takes care of me like a child. He gives me importance, time, surprises, listen to me and do all good things to keep me happy. He is good looking, well settled, honest, smart, responsible and a very good person. He has very good sense of humor and makes me laugh. We are in this relationship from 10 months and we started physical relationship from last month. The only problem is that he has small penis about 4 inches and I do not feel satisfaction after sex.


    I love him a lot and I know if I will say no to him, I will not be able to find a person like him. He is very good in everything he does except sex. Apart from sex he makes love with hugs and kisses and always make me feel special. My family also like and respect him and my nephews/nieces and family members enjoy more with him than me. But my parents are very supportive and they will support me if I say no to him.


    I had a doubt that may be after sex his interest in me will decrease and behavior might change but neither interest neither his behavior has changed. I am writing all these because you can understand what type of good person he is.


    I know he will love me and take care of me for all my life but sex dissatisfaction point is distracting me.


    After my parents and grand parents he is the only person who loved me so much and respected me. He has very good understanding and always teach me a lot of things and because of all these, I do not want to hurt him and his self-respect, at-least not after marriage.


    please tell me, should I give importance/priority to sex over all other qualities? if Yes then why and if No then why. Please help me, I do not want to ruin my and his life
    First n foremost you should not have had sex with your BF, now cat is out of bag. You know its size, color etc. Now you are already having doubt whether he could satisfy you thoroughly or not. So its your mistake of checking size of shastra.

    Now a girl like you surely if not satisfied with what you have in hand will go searching for something in another bush and end up having affair after getting married. So by screwing someone else after marriage you will be screwing your peace of mind, your parents peace of mind, your husbands peace of mind, your in-laws peace of mind, will face a adultery case and also a divorce case where you wont get a penny from your husband, and after all this will be left to search for some shastra in some other bush. That are the probabilities.

    Now that you are not satisfied with test drive of the car, you may as well test drive all cars in market till you are satisfied. But like that you will be termed as a b-i-t-c-h. So I suggest you buy off this car which you test rid, or else be prepared to termed as what I said above.

    Regarding priorities, there are many things other than sex. Sex you will have anyhow if you want to with husband or without husband, but as time passes in marriage one needs emotional content too, not just hooooo haaaaa and yes yes.

    As they change, your mindset will also change, so does priorities, after a kid or two, you would want your husband to press your forehead than there. Just wait n watch, nothing is concrete.

    Good luck.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alisha14 View Post
    Hello Mam,


    I am a 26 years old girl in a relationship with a guy and planning to get married in the end of this year. Everything is fine as his and my parents are happy with this relationship. My Bf is a very good person and love me a lot, he takes care of me like a child. He gives me importance, time, surprises, listen to me and do all good things to keep me happy. He is good looking, well settled, honest, smart, responsible and a very good person. He has very good sense of humor and makes me laugh. We are in this relationship from 10 months and we started physical relationship from last month. The only problem is that he has small penis about 4 inches and I do not feel satisfaction after sex.


    I love him a lot and I know if I will say no to him, I will not be able to find a person like him. He is very good in everything he does except sex. Apart from sex he makes love with hugs and kisses and always make me feel special. My family also like and respect him and my nephews/nieces and family members enjoy more with him than me. But my parents are very supportive and they will support me if I say no to him.


    I had a doubt that may be after sex his interest in me will decrease and behavior might change but neither interest neither his behavior has changed. I am writing all these because you can understand what type of good person he is.


    I know he will love me and take care of me for all my life but sex dissatisfaction point is distracting me.


    After my parents and grand parents he is the only person who loved me so much and respected me. He has very good understanding and always teach me a lot of things and because of all these, I do not want to hurt him and his self-respect, at-least not after marriage.


    please tell me, should I give importance/priority to sex over all other qualities? if Yes then why and if No then why. Please help me, I do not want to ruin my and his life
    Dear frnd, u r apprehending what will happen with ur future regarding sexual satisfaction thts true but fact remains tht no one can be perfect 100%. if someone is good looking, he has performance issues or some having having good performance may be ugly. thts universal truth. the case u have presented was similar of Draupadi who posed similar question before Krishna ultimately had five husbands in form of Pandavas. So, think before u wish for. For ur info the sensitive g-spot repsonsible for orgasm in females is located only 2.5 inches in ur genitalia. truth is satisfaction is more of a psychological thing rather than physical one.

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    Dear Alisha,

    It is very important for us to be open and clear about our Sexuality. Love throws up a lot of questions and more often than not, Sex is the answer. Let us look at all the qualities / virtues that we seek in a partner. Family Values, Romantic Inclinations, Financial Stability, Past baggage, Habits and Preferences, Religious beliefs, Career aspirations, Risk seeking abilities, Upbringing, Trust Issues and SEX.

    If Sex happens to be in the Top 5, you should look for another partner. Some women prefer to be dressed like a chicken, but you belong to a type who prefer to be stuffed like a turkey. There is nothing wrong in both types. And it would not be fair to him to let him know his shortcomings after marriage, where you end up drinking honey while gazing at the moon.

    Move on, and the next time you date someone, get under the table and take a good look.

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    From what you have described about him i feel he is truly a gem among numerous stones..and rejecting him just because of sexual compatibility issues would be a decision you would repent for the rest of your life...leave his performance issues,but im telling you guys like him are really rare and you are so lucky girl to have a guy like him in your life...what if the one you are gonna get after rejecting him is someone who won't give you peace and not keep you happy...in the long run,what that counts is how emotionally happy you would be when you are with him...if sexual compatibility issues are bothering you,try different positions...experiment...but never loose him...

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    Hi Friends

    thank you so much for your suggestions, I am a newbie here and posted same thread twice by mistake but happy to received some very valuable suggestions on both threads

    Your valuable suggestions forced me to think and then I thought on all views of the situation and Here are my responses for some questions and thoughts on some valuable suggestions

    First things first by words "I do not feel satisfaction after sex", I mean i not feel satisfaction after sex because point one is his small penis size and second his sex power he discharged in a minute or so

    "Inexperience does not allow him to experiment" maybe yes, he is not experienced in sex also I felt he was not comfortable while sex maybe he is not confident or knows about his sex power

    I feel that sex is very important part of life or I say married life but as above mentioned there would be huge time of life which I will spend in other activities of life and I found myself complete when I spend time with him and it’s also very important to me

    As most of you mentioned that the size (4 inches) is sufficient for sexual intercourse (though i do not feel satisfaction) and I have also read that the avg size of Indian man is around 5.5 inches so there is no guarantee that I will find a partner with good sex organ

    I have discussed the same with one of my best friends and she said we cannot do anything with penis size (I mean to increase penis size) but there are some medicine and treatment which can help to increase sex power. and I think i can discuss this with him as he is also aware about his sex power and I think after marriage i can discuss such things with him without hesitation which I can't discuss before marriage

    Regarding using toys, fruits and vegetables for sexual pleasure is not what I feel comfortable. So I am not sure that I can go with these options

    I had posted this question here because i do not want to spoil both lives and indirectly two families. I posted this question here because I want to sort out this issue right now and move ahead only if I am ok with it. I do not want to have regret later that why I not thought about this. And if I continue with this relationship, I would like to continue without any doubt
    Last edited by Alisha14; 18-01-2014 at 02:13 AM. Reason: edited some mistakes

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    He needs to see a urologist for PE/ED issues. Also, do let us know your final decision once you have made.

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    Sick Girl - What have you done? You blabbed about his size to your friend (Rolling on the floor laughin')
    If you had a spat with her sometime in the future and blabs " She married a 4" man" How would that make him feel? He'd feel betrayed, hurt and disgusted with you... it must scuk to be him in that position at that time!
    Maybe he should tell his friends the size of your tits, and when you get older he should make you do breast-augmentation/enhancement for your saggy tits.. (Assuming you've a nice set of tits right now)..wouldn't you feel betrayed and hurt???
    Things like this such as size, breast sizes are NOT meant to be shared with friends - they go on to blab sooner or later!
    As far you his size and your satisfaction goes, you clearly need a porn star - just advert " Only 6"+ size men with all night long capabilities come forward then you can try 'em all until you find whats best!"
    I feel sorry for him he chose someone like you aur aaj kal acche logon ki kadar hii nahin hai.... still rolling on the floor laughin'
    Last edited by VampireViking; 25-01-2014 at 08:33 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Logical_Guru View Post
    Dear Alisha,

    In my honest opinion, as prospective partners, exploring Sexual compatibility is an evolutionary step in the approach towards marriage.

    1. If he is unable to thrust his man meat deep enough to fill in your cavities, there would be a disappointment. If there are other performance related issues, they could be sorted out, where some women achieve earth shattering orgasms through clitoral simulation (see how nicely clit and oral are dovetailed) and not through Vaginal intercourse. Many men tend to leave a Vacuum despite their best efforts.

    2. If you overlook this shortcoming in your fiance over his other virtues, there is a possibility of the frustration growing from a small boil on your backside to a malignant tumour that would dwarf your mammary glands. You could even develop a deep hunger for dark meat and go shopping for those sausages.

    3. All our parents, grand parents, nephews and nieces will also agree that most fights are resolved on the bed. There is nothing better than to Fcuk and Make Up. Now, if the resentment and dissatisfaction stems from the bed, then one needs to uproot this stump and plant a new sapling that will grow to be a healthy trunk.

    Logical Guru is the internationally renowned, right thinking moral source of good advice on all topics related to Sex, Spirituality and shortcomings in marriages.

    hahahaha goodness gracious me!
    So may it be

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