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    Dear Preeto Mam,

    I am in a relationship and am physically active..
    The thing is that whenever we make out, I feel kinda irritation + guilt post ejaculation..
    And usually feel like running away in the morning when I stay with her overnight..
    And now we are having some tiffs and regular fights, disagreements..

    I am not sure but I am loosing interest in her and relationship..
    She is indeed beautiful and caring.. But dont know how to go past this negativity..

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    Hi! Well, if you feel irritated and edgy with her, then give each other some space instead of trying to spend a whole lot of time together. this phase does happen in relationships and its better to ride it out. Hopefully, its just a phase and it will pass.

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    To be more precise... I kind of feel irritated post Sex.. and kind of feel like running away and have a lone time rather than looking back into eyes of my gf.. Not sure what exactly is the matter causing this phenomena..

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    What you are having with her is only sex, there is no love between you two (or atleast from your side). This will lead to separation or a distasteful experience some day. Take a break from her, and try to check if you get the same feeling with other girls too.
    Last edited by o00; 02-01-2015 at 01:08 AM.
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    its mainly due to the sex...
    u wanted to have it.. now after few times of sex, u lost interest

    one disadvantage of pre marital sex

    better spend sometime away from each other... but unite soon.. preferably marry soon

    i dont suggest breaking with her bcoz u have small tiffs

    esp if she is loving u , i dnt suggest to break...

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    I would suggest you ask this question to yourself - what is the base of this relationship? Love/Lust/Loneliness/Peer pressure? Analyse deep. Take a break from each others after mutual agreement. If its only lust from ur end, but love n care from her side, irritation is possible. Generally, people who are deeply in love, do not have sex, they make love, and what I think they feel after the session is to kiss the girl, hug her, and actually fall asleep with her. Certainly not irritated.
    Analyse deep.. before coming to any judgement.

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    What I have in my mind is straight after having sex, if you feel to hug your girl and kiss her - it shows how much you love her.

    But if you are trying to run away, sorry to say i doubt that you love her.

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    Leave alone kiss or hug after sex, if you arent overwhelmed with love and joy when u look into her eyes, then its just sex. YOU DONT LOVE HER.

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    I think it has nothing to do with her, Try to think and find why you feel irritated. Do you feel the same even when you help yourself, If yes then please don't pass your irritation to her.
    This behavior might hurt her hard. And also try to thoroughly read yourself and figure out what thing is really upsetting you don't like her or having sex with her, or some act , or just its part of you that you feel irritated after having sex and if the last one is your case then I would say learn to manage your anger or irritation bcoz this can be very dangerous in long term and can make you live alone the whole life.

    and If you think its guilt then talk to her either get married or try to explain your problem to her, she might give you the best help.

    But please be sensitive to her and yourself.

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    Friend, I have been through this situation exactly and that was my first time with this girl. I too wanted to run away and was feeling guilty. Just because our culture teaches us that we should save our virginity for someone special (or for whom we marry). Its a dilemma lot of guys like us go through so don't worry. If you can stay away from her for a while, it will be sorted. Or else, stay with her but don't indulge in any act..
    Best of Luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by designkbc View Post
    Dear Akshay,

    I am also feeling similar situation. what did you do? Please suggest.

    Also did it affect your future relations? Did you feel same with ur future gf or wife?
    Atleast see the date and then reply. You are replying 3 yes old query.

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