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    well... i do know that even after regular sex guyz mastrubate... but doing it whenever free is insane... isnt it??? Its not even a year that i married him... and am afraid he is no longer intrested in me...

    Whenever he is alone in our bedroom... he is watching porn and doing it... it happens every time... its not like i refuse him to have sex... or i do not initiate...i dont knw whats wrong...

    I feel angry... sad... n embarassed to discus about this... i havent said a word about it to him...


    Any help please... its driving me crazy

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    Hi! yes, it could be pretty upsetting to have your partner indulge in this activity at all times, and perhaps its time that you do discuss it with him. Most likely, the message he has got is that its all right with you when he does it.
    So, start that conversation- lay down the rules about how much is OK....or not and then if he still persists, then you can see how you want to deal with it.
    Be firm, not shrill when you speak about this. Its not to shame him but to get your life on track that you will be having this conversation.

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    He is addicted (or on the verge of addiction) to porn. As preeto Mam said, lay down the rules, and don't let him cross your comfort zone. And just suggest him that he is porn addict, without being judgemental or pointing fingers. Just a honest suggestion. And let him decide and act what he wants to do.

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    Well i beg to differ from most of the answers here. Your husband is addicted to masturbation and porn is just a way of helping him do it. A male usually learns about masturbation when he is 13-15 years old. Right now if your hubby is in the 26-28 age bracket then he might have been masturbating for more then 10 years now. So sometimes for some males the pleasure in masturbating is better then the actual intercourse.and i feel this is exactly the problem with your husband.
    So you should explain it to him that you don't like him looking at other female bodies,whether it be real or on screen.talk to him regarding his masturbating problem and expain it to him as to how embarrassed you feel about it. You will have to increase the foreplay to an extent that he slowly gets dependent on you.i know the answer is kinky but there's no way out.

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    I really cannot get if this thing is a problem actually ! if u see ur husband masturbating on watching porn. What's wrong in it? This is just a feeling .. right ? Let him assume things in his dreamworld whenever he feels like. He isn't doing sex chat or online sex/cheating.
    But at the end its ur take whether to make it a big issue or let it go.
    Also u wrote all the time. Doesn't he do some job or eat, drink , sleep. only porn all the time ! Han then its an issue.
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    If you guys are having sex.....then this is normal.....your problem is not his masturbation, your problem is attention......you dont want him to have any secondary attention....that secondary attention could be anything -
    1. Masturbation
    2. Video games
    3. Hanging out with friends
    4. Watching TV

    If he is alone in his bedroom and doing anything, it shouldn't concern you.....if you are with him and still his attention is somewhere else then thats an issue......his alone time is not your business.......Infact you should try joining....it will sound disgusting but marriage is about joining in each other's gross habits....and maybe improve upon it.....if he's into porn....say you also wanna watch it....and then you guys could "do it"....if you dont like the porn he's watching, critique it in a healthy way....find a porn that you find less disgusting and watch it together.....then slowly slowly convince him that you guys dont need porn to have sex......that'll drive him away from porn and you'll be his porn (Sorry that sounded weird)......because its not about porn.....its about doing something which makes you loose yourself and feel happy.....and Masturbation, Video games, watching sports makes men loose themselves........Be that thing to him....make him that thing to you.....Marriage is all about doing things together.....
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    Turn him off when he is masturbating or watching porn, cut off wifi, fart or do other stuff. Be creative.
    You never know what you can become ..

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    Hi


    Watching pornography is generally nothing to do with how satisfied he is in his sex life. He could be absolutely satisfied, and still get a bit bored when you aren't around and decide to watch some porn. It could be that boredom that motivates him, not being dissatisfied with anything. If he was watching porn whilst he could be having sex, that would be a concern. But otherwise...

    Have you thought about introducing porn into your sex life? This could remove the taboo and make it something that you share together. If that makes you feel uncomfortable, maybe there are a number of other boundaries that need to be broken down before you can get there with him. Why not work on that, rather than worry about the porn so much?

    The worst thing you can do to a man is ACCUSE him of watching porn. It makes the act humiliating. Instead, ask him what are his favorite categories or genres when he does watch it. Turning it into a positive understanding will be attractive to him. You might find out that the answer might be enjoyable to engage in or act out. Ask him to email you a video clip that he loves. Email him a video clip of an acted-out fantasy of yours!

    Bringing it all out of the hiding would most likely add or create excitement in your marriage. Your approach means everything. Your husband is human. He has needs. If he is good to you, be good to him.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ace of base View Post
    Well i beg to differ from most of the answers here. Your husband is addicted to masturbation and porn is just a way of helping him do it. A male usually learns about masturbation when he is 13-15 years old. Right now if your hubby is in the 26-28 age bracket then he might have been masturbating for more then 10 years now. So sometimes for some males the pleasure in masturbating is better then the actual intercourse.and i feel this is exactly the problem with your husband.
    So you should explain it to him that you don't like him looking at other female bodies,whether it be real or on screen.talk to him regarding his masturbating problem and expain it to him as to how embarrassed you feel about it. You will have to increase the foreplay to an extent that he slowly gets dependent on you.i know the answer is kinky but there's no way out.
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    How about you start masturbating when he is watching tv or working on his laptop. Moan loudly and surely he'll feel disgusting and might ask you to stop. Then explain you feel the same. But if he feels aroused by seeing you masturbating, then its a win win situation for you and you know what to next . Have fun lady.

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    im pretty sure...he'd be more interested in "trying" rather than "watching" porn. adapt...improvise and excel
    .......here we go again

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    Quote Originally Posted by oceanseleven80 View Post
    How about you start masturbating when he is watching tv or working on his laptop. Moan loudly and surely he'll feel disgusting and might ask you to stop. Then explain you feel the same. But if he feels aroused by seeing you masturbating, then its a win win situation for you and you know what to next . Have fun lady.
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    its just that he is addicted to it..and can't get over it...u can do only one thing...have sex more often in day like 3-4 times..by dis he will get addicted to u and ur body..so will reduce masturbation slowly slowly..u will have to b patient..b proactive not reactive

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    If he is masturbating himself help him doing it and then talk about what you feel

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    gift him XXX DVDs..make him embarrassed...

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