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    Default Female Sexuality And Female Orgasms


    Orgasm, Orgasm, Whose Got the Orgasm?




    The problem

    Surveys and clinical experience confirm that between 10 and 15 percent of all American women have never experienced orgasm and only around 35 percent of the female population will orgasm during intercourse. Failure to orgasm at all or difficulty reaching orgasm during intercourse has stirred much concern among women and among their partners, causing one, the other, or both to feel inept or dysfunctional.
    The definition
    An orgasm, of course, is the much sought-after conclusion to a period of high sexual arousal. During her excitement, a woman’s body packs blood into her clitoris, labia and tissue surrounding her ******l opening. Physical tension builds, as does the subjective experience of sexual arousal. If an orgasm occurs, the blood is released from the genital tissue and the woman senses a warm wave of intense pleasure in association with each strong contraction of her pelvic floor muscles. After an orgasm (or several orgasms if the woman is multiply-orgasmic) both mind and body relax, as the woman bathes in her quiet post-orgasmic after-glow.
    The confusion
    Many reasons for the failure of a woman to orgasm have been proposed: anger, ignorance, guilt, inhibition, and fear of losing control and letting go, to mention only a few. There are those who have pointed to hormones, to sexual abuse, or to clumsy men. There is confusion about ******l verses clitoral orgasms, questions concerning G Spot stimulation and curiosity about the pelvic floor exercises. In a recent article in a health food journal, a woman who earned her Ph.D. in Communications has suggested that the reason women are not orgasmic is because of low desire, and then goes on to push what she calls the "sex vitamins and minerals." It is clear that people who claim expertise in vitamins should not write about sex, and those who specialize in sexuality should not write about vitamins! (And perhaps women who study communication should stick to writing about communicating.)

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    Default "how Will I Know If I've Had My Orgasm?"


    "HOW WILL I KNOW IF I'VE HAD MY ORGASM?" </B>The easy answer to the questions is, "You can't miss it!" While that is probably true, that answer does not help the woman who has never had one. Since the orgasmic awareness is such a subjective experience, it might be best to begin at the physical level, and in doing so to begin at the beginning.
    A Typical Physical Orgasm
    Ideally the sexual response begins with a physical hunger. Call it what you will... sexual desire, libido, or horniness. Desire is the yearning between the ears. It is the motivation to sex sexual pleasure and release. The next step in the "sexual response cycle" is arousal. As a woman becomes aroused (turned on), physical changes begin. Blood is sent down into the tissue of her genitals. Her genital lips will swell a bit and might spread open. Her clitoris, (often called the pleasure bud) is composed of spongy *****ile tissue that engorges, enlarges, and firms. The clitoris becomes exquisitely sensitive to touch. As the woman responds the muscles around the entrance to her ******l will relax and the slippery lubricant will seep out from its opening.
    During arousal a woman's ****** might firm. Some will develop a slight rash (call the sexual flush) on their chests. Breathing is likely to change and blood pressure will increase.
    With continued stimulation, most typically and effectively focused on the clitoris, the orgasmic woman will mentally experience her rapidly escalating excitement. Her breathing pattern will change, her psychological awareness will focus on the stimulation, and she will probably close her eyes. As this builds, the typical woman will feel her body begin to tense. The muscles in her legs, pelvis and abdomen will tighten. This is called hypertonicity and should not be a reason for a woman to stop! Many women exaggerate their automatic response and consciously tighten the muscles surround their ******l opening. In fact, a small number of women can orgasm with no external stimulation at all, simply be tightening their abdominal/pelvic muscles. I few have discovered this while working out at a health club!
    No one quite understands the neurological build up or what the exact orgasmic trigger is (or where it is located). But, the excitement builds to a point that a strong reflex is activated. The muscles in the woman's pelvic floor (called the PC muscles) begin to automatically contract, and the resulting subjective experience of these contractions are the waves of intense pleasure that sweep through the body. Some women will moan, some will cry out, some remain silent. Some women thrust with each contraction, some do not. As the orgasm subsides, some women cry, some laugh, but most just "purr."
    I should be quick now to add that if you were to ask twelve orgasmic women to describe their climactic experience, you will get twelve different answers. This may in part be dues to slightly different physical reactions, differing types of stimulation, dissimilarity between expectations, and idiosyncratic psychological interpretatons of the event.
    Different Physical Responses
    During the orgasmic response, as noted above, the muscles of a woman's pelvic floor rhythmically contract. For most women (who have not had hyst*****omies) their uterus will also contract, although not in synch with the PC muscles. The awareness of these uterine contractions vary among women (and some women might only have been aware of them during a pregnancy). A woman whose awareness is mostly of her pelvic floor contractions will speak primarily of the waves of pleasure. A woman who is mostly aware of her uterine contractions is likely to emphasize a deep feeling of warmth. A woman who experiences a blended orgasm will talk of both the waves and the pleasure deep in her pelvis.
    The awareness of the pelvic floor contractions are to some extent dependent on the tonicity of the PC muscle band. The better toned the muscles, the more intense the orgasm. (A link to an article on the Kegel Exercise for the PC muscles can be
    Different Stimulation
    Women are likely to describe a difference in their orgasmic experience, depending on the type of stimulation that brought them to their climax... oral, vibrator, manual. Women are likely to describe a difference between reaching orgasm with the manual stimulation by a partner and reaching orgasm with self-pleasuring (masturbation). Women are also likely to report a different experience depending on whether or not there is something (a dildo or a *****) in their ******. It is sometimes easier for a woman to orgasm with one partner than it is with another, even though she is unsure of the reason.
    Clitoral vs ******l Orgasms
    It is pretty much accepted that try to distinguish between clitoral and ******l orgasms is a confusing and worthless undertaking. If a woman is able (as some are) to reach orgasm with ****** stimulation, should we call this a "****** orgasm?" And what about the small number of women who can think themselves into a climax. It makes better sense to talk of the location of the orgasmic response, rather than the site of stimulation that triggered it. Above was mentioned the pelvic floor orgasms, the uterine orgasms, and the blended orgasms.
    The question of clitoral or ******l orgasms is really about whether a woman should be able to orgasm during intercourse (or with a dildo). Should a woman be able to orgasm with just ******l stimulation? It might be nice, but the answer is "No." Can some women orgasm just with ******l stimulation? The answer is "Yes." Is the G Spot somehow involve? The honest answer is "Maybe, but maybe not. Do most women orgasm with ******l stimulation alone? The answer is a resounding "No."
    A Woman's Expectations
    What a woman expects, how she believes she should respond, and how she thinks she should act will all impact how she experiences, behaves during, and reports her orgasmic event. A sexual response is a complex blend of many physical and psychological variables.
    So how's a woman to know if she is getting close?

    • Be patient
    • Focus stimulation on your clitoris
    • Focus awareness on your clitoris
    • Allow your body to tense
    • Be patient
    • You will feel yourself on the brink of something new
    • Be patient
    • You will experience a breaking through... going over the top
    • Your body will take over and the contractions will begin
    • You will experience intense waves of pleasure
    • Your body will relax as you enter the warm afterglow
    • You will know contentment
    Last edited by funny bone; 09-04-2007 at 03:32 AM.

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    Default How Will I Know If My Partner Has Had Her Orgasm?


    HOW WILL I KNOW IF MY PARTNER HAS HAD HER ORGASM?
    Women react differently to their orgasms, and so there are no guaranteed indicators that your partner has made it... other than those that you must learn from her. Everything listed below is qualified and must be clarified and verified with each new partner.
    You will most likely feel her body begin to tense as she approaches the jumping off place. As she gets close she will probably stop talking, she is likely to either hold her breath or pant, and she will probably begin to bear down.
    If you have a finger in her ****** when the orgasm is very close, you might feel the inner two thirds of her ****** suddenly balloon out (called tenting) or tighten down (called A framing). Your partner will be totally unaware of these changes deep within her ******. There might be an increase in her lubrication.
    If you have a finger or two inside her ****** when she begins to orgasm, you might very minor contractions around the opening (these will be major internal earthquakes for her). As she orgasms she might make sounds, might thrust, or might just remain motionless and quiet.
    It used to be thought that firm ******s (****** *****ions) were a sure sign of a woman's orgasm but this is not true. It certainly might be a sign of her arousal, her anxiety, or her reaction to the cold!
    Some women will expel a clear watery fluid (the female ejaculate) out through their urethral opening with their orgasmic contractions, but this is not typical. This female ejaculation comes from where a woman urinates, but it is not urine. It does not come from her ****** and it is not slippery. Since female ejaculation is uncommon, it is not a reliable sign that a woman has reached orgasm, and even women who do ejaculate might not do it every time.
    Some women are able to have more than one orgasm during any encounter. For some, they must take a brief break between orgasms, although remaining aroused, but other women can go practically non-stop from orgasm to orgasm. While some believe a woman can learn to be multiply orgasmic, most who are never remember having learned it... some just seem to have the ability.



    In summary... the best way to know if your partner has had her orgasm is to establish open and honest communication about your sexual expectations, desires, and the experience the two of you share.

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    Default What's An Orgasm And How To Have One?


    WHAT'S AN ORGASM AND HOW TO HAVE ONE?

    FEMALE FAILURE TO ORGASM
    It has been estimated that between ten and fifteen percent of American women have never experienced orgasm, and the percentage might be even higher in countries in which there is less sexuality information available. There are many reasons for a woman's failure to climax, including such things as sexual ignorance, sexual anxiety, or a fear of letting go. Some reasons have more to do with the woman's partner, who might also be ignorant of sexual anatomy or hold unrealistic expectations of how a women reach orgasm. A man who rushes foreplay believing he must finish the job with intercourse might well leave his partner frustrated.
    A PERSISTENT SEXUAL MYTH Many men and women still believe that women should orgasm during intercourse. That is, women should all be capable of ******l orgasms. Many people even refer to orgasms during intercourse as the only "right way" to get there. In reality, perhaps thirty-five percent of women can indeed climax during intercourse, but the vast majority of women never have and probably never will. In fact, most of the women who do orgasm during intercourse are only able to do so because they are in a position that provides effective clitoral stimulation.
    FEMALE SEXUAL ANATOMY
    Female genitals are variations on the same theme, but no two women look exactly the same. Thus, a single drawing cannot look like every woman. However, the one presented here portrays all the essential "parts" of a woman's vulva. At the top is the clitoral hood, in this drawing it appears quite fleshy. The hood may be thick or thin, might cover the head of the clitoris, or allow it to be exposed as shown here. Whether the hood is thick or thin, covers the clitoris or not, seems unrelated to woman's ability to orgasm.
    Beneath the clitoral hood lies the clitoral shaft. The length of the shaft will vary among women, just as ***** size varies among men. The head of the clitoris is rich with nerve endings and is the most sensitive part of a woman's vulva. Most women require clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, although the sensitivity of this small organ will vary among women. For some women direct stimulation of the clitoral head is pleasurable, but for others the head is too sensitive and stimulation of the shaft works best. Sexual communication can be essential in redirecting a well-intended finger or tongue.
    The small inner lips might be thin or full, short or long. Often, as in the portrayal above, one lip will be larger than the other. Nothing on one side of the human body is a mirror image of the corresponding part of the other side, and so asymmetrical genital lips (labia) are not uncommon and should be no cause for concern.
    A woman's urethral opening, from which she urinates, is below the clitoris and above the ******l opening. Often this opening cannot be seen without close inspection.
    The opening to the ****** is below the clitoris, perhaps an inch or so, and in most positions of intercourse is not in "the direct line of fire" of a trusting *****. The walls of a woman's ****** are relatively insensitive, although there is certainly feeling in the muscular opening (first inch) and there is clearly a sense of containment. The role of the "G Spot" is probably minimal, although some women do report "hot spots" deep inside.
    WHAT HAPPENS WHEN A WOMAN HAS AN ORGASM?
    As a woman approaches orgasm, her body will naturally tense. This is called hypertonicity . A woman should not attempt to undo this natural process, but rather allow her body to do what it needs to do. This hypertonicity might last anywhere from a minute to twenty or more. When sexual excitement reaches a certain threshold, there is a neurological "orgasmic trigger" which his pulled. This threshold is lower for some women than for others.
    Women will report their subjective experience of orgasm in their own unique ways. "A rush of warm feelings," "an explosion of pleasure," "waves of ecstasy, and so on. Most, however, will identify the waves of positive feelings associated with the physical contractions of their pelvic floor muscles. The best way, then, to objectively describe an orgasm is as a series (six to ten) of strong muscle spasms that radiate positive feelings throughout the entire body.
    If a woman who has never experienced orgasm wants a small sample of that experience, she can rhythmically contract her pelvic floor muscles. Then multiply these sensations by one hundred! If a woman does not know where these muscles are, she should read the article on the Articles page that describe the Kegel Exercises.
    For many women, there will also be uterine contractions during orgasm, but many will not feel these unless pregnant. Follow a hyst*****omy, some women report a change in their orgasmic experience, but others will not.
    The period of relaxation and warm feelings of contentment that follow an orgasm has been called the afterglow. There women who are capable of going on an experiencing one or more additional orgasms. No body knows why some women are multiply orgasmic and others are not.
    WHAT ABOUT FEMALE EJACULATION?
    A small percentage of women will expel a clear fluid when they orgasm. This fluid comes out of the urethral opening, and is often mistaken for urine. This fluid is quite different from a woman's sexual lubrication, but many people believe that a woman who is exceptionally wet with her slippery lubricant has ejaculated. This is not so. The lubrication comes for small glands just inside the ******l opening and is thick. The ejaculate comes from the urethral opening and is watery.
    Despite claims that women can learn to ejaculate, there is not evidence that this is possible. Some women expel fluid, others don't. Either way, this should not be of concern.
    CAN A NONORGASMIC WOMEN BECOME ORGASMIC?
    Women can learn to become orgasmic and there are several good self-help programs available, including my book, PATHWAYS TO PLEASURE, coauthored by Cynthia Ruberg, Sexuality and relationship counselor. The exception video BECOMING ORGASMIC is sold from this site. I also recommend the book FOR YOURSELF by Dr. Lonnie Barbach (available from amazon.com).
    For many woman, their first attempts to learn are on their own. If this does not work, however, or if there are psychological blocks the woman cannot overcome on her own, therapy with a qualified sex therapist is recommended.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pwincess Bollywood View Post
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