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    I met this guy thru a public chat forum. I am 29 and he is 30. He proposed me in 2013 to which I accepted in 2015. I am a doctor by profession. he is an engineer.

    He says he needs time to settle. How to make him realise tht its already too late for us to marry ? And also I think we are too compatible and I don't want to loose him. how to take this forward and make him realise tht we have whole life to settle ?

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    Hmm...well, maybe you should now bring your family (and his as well) into this and take the whole thing forward in a more formal way- after his consent of course. You are ready for marriage, and he should give you a timeline which is acceptable to both of you, so that both of you and your families know what and when to expect. Specially since you are committed to each other, this is important for a feeling of stability.

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    If you cant make him realize that, then you two are not fit for marriage yet.
    You never know what you can become ..

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    Only thing you can do is involve your family... Let them meet him formally.. Let your family have a meeting with his family... You can at least have a final decision on this matter when families are involved... Even if it means getting engaged for the time being and getting married a few months later...
    if he still avoids meeting your parents or anything related to it,it's time for you to realise that he has no marriage plans on cards...
    Give people roses while they can still smell them. . .

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    why dont you tell him directly, there is no substitute to clear, crisp, unambiguous communication. men love it, especially coming from a girl.

    if you have done that already, and still he is still not convinced, i doubt there is anything more you can do. you can talk to him about future scenarios. but if still doesnt work, then either of you have to compromise. welcome to married life 101 - compromise. there is no right or wrong.
    Ek din sher banke jeene se behtar hai do din sher banke jiyo...

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    Just talk to him firmly n make him realise tht once u are gone there is no coming back then. I think this wud b enough for him to take a decision.
    Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive

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    File a rape case against ur BF. He'll surely accept d marriage proposal.

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    simple , talk to him clearly , know what is his problem , why he wants time to settle , tell him ur problem , tell him u wana get married now , talk to him face to face that will be better , anyways tc , bye

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