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    Hi
    I am going to be 27 now and still a virgin. I think I am getting desperate to get laid now.
    I recently got out of a relationship with a rather sexy girl and we both had even planned to go about it. We had done some stuff bt nt sex. i found her very immature and kiddish and knew there ws no future. I called the relationship off before something further happened. The possibility of sex was the only reason i could hav stayed longer but if i had done it and then would have left her, it would probably have been wrong to her. Although both of us wanted sex but probably she had an emotional reason to go for it and mine would have been purely physical (as after all the fights and immaturity on her part, i felt disconnected emotionally. I actually felt sad for her immaturity.)

    So my question to all the guys who hav had multiple partners is that how do u go abt it? How does casual sex work? Isnt there a possibility of the other person expecting more out of it and in process getting hurt?

    Am i overthinking? I am actually a noob when it comes to all this.

    I am decent looking (neither very very attractive that a girl would want a one night stand just coz of my looks n physique nor that dull that no girl would want to be with me). I am intelligent, well qualified, have a decent career, am a semi professional guitar player, an ambivert. I can totally hav a girlfriend but making a girlfriend just for sex would nt be the right thing to do as i may hurt the other person in the process.

    I have all kinds of fetishes that i want to fulfill now. I cant really wait for the 'One' to come to my life. I am already a lil late to lose it i guess. I always thought it would happen on its own eventually but it didnt. I really want to have a lot of sex but i dont want to hurt anyone in the process. I sometimes feel i should go for the hooker route as both of us would know what we are there for and there would be no emotional hurting.

    I also think that i should do all of it rite now as my future partner may or may not fulfil all my desires and that may (nt sure on this one) make me wanna hav bangkok trips. I really wouldnt want to cheat on my future partner. So i guess i should hav all the fun rite now. 😬

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    Well, you can start thinking about weather you need to make trips to Bangkok much later. the nice thing is that you are a decent fellow who is averse to taking advantage of a girl- and that's really special. Most fellows wouldn't think twice before going for it!
    Having said that, 17 is not really a ripe old age though your hormones are obviously playing hell into you! But a nice girl who suits your preferences may come along and sweep you off your feet. Really, these things happen when they do- no forcing them!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Preeto Maam View Post
    Well, you can start thinking about weather you need to make trips to Bangkok much later. the nice thing is that you are a decent fellow who is averse to taking advantage of a girl- and that's really special. Most fellows wouldn't think twice before going for it!
    Having said that, 17 is not really a ripe old age though your hormones are obviously playing hell into you! But a nice girl who suits your preferences may come along and sweep you off your feet. Really, these things happen when they do- no forcing them!
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    Give people roses while they can still smell them. . .

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    You really seem like a despo... but at the same time I appreciate you for not using the girl you were in a relationship with...
    Not sure how long you can hold on... You might end up on bed with someone soon.. But before going to thailand, let me warn you... Chances of STDs are more likely when it comes to escort... Why don't you get married soon? It's not mandatory that a marriage has to be love marriage all the time... You are old enough to get married and your urges are at the peak.. So look for a partner through arranged marriage...
    Give people roses while they can still smell them. . .

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    You sound like a teenager with a perpetual boner. Jerk off and move on to a new day with a different goal.
    You never know what you can become ..

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    Quote Originally Posted by o00 View Post
    You sound like a teenager with a perpetual boner. Jerk off and move on to a new day with a different goal.
    +1 .
    Ek din sher banke jeene se behtar hai do din sher banke jiyo...

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    you are overthinking. you have been watching lot of hollywood stuff, and been with guys telling you exaggerated stories of their love life. whatever you have is normal. having fantasies and sexual feelings is normal. you will get the girl who will sleep with you, just have patience. you can go for the hooker, but dont think your situation warrants it.
    Ek din sher banke jeene se behtar hai do din sher banke jiyo...

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    you are 27... you should find a life partner and get out of this worry forever...

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    Come on bro. Why go to Bangkok when you can get girls to bang your kok in Mumbai, Delhi, Bangalore, wherever the heck you are? Thailand is for old men and losers.

    If you want to be player, if you want to be man who has casual sex, you must embrace non attachment. You have too much attachment. You must assure yourself from the beginning what your goal is and that your goal is to have sex with x girl, and once you are with her the goal is to keep doing so. It is best that she too understands but this is not essential. You need to then master the art of finding hookups. Get all the apps. OKcupid, POF, Tinder, Happn. Get some good pics of you having fun outside, with friends, with good clothes, so you look popular, athletic and fashionable. It is not hard to do. Then swipe away. You cannot just rely on apps though. If you are to master casual sex, you must master the art of the approach. There are 2 main forms - nightgame (traditional style in bars and clubs) and daygame (randomly during day in college campus or coffee shop - harder to do, but in the right context so long as you play it casual it can be pulled off - the mark of a true pickup artist). I suggest start with nightgame. Go out to a city bar or club. Works better with 1 other dude (wingman). Offer to buy chicks drinks and you will get a chance to talk to them. Do not be boring. Do not ask the usual shit, what do you study, where do you work, how are you doing, etc. No. Straight up tell jokes and say whatever comes to mind to make them laugh and keep them interested in talking to you. Try to later exchange numbers or better yet offer to walk her home or take her back to your place. It can be done easily with the right tactics and tricks and enough confidence.

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