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    Hello to all,
    Iam happily married Since 2 years with a Baby.
    My husband has a Problem with premature ejaculation.
    Our Sex was Never longer than 10-30 seconds...so i Never had an orgasm.
    He Took a few medicine which Never helped. So i feel empty...
    I now fantasize about his married cousin...He too likes me too...writes me sometimes...but ofcourse Never Said anything out of track.
    I Know Thats wrong but what can i Do
    I waited Till My marriage for Sex and then this happened.
    Sometimes i want to sleep with Any guy for Sex...
    I recently bought a Sex toy ( which i was totaly against) now i manstrubate too.
    So iam Doing things which Are ethically questionable..but Because Lack of Sex..

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    Well, sex is important in a marriage but getting into a situation with a married cousin of your husband is risky and foolish! See, fantasising is one thing but trying to make that fantasy into a reality is foolhardy to the extreme.
    You have worked out a resolution of sorts by getting yourself a toy and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. But the decision or temptation to get into an extra marital relationship for sexual satisfaction, is questionable at best. And dangerous at worst.

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    why dont you discuss the situation with your husband, if he is understanding type. maybe he will take more efforts to resolve his issue. but going after other men for sex is not a solution, it might ruin your married life.
    Ek din sher banke jeene se behtar hai do din sher banke jiyo...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    Hello to all,
    Iam happily married Since 2 years with a Baby.
    My husband has a Problem with premature ejaculation.
    Our Sex was Never longer than 10-30 seconds...so i Never had an orgasm.
    He Took a few medicine which Never helped. So i feel empty...
    I now fantasize about his married cousin...He too likes me too...writes me sometimes...but ofcourse Never Said anything out of track.
    I Know Thats wrong but what can i Do
    I waited Till My marriage for Sex and then this happened.
    Sometimes i want to sleep with Any guy for Sex...
    I recently bought a Sex toy ( which i was totaly against) now i manstrubate too.
    So iam Doing things which Are ethically questionable..but Because Lack of Sex..
    i don't feel it is unethical to masturbate...else everyone would have a bucket of guilt...
    ask your husband to do it for you...that might lower your urge to have sex with anyone...
    on another note, if you cannot restrain yourself, then please pick someone out of the family you are in...

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    I guess "Saving" yourself till marriage didnt work out....A person (I wouldn't even say a girl or boy) like you with such fantasies should have experimented a lot with pre-marital relationships...Well anyway lets not talk about missed chances....

    Right now you need to concentrate on your marriage....Premature ejaculation is very common in men...You both need to do a lot of foreplay, lots of oral sex.....Tell him to go down on you...but b4 you can ask for it, you need to go down on him first...Tongues dont pre-ejaculate...so maybe there you might have a chance to get Divine orgasm.....Then after you both had your climax with oral sex, do the actual sex....bcoz it will take longer time than 10 seconds the 2nd time around...

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    Use the toy as much as you can, till you are saturated with orgasms. Stop expecting from your husband, infact stop having sex with him. You both can masturbate separately. Why waste time on sex?
    You never know what you can become ..

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    Sex is all in the mind and this is the reason some women can have orgasm without being touched.... so you both need to practice... encourage ur hubby to masturbate a lot... this will increase his stamina... you should also get involved and masturbate him several times.... make him watch porn and masturbate.... tell him to practice holding it as long as he can...
    Meanwhile you should also masturbate and let him do it to you.... oral sex is half the game...
    just think about sexy situations which can bring orgasm quickly.....
    masturbation is no sin.... so don't be guilty
    You should also try new positions to increase his time.... secondly tell him to count backward when he is about to go so that he can prolong....
    you can turn off the light and think that your hubby's cousin is ****ing you while you let your hubby ****... this will quick orgasm... imagination is the key here....
    but don't go into real stuff with that guy... it will ruin your life

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    Seek professional help to determine the cause, it might not be medical but perhaps psychological.
    So may it be

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    Hi,

    DONOT try to seek others for satisfying your fantasy needs. It will simple ruin your life. You feel guilty and broken than the situation you have. Ask your husband to do oral stuffs. Before your husband starts, do as much as foreplay and ask him to use his tongue and fingers to simulate yours. In addition to that ask your husband to use toy on you. This would help you to great extend.

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    learn to be slightly smart. If you don't find a solution now, this might lead to much bigger problem in upcming future. Sometimes ethics are to be kept aside. So either learn to totally divert your mind to other issues of life....or...step into the world of what you call SIN. What ever you do, remember that it's your life and should be totally your decision. If too much is the urge why don't you seek help from some frnd, as cousin can later create trouble for you.(if the cousin is giving you signs, thn surely you are a beautiful girl...thr must be a way out...hey wait you can masturbate...hmm isn't your problem solved..stay happy)
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    urge your hubby to stimulate u with fingers or orally till u orgasm.
    make ur own way to this solution

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    one of my female friend was going through the same problem,so she started dating with a guy on skype and bought sex toy just to satisfy her self,add me on skype i can help you with that, hulk.qureshi
    its better to satisfy your self through different mediums otherwise you gona die hahahah

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    Dear Happy,

    1. Would you still masturbate if your husband gave you 4 earth-shattering orgasms twice a day. Probably, Yes. Maybe Not. Unethical or immoral. Absolutely not.

    2. Would you fantasize being ridden by Daniel Craig if you were still sexually satisfied. Probably yes. Maybe Not. Not at all immoral.

    3. Sleeping with any Guy for Sex is similar to a starved person eating anything that is edible. Is it normal. Absolutely Yes.

    4. Do you want to keep it in the family? Dangerous, but depends on the husband's cousin. Can he ride two boats without sinking? Would you happily play second fiddle and reconcile yourself to the fact that he won't be snuggling up to you when you wake up in the morning?

    5. Is using a Toy unethical? Absolutely Not

    6. Would you seek gratification outside the family? Dangerous, but you can spare the blushes within the family.

    While it is too premature to give you the best (inter) course of action, if you are in your 20's or early 30's, I recommend a No Strings Attached purely Sexual relationship with a virile man, who is more giving than taking.

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    Honestly Speaking I don't find Fantasizing an ethically wrong thing. I call it being creative, being imaginary. It's good it's healthy. Many might not agree with me here, but since your partner knows that he is not in best of forms. Morally speaking He is on the wrong side. So if you are being driven towards another source, it is natural boss. But than we are living in this part of the country where your act might be consider as taboo, socially not acceptable. Had my wife been in such a situation I myself would have asked her to look out for someone else too, because why should she should suffer for me being on the wrong side.
    More over if you go for another partner(which is almost next to impossible as our ethics would stop you on every foot you take) just make sure that you don't mess up things. People in today's world have this tendency to take benefit out of every situation they get. Your Second partner might start black mailing you and mess up your life. Better take your husband in confidence first. Else avoid messing up things. People want a very very clean image, no body ready to face the facts that how dirty we all are actually. How Hippocratic life we lead.

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