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    Default How to move on with cheating husband?

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    My husband cheated on me and he is sorry for that. I know he loves me and I love him too. He's taking a lot of efforts and doing everything to make me happy. But somehow I just can't forget the thing and move on. I want to punish him,I want to make him feel the same pain which I did. But I cant be disloyal to him. Can you please suggest how do I punish him without cheating him and how do I move on???

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    Hi! listen, don't push this and try to normalise things so quickly. After a big shock like this, it takes time for things to settle down. A marriage is a delicate balance of trust and love, so when that gets shaken, the foundations of the marriage get rocked! This is not to say that things will not settle down, but give yourself some time to come to terms with the situation and whatever renegotiation you have to do later, can then be done.

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    you had posted here sometime back -
    http://forum.santabanta.com/showthre...eating-husband

    there is anger within you, and if you dont take that out it will remain there and turn into a volcano. talk to your husband and tell him that you need to get it out somehow. trying hitting him literally with pillows or something. taking out your physical energy might cool down your brain cells. i would like to ask dactar neha from this forum - dactar, are there any medical (psychological) ways to take this deep hidden anger out and pacify the brain?
    Ek din sher banke jeene se behtar hai do din sher banke jiyo...

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    You need to see a mind doctor, sadism is taking over your mind.
    You never know what you can become ..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chumki01 View Post
    Hi

    My husband cheated on me and he is sorry for that. I know he loves me and I love him too. He's taking a lot of efforts and doing everything to make me happy. But somehow I just can't forget the thing and move on. I want to punish him,I want to make him feel the same pain which I did. But I cant be disloyal to him. Can you please suggest how do I punish him without cheating him and how do I move on???
    there is no fixed way to move on...
    people say acceptance is the first step towards moving on...
    once you realize that you cannot change past, things will start getting better
    but ultimately it's on you..

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    If he is genuinely sorry then he must be feeling painful as well, time and talks are good healers but wishing pain onto him just because you are not feeling the empathy is not going to help repair the marriage. You don't have to rush looking for answers for now just give it some time
    So may it be

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    You may get in touch with me. I am an expert in solving such hate problems. Contact me via pm. Tittfortatt approach is best way to get over this. Then its square.

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    hmmmmmmmmmm am so sorry you had to go through such a pain. its not easy. but only time will heal the pain. give yourself some time. let him do this do appease your pain. with time it will be fine
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    give him a tight slap this is how you punish him and then move on......but this was suppose to be done the day you caught him....now its late...nothing can be done.....

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    forget the issue. try to live a normal life.

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    Normalise the situation and try to think harder about how you can keep him satisfied.

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