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    I am 30 female and got married last month. My problem is that I don't enjoy sex. We had love marriage and were in relation for last 3 years. I love my husband a lot and feel sexually attracted to him as well. I enjoy the foreplay part but somehow don't feel anything during intercourse. Infact it pains many times. My husband is very caring and tries to take care of my comfort all the time. I also fake enjoy sex but feel depressed at times.
    Is it because of my age? Have I taken much longer time to loss my virginity? I am slim though and physically fit too.
    I just don't want to consult a doctor. Do you think I'm abnormal?? Can I improve my situation without consulting a doctor or telling my husband??

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    Hi! No, you are not abnormal at all- you just haven't been able to identify your pleasure points and communicate them to your husband. See, pleasure is the responsibility of both the partners. So, maybe you should take charge of that and show what works for you to your partner. You will be surprises as to how much that will please him.
    Don't be shy about it- just work on yourself first to see what you like and don't like and then by verbal or non-verbal communication, indicate the same to him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    Hi,
    I am 30 female and got married last month. My problem is that I don't enjoy sex. We had love marriage and were in relation for last 3 years. I love my husband a lot and feel sexually attracted to him as well. I enjoy the foreplay part but somehow don't feel anything during intercourse. Infact it pains many times. My husband is very caring and tries to take care of my comfort all the time. I also fake enjoy sex but feel depressed at times.
    Is it because of my age? Have I taken much longer time to loss my virginity? I am slim though and physically fit too.
    I just don't want to consult a doctor. Do you think I'm abnormal?? Can I improve my situation without consulting a doctor or telling my husband??


    whats wrong in consulting doc ? why feel shy ? they are their to help you , i think u should take professional help that might help you solve ur problem and again enjoy life with ur hubby , dont have that mindset dont feel shy or embarced ,if there is a problem there is, u need to solve it ,tc

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    i think just give it some more time. maybe your hymen has not fully broken. also try to do things that you enjoy for a change. try seeing porn movie together and wait till you are super-charged. in short, try different things.
    Ek din sher banke jeene se behtar hai do din sher banke jiyo...

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    It is just you, if you dont enjoy/like it then you dont enjoy/like it. It is just a characteristic of you, so live with it. Nothing wrong with you though.
    You never know what you can become ..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    Hi,
    I am 30 female and got married last month. My problem is that I don't enjoy sex. We had love marriage and were in relation for last 3 years. I love my husband a lot and feel sexually attracted to him as well. I enjoy the foreplay part but somehow don't feel anything during intercourse. Infact it pains many times. My husband is very caring and tries to take care of my comfort all the time. I also fake enjoy sex but feel depressed at times.
    Is it because of my age? Have I taken much longer time to loss my virginity? I am slim though and physically fit too.
    I just don't want to consult a doctor. Do you think I'm abnormal?? Can I improve my situation without consulting a doctor or telling my husband??
    your problem might be better solved by talking to your husband...

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    Take it easy.. You said u like foreplay. try to enjoy things which you like and concentrate less on things u dislike

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    How do u know what is pleasure? U sure had sex outside. Premarital perhaps. Discussing with husband will lead to this sort of questions. Why unnecessary risk. Jaise b karta, karta toh he. Something is Bette than big thing

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    actually i understand why you feel u are abnormal. because in all porn movies you see all woman enjoying and excited during sex. you expected the same but reality is not that... YOU ARE NORMAL. many fake it in movies. reality is that there are different women. 80 % woman feel clitoral exicitement and 20 % viginal. and if you dont feel anything when he is inside its because you are the one who feel clitoral orgasm. unfortunately even if u change partner it will be like that because you get stimulated through clito ris . as far as pain is concern well its like that... it takes a lot of time to adapt my mum told me she stopped getting hurt after 3 years. you imagine that? porn movies and real life are not the same.
    all women are not the same. some women are tighter down there. so tight that only after normal child birth they get losen up. dont feel bad. you can still self pleasure yourself or concentrate more on foreplay. you can be patient for your hubby right? sometimes for the good going of a relationship we have to be patient.
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    seeing a doctor is better choice

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    Sounds like you have an STD. I would stay away from sex for now!

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