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    I am here with a very serious problem for which I don't have any solution and all the ways tried and used failed! I need some serious advice and guidance. I have been married since 3 years now I my wife is over weight (97 kgs) we share very good relationship when it comes to everything other than SEX it's been over one year since we had sex and the reason being I am not attracted to her at all. Before anyone judges me to be fake shallow or anything I just want to clarify that I am just 32 and my desire for sex is at its peak which is very normal! I have zero attraction towards her and she knows it. I have tried all the solutions in the books to tell her lose weight but she starts and gives up she is way too lazy and gives up way too fast. The relationship has reached a point where I am attracted to other girls and I am scared nothing wrong should happen coz I have lost patience now. Please help!! Sincere request!
    Farhan

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    Hi Farhan,

    Well, its an unfortunate situation! You do love your wife but understandably, you cannot force yourself to be attracted to a grossly overweight person.
    The thing is that she's going to have to understand how wrong things can go for the family. To begin with, I can't even start to tell you just how harmful all that extra weight on the body is- it needs to be shed if she doesn't want to deal with major health issues. After all, there's only so much that the organs can support!
    Secondly, its playing havoc with the relationship!
    Right now, she is in dire need of a dietitian and maybe even a counsellor. That weight needs to go! She'll look and feel much, much better and once she starts to shed the kilos, that's motivation enough to go on. The thing is to shed the first 5 KGs.

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    But I am judging u.. I think u r very pathetic! Instead of helping your wife you are trying to get out of the problem and find solace in another women...
    please remember everything is not about sex.. its her health too that is in risk!
    get a good gym trainer and dietician for her instead of whining on on about how u r not attracted to her anymore!
    and yes show her this inquiry post of yours I'm sure she will get enough motivation to lose weight!


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    Simple...just dont feed her.....give her ghaans-phoos....Thats what all skinny girls do....they don't eat food..
    just give her salad for breakfast
    then salad for lunch
    then salad for dinner
    thats it then you'll have Malaika Arora Khan in 8 weeks.....with whom you can get closer in the back seat of your rover...
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    I'm in love with the Shape of You



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    Losing weight is most difficult during first few days and then gets easier and easier. you need to take the matter in your own hands and force her to lose weight. tell her that this is the only way for her to save your marriage, emotionally blackmail her. also, if you decide to have sex then dont let her on top (for obvious reasons) !!
    Ek din sher banke jeene se behtar hai do din sher banke jiyo...

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    At 32, the desire is not at peak. It is during at the peak during teenage and actually it starts to fade away after 30. Anyway, was she slim when you married her 3 years back. You earned it man, now endure it, anyway the life is just less than half left.

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    Everything could be done with love and care.... depression due to no sex may be the reason of her over eating... try hard first and then you can proceed otherwise... have you taken her to nutritionist who can give her proper diet plan and guide her with lifestyle change? Have you enrolled her into weight losing classes or gym of any kind?
    The best thing to motivate her would be to join her in her plan to lose weight... go for a long walk at night or early in the morning together .... she won't get bored if you will be with her... if you don't want to spend money (which you should) find proper diet plan from internet... find the bad food habits in her routine and eliminate the food from your kitchen...
    Last of all .... nothing is impossible if you try with all your will... so try having sex in a dark room imagining ****ing a girl of your dreams :P have you ever heard "Cover the face **** the base"

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    simple diet diet n diet

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    Hi ma'am
    Hello all,
    I am here with a very serious problem for which I don't have any solution and all the ways tried and used failed! I need some serious advice and guidance. I have been married since 3 years now I my wife is over weight (97 kgs) we share very good relationship when it comes to everything other than SEX it's been over one year since we had sex and the reason being I am not attracted to her at all. Before anyone judges me to be fake shallow or anything I just want to clarify that I am just 32 and my desire for sex is at its peak which is very normal! I have zero attraction towards her and she knows it. I have tried all the solutions in the books to tell her lose weight but she starts and gives up she is way too lazy and gives up way too fast. The relationship has reached a point where I am attracted to other girls and I am scared nothing wrong should happen coz I have lost patience now. Please help!! Sincere request!
    Farhan
    bhai farhan... atleat u have someone to relate to .. to love ... hold hands.... a large chunk of men in india are facing other trivial issues bro .. and importantly accept her as she is . if she will change then she may say these things otherwise for you too ... i may sound harsh ... but dude ... hold her hands and take her on long walks.. this walk will do trick ... Always stay blesses you two ...

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    Hi there I have the same issue I am over weight but intimacy is good but yes I also want to loose weight as a I want a second child.. I am a woman and No I will NOT judge you... What I am doing is I am going to a doctor to see what can I do ro loose weight as I can;'t goto the gym due to my job and all that... Ask her why she can't loose weight and what exercise she likes to do and do that like I love swimming and I want to learn that and I like playing basketball and soccer I try to play those sports when I have time....

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    Push her to go to the gym. If she does not work she has no excuse. If she refuses you will have little choice other than to have an affair.

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    What is the meaning of SOS in heading of your query....
    Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive

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    Quote Originally Posted by Neha1 View Post
    What is the meaning of SOS in heading of your query....
    SOS is the International Morse code distress signal. I think more like his wife is about to burst due to overeating,
    Ek din sher banke jeene se behtar hai do din sher banke jiyo...

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    Quote Originally Posted by rv102938 View Post
    SOS is the International Morse code distress signal. I think more like his wife is about to burst due to overeating,
    Okay ...... got it...... sos is something different in medical term.
    Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive

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    Quote Originally Posted by Neha1 View Post
    Okay ...... got it...... sos is something different in medical term.

    WHAT?

    Ek din sher banke jeene se behtar hai do din sher banke jiyo...

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