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    Hi Preeto Mam...

    I have some serious concerns... initially i thought of going to a consultant... but then i realized who better than you...

    The concerns are about me...

    I am a software engineer... work for a reputed company... i am facing some problems in my professional life...
    there are some people in my team... other calls them proactive... yeah log har time boss boss karte hai.... boss ke liye ghar se khana late hai... sham ko cafetria se snacks laa kar unke seat per dete hai.. sir apke liye yeah laya hu... late tak baith kar gappe marte hai.. aur next day kehte hai ke hum 10 baje tak office mein the.... but mera nature aisa nahi hai... i do my work... come on time and leave on time...
    abbb.. mujhe aisa lagne laga hai ke managers and seniors sochte hai ke yaheee log kam karte hai... basically agar mein kahhuu.. to yeah log relation banate hai aur apne marketing karte hai... aur haste hue har baat bol dete hai... jis se message bhe deliver ho gaya... chaplosi bhe ho gaye... aur woh bhe.. haste haste...

    abb sabko lagta hai.. ke yahe hai log hai jo hai... bake sab bus aise he...

    i come office on time.. leave on time... abb mujhe samajh ni aa raha... ke mein kya karu... i cannot beat my own trumpet... kahe na kahe.. thode se ego keh lo... yaan self respect kej lo.. beech mein aa jate hai.. ke mujhse yeah wale kaam nahi hote...
    so what shall i do ?...

    i hope aap mere problem samajh gaye honge...

    this thing is causing problems in my nature as well.... mein socta rehta hu... and waste a lot of time... i dont know what to do

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    Hi! You can let your work speak for itself instead of getting into the rat race. However, be friendly and helpful when needed. the challenge is to remain true to one's nature while adjusting to the office environment. We can't really expect people to change, so either we start to look for another position, or manage the best we can until we are in a position to bring about a change.

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    Dekh simple si baat hai.....Software company me 2 tareeke ke log aage jaate hain.....
    Ek....jo Kaam ke hain....
    Do...jo thode bahut kaam ke hain par baki time chaploos kisam ke hain...with the right group of people....

    Either way....performance is measured in any reputed IT company....matlab tum apne kaam se matlab rakho....bas tumhare kaam me ek problem nahi honi chahiye....ya maybe kuch extra ordinary kardo to aur bhi accha......acchi performance ko koi ignore nahi kar sakta....telling you by personal experience....
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    Aur agar by-mistake performance achchi na ho, saamne wala group aage badh raha ho, fir bhi apna kaam bahut mehnat se karo. 2-3 saal me management ko pata lag hi jaata hai ki koun-kaisa kaam kar raha hai. Baatein karne wale itne saal tik hi nahi payenge.

    Some Tips: Wear good cloths (non-branded bhi chalega...bus press thik hona chahiye), have a good mobile phone (iPhone nahi to Asus, MI bhi chalega) That will help to raise your confidence level and improve your personality.
    All the best.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ajkool111 View Post
    Hi Preeto Mam...

    I have some serious concerns... initially i thought of going to a consultant... but then i realized who better than you...

    The concerns are about me...

    I am a software engineer... work for a reputed company... i am facing some problems in my professional life...
    there are some people in my team... other calls them proactive... yeah log har time boss boss karte hai.... boss ke liye ghar se khana late hai... sham ko cafetria se snacks laa kar unke seat per dete hai.. sir apke liye yeah laya hu... late tak baith kar gappe marte hai.. aur next day kehte hai ke hum 10 baje tak office mein the.... but mera nature aisa nahi hai... i do my work... come on time and leave on time...
    abbb.. mujhe aisa lagne laga hai ke managers and seniors sochte hai ke yaheee log kam karte hai... basically agar mein kahhuu.. to yeah log relation banate hai aur apne marketing karte hai... aur haste hue har baat bol dete hai... jis se message bhe deliver ho gaya... chaplosi bhe ho gaye... aur woh bhe.. haste haste...

    abb sabko lagta hai.. ke yahe hai log hai jo hai... bake sab bus aise he...

    i come office on time.. leave on time... abb mujhe samajh ni aa raha... ke mein kya karu... i cannot beat my own trumpet... kahe na kahe.. thode se ego keh lo... yaan self respect kej lo.. beech mein aa jate hai.. ke mujhse yeah wale kaam nahi hote...
    so what shall i do ?...

    i hope aap mere problem samajh gaye honge...

    this thing is causing problems in my nature as well.... mein socta rehta hu... and waste a lot of time... i dont know what to do
    1. No one is happy in this day n age. Har banda ro raha hai. So dont think that those who are driving in Honda City and having parties are happy. Sabka apna stress hai. Those who are single are sad. Those who are married are sad. Those who have kids have their own stress.

    2. Yes its true and Ive faced that as well. Those who come on time and leave on time and are busy with work will lack in appraisals and connections. But since its in your nature... never change yourself. Just do what you were born to do... and move from that company that gives you a bad appraisal. Infact aajkal appraisals mein kam boost milta hai aur jump mein zada. To kya fayda hi sir hello sir karne ka.

    3. Be cordial with others. resolve your issues. and move on. your work life balance must be maintained. Agar kal tum 1 lakh a month kamaoge aur zindagi bas 10 baje office se lekar 10-11 baje boss ke shoes chaatne mein lag jayegi aur ek ek rupees ki tension mein to bhi life ka kya maza. Your job is done in 9 to 6. Do that... aur fir choro. Kam salary mein zada maze lo. Koi bhi banda chest par ye paisa baandh kar upar nahi jayega.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ajkool111 View Post
    i hope aap mere problem samajh gaye honge...
    nahi bhai teri problem nahi samaj aayi. tu apne shabdo me agar spasht karta to jyada acha hota.

    waise tu hota kon hai dusro ki performance judge karnewala ya apne boss ko batanewala ki wo thikse judge nahi kar raha hai. mere kuch sawaal -
    tere aise kitne appraisals hue hai jo tune conclude kar liya ki tere boss unko in kaamo ke liye favour kar rahe hai?
    tune kaise conclude kar liya ki tere ghar jaane ke baad ye log sif gappe maarte hai aur kaam nahi karte? tu to waha maujud nahi hota
    IT company me hours sif naam ke liye hote hai. jab tu sif 8 hours kaam karta hai. tune ye kaise conclude kar liya ki tera kaam unse jyada hai?

    tere liye ek gaana hai - "dafliwale dafli baja" jiska teri language me arth hai "muchiye apne kaam se kaam rakh" bhai IT me ja ya kahi aur, relationship banana aaj ki need hai. agar ise tu khudka trumpet bajana kehta hai to yehi sahi. agar tere soft skills me locha hai to use thik kar. agar nahi karni to apna badasa ego le aur apni pant me ghusa.
    Ek din sher banke jeene se behtar hai do din sher banke jiyo...

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    Jo woh boss ke liye ghar se khana laate hain, usme kya hota hai? Kaha baith ke khaate hain? Boss apne desk pe khaata hai? Yaa cafeteria wagera jaa kar. Unpe jasoosi karo, mujhe to yeh drugs ka chakkar lagta hai.

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    Tere to aise jal gaye... jaise indirectly tere he kaam ginaye ho !!
    Mere problem tujhe bahut ache se spasht ho gaye hai... aur kahe na kkahee tujhse usemin tera chehra bhe dekh gaya hai !!
    Relationship banane mein aur ta** chaatne mein fark hai dost !!
    Dhayan se kario !!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ajkool111 View Post
    Tere to aise jal gaye... jaise indirectly tere he kaam ginaye ho !!
    Mere problem tujhe bahut ache se spasht ho gaye hai... aur kahe na kkahee tujhse usemin tera chehra bhe dekh gaya hai !!
    Relationship banane mein aur ta** chaatne mein fark hai dost !!
    Dhayan se kario !!
    जिंदगी झंड है फिर भी घमंड है...

    Ek din sher banke jeene se behtar hai do din sher banke jiyo...

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    Quote Originally Posted by rv102938 View Post
    जिंदगी झंड है फिर भी घमंड है...

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    If you work for a "reputed" software company then i am sure you will have your performance management systems in place. So you claiming that managers "think" wo hi log kaam karte hain......is baseless....

    My advise wud be to concentrate on your deliverables.....if not early, try to be on time with ur deliveries....time se aana aur ghar jana is again.....immaterial...!!!

    goodluck
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    Quote Originally Posted by ajkool111 View Post
    Hi Preeto Mam...

    I have some serious concerns... initially i thought of going to a consultant... but then i realized who better than you...

    The concerns are about me...

    I am a software engineer... work for a reputed company... i am facing some problems in my professional life...
    there are some people in my team... other calls them proactive... yeah log har time boss boss karte hai.... boss ke liye ghar se khana late hai... sham ko cafetria se snacks laa kar unke seat per dete hai.. sir apke liye yeah laya hu... late tak baith kar gappe marte hai.. aur next day kehte hai ke hum 10 baje tak office mein the.... but mera nature aisa nahi hai... i do my work... come on time and leave on time...
    abbb.. mujhe aisa lagne laga hai ke managers and seniors sochte hai ke yaheee log kam karte hai... basically agar mein kahhuu.. to yeah log relation banate hai aur apne marketing karte hai... aur haste hue har baat bol dete hai... jis se message bhe deliver ho gaya... chaplosi bhe ho gaye... aur woh bhe.. haste haste...

    abb sabko lagta hai.. ke yahe hai log hai jo hai... bake sab bus aise he...

    i come office on time.. leave on time... abb mujhe samajh ni aa raha... ke mein kya karu... i cannot beat my own trumpet... kahe na kahe.. thode se ego keh lo... yaan self respect kej lo.. beech mein aa jate hai.. ke mujhse yeah wale kaam nahi hote...
    so what shall i do ?...

    i hope aap mere problem samajh gaye honge...

    this thing is causing problems in my nature as well.... mein socta rehta hu... and waste a lot of time... i dont know what to do
    Any team environment will have this office politics......first of all enter the corporate ground with a thick skinned mindset.....people might talk about how some people might get favoured for no reason that they sometimes even dont deserve but at the end of all this crap.....you will only be judged by what you do at work...so if you let your work speak for yourself within a matter of 6-7 months you will get noticed by your work......So just believe in yourself and dont be like those people who are more inclined towards flattering their bosses.....thats something that even I hate.....Don't lose your self respect for that.....Be genuine in what you do and people will know you for who you are....

    Unfortunately that is the typical Indian mentality in corporate setup and if you still feel suffocated then try oppurtunities abroad.......All the best.....
    Live ur lyf lyk U r the director of a movie.Can’t control 100% ,roll wid the punches as if U were calling the shots.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ajkool111 View Post
    Hi Preeto Mam...

    I have some serious concerns... initially i thought of going to a consultant... but then i realized who better than you...

    The concerns are about me...

    I am a software engineer... work for a reputed company... i am facing some problems in my professional life...
    there are some people in my team... other calls them proactive... yeah log har time boss boss karte hai.... boss ke liye ghar se khana late hai... sham ko cafetria se snacks laa kar unke seat per dete hai.. sir apke liye yeah laya hu... late tak baith kar gappe marte hai.. aur next day kehte hai ke hum 10 baje tak office mein the.... but mera nature aisa nahi hai... i do my work... come on time and leave on time...
    abbb.. mujhe aisa lagne laga hai ke managers and seniors sochte hai ke yaheee log kam karte hai... basically agar mein kahhuu.. to yeah log relation banate hai aur apne marketing karte hai... aur haste hue har baat bol dete hai... jis se message bhe deliver ho gaya... chaplosi bhe ho gaye... aur woh bhe.. haste haste...

    abb sabko lagta hai.. ke yahe hai log hai jo hai... bake sab bus aise he...

    i come office on time.. leave on time... abb mujhe samajh ni aa raha... ke mein kya karu... i cannot beat my own trumpet... kahe na kahe.. thode se ego keh lo... yaan self respect kej lo.. beech mein aa jate hai.. ke mujhse yeah wale kaam nahi hote...
    so what shall i do ?...

    i hope aap mere problem samajh gaye honge...

    this thing is causing problems in my nature as well.... mein socta rehta hu... and waste a lot of time... i dont know what to do
    Any team environment will have this office politics......first of all enter the corporate ground with a thick skinned mindset.....people might talk about how some people might get favoured for no reason that they sometimes even dont deserve but at the end of all this crap.....you will only be judged by what you do at work...so if you let your work speak for yourself within a matter of 6-7 months you will get noticed by your work......So just believe in yourself and dont be like those people who are more inclined towards flattering their bosses.....thats something that even I hate.....Don't lose your self respect for that.....Be genuine in what you do and people will know you for who you are....

    Unfortunately that is the typical Indian mentality in corporate setup and if you still feel suffocated then try oppurtunities abroad.......All the best.....
    Live ur lyf lyk U r the director of a movie.Can’t control 100% ,roll wid the punches as if U were calling the shots.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ajkool111 View Post
    Hi Preeto Mam...

    I have some serious concerns... initially i thought of going to a consultant... but then i realized who better than you...

    The concerns are about me...

    I am a software engineer... work for a reputed company... i am facing some problems in my professional life...
    there are some people in my team... other calls them proactive... yeah log har time boss boss karte hai.... boss ke liye ghar se khana late hai... sham ko cafetria se snacks laa kar unke seat per dete hai.. sir apke liye yeah laya hu... late tak baith kar gappe marte hai.. aur next day kehte hai ke hum 10 baje tak office mein the.... but mera nature aisa nahi hai... i do my work... come on time and leave on time...
    abbb.. mujhe aisa lagne laga hai ke managers and seniors sochte hai ke yaheee log kam karte hai... basically agar mein kahhuu.. to yeah log relation banate hai aur apne marketing karte hai... aur haste hue har baat bol dete hai... jis se message bhe deliver ho gaya... chaplosi bhe ho gaye... aur woh bhe.. haste haste...

    abb sabko lagta hai.. ke yahe hai log hai jo hai... bake sab bus aise he...

    i come office on time.. leave on time... abb mujhe samajh ni aa raha... ke mein kya karu... i cannot beat my own trumpet... kahe na kahe.. thode se ego keh lo... yaan self respect kej lo.. beech mein aa jate hai.. ke mujhse yeah wale kaam nahi hote...
    so what shall i do ?...

    i hope aap mere problem samajh gaye honge...

    this thing is causing problems in my nature as well.... mein socta rehta hu... and waste a lot of time... i dont know what to do
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