I am a 28 years old south indian girl recently moved to bangalore for work. I am well educated and earning well. I am from a well off family too. Ours is a liberal family. My parents are looking for a suitable match and I have my profile created on matrimony sites.
I am given the liberty to chose any guy from my community. Hence, me and my parents both check my matrimony profile. Sometimes me and sometimes my parents speak to guys who send interests to me (Both our numbers are there on the site). I liked a guy on matrimony site and sent him interest. He accepted and he gave his father's number. Even my father had checked his profile and as i liked the guy, he tried to contact his parents but his parents din't respond to my father's calls. The guy pinged me as i insisted that we should speak before taking it to parents and we spoke for couple of days, we were friends on FB as well. After few days he said we are very different that he is an introvert and I am an extrovert and it won't work out and he doesn't want to take this forward. I said ok and it all stopped there.
After few months, We reconnected again through FB and we started chatting on whatsapp. We were chatting day n night for more than 2 months about everything under the sun. He used to call me too. We became very close, We discussed about what i like in him, what he likes in me to how he wants to live after marriage and how i have planned my future, till kids. We even went on a date for almost whole day. After the date he became more close and said the guy who marries me will be very lucky.
As he is an introvert he had told me that he would never propose the girl and she will understand if he likes her. I thought these are all hints he is throwing at me to say he likes me. So, I decided to propose him and told him I have started liking him and I believe he likes me too. He said no. He said, he was talking to you as a friend. As you know we are different, I am an introvert and you are an extrovert it won't workout between us is what he told again. I was torn apart.
I really don't understand what he was trying to do with me. He easily told he was speaking to me as a friend. But, I don't understand which friend is interested to know how many kids I want after marriage, After how many years of marriage I want kids, Whether i like him with beard or without, How I look at home ( 1 day he asked me to send my pic as I am. He wanted to see How i look at home), My future plans, Whether I like to work after marriage or not etc. Just hours before me proposing him, He had told me I am a very flexible girl and any guy would be lucky to marry me.
After he said No, I told I will sort out my feelings and said these are the hints you threw at me. He said he was just being friendly and conversations just moved. It's been 15 days since i proposed him, Both of us have not pinged each other. We used to chat day and night and I miss him a lot.
I donno how me being extrovert and him being introvert matters so much when we were that close and understood each other well. What was he trying to do with me? What should I do? Should I wait? Move on? How to move on? I am not able to see other guys. I really liked him. But, I don't wanna go back to him losing my self respect. Also, I don't wanna hang on to him. Please help