Dear all you are doing a wonderful job helping others with your suggestions and this time please guide me. My wife and I got married 5 months ago. It was an arranged marriage. She and I both are software professionals. I'm 28 , she is 25. She is from a well known metro city and I come from a small city in Goa. Since we are newly married we have not been physical with each other , I'm still trying to understand her and adjust with her. She is very good at heart and seems to be matured person.
But there is one issue with her which am finding hard to digest. Other than the one issue I'm going to discuss from next line onwards , she is the best thing to happen to me. The thing is she receives and sometimes sends Adult sms jokes from her male friends as well as female. No , not from her office colleagues but from her college classmates who are still in contact with her. They know that we are married and these male friends still send them , sometimes as late as 8pm. She was taking bath when her phone rang and that's how I came to know about it.
My wife is an alpha woman you can say. She is dynamic , bindaas type of girl and her nature does carry a bit of aggressiveness. She is like lion out there and while she has qualities which are good , I think I'm scared of her. She has all the confident to do things and her dominating nature makes me submissive to her judgements. When I come from office I would be all tired but she would be up for new tasks and I think I see her tired only once or twice in a month that too when she returns from office. I told her I don't like her sending jokes to her male friends but she doesn't listen. She brushed off the topic by saying am thinking too much and making a big deal out of it. I checked her phone inside out just to see if there is something cooking between her and her male friends but it doesn't seem so.
Her fb chat between these friends is also clean. Now I'm feeling guilty that I checked her phone and fb also. She doesn't know that I had a doubt on her and I checked her stuff. They also have a group on whatsapp where they drop all these adult jokes and my wife reads them. Some of those jokes are so dirty that I felt ashamed of myself after reading those. She acts normal all the time. So I don't think there is any spooky stuff going on. My wife is fair and beautiful and may be it is the reason that they are still in contact with her or may be not. Can't say anything.
I don't know what to do. I never had a gf prior to marriage so I have no idea how metro city or cosmopolitan girls are. I never had a good relationship with the female friends I had before marriage. They were all bully types and so for the same reason I didn't keep our friendship for long. Now I'm even scared of talking about the sms thing to her again because I'm sure it will result in a fight between us. I'm a god-fearing guy who fasts on thursdays and visit temples on tuesday and thursday. I watch crime patrol serial on sony channel and I know even a spark is enough to cause a tragedy. God forbid if something happens I won't be able to forgive myself because even after knowing everything I couldn't stop her from doing it. Wife says am thinking too much. What to do? how to convince her to stop doing it? or should I stop bothering about it?