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    People talk to me like I'm stupid, what should I do?


    Preeto Maam Please Help.

    Hello, I'm a 25 year old male in fairly good physical health but quite poor mental health. I have OCD ( Obsessive-compulsive disorder ) and social anxiety disorder. People have been talking to me like I'm an idiot for as long as I can remember. I think this is because I am shy so people don't really get to know me, also it is because of the way that I am presenting myself or maybe I seem to have low self-esteem and people can pick up on that right away. I hardly ever say anything in the company of people which might make me appear to be "dumb". Lot’s of time People take advantage of me. Like my aunt and other cousin’s keeps humiliating me and I can’t even say anything to them and just stay quit. Maybe they have a curse on me. What should I do about this? It really frustrates me and sometimes I feel like I'm close to having a nervous breakdown. I've had people that probably talk to me like I'm a kid. Do you think it's because I'm shy? Or how I appear? I don't understand why this is. Any advice or help would be highly appreciated.

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    Hi Kvs,

    Don't worry first of all try to build ur self esteem. Don't be shy and afraid of people.

    When you want to build your own self-esteem, it appears your best bet is to change your behavior. Do your tasks well and treat people well and you’ll feel good about yourself. Don’t worry so much about how you think about yourself. Change what you do to make yourself more appreciated by the people around you. Increase your value to other people and to the company you work for. Watch the reactions of other people. Pay attention to the reality outside your skin. Do more of what works. Do less of what doesn’t get the response you want. Your self-esteem, your internal “sociometer” will rise as an accurate reflection of your true abilities and where you stand with the people in your life.

    Change what you do to make yourself more appreciated by the people around you.

    Once you have gained a inner confidence on you it will help you to fight with OCD also. There are so many treatments to cure this disorder.

    According to the Expert Consensus Guidelines for the Treatment of obsessive-compulsive disorder, behavioral therapy (BT), cognitive therapy and medications any combination of the three, are first-line treatments for OCD. Psycodynamic psychotherapy may help in managing some aspects of the disorder.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kvs View Post
    People talk to me like I'm stupid, what should I do?


    Preeto Maam Please Help.

    Hello, I'm a 25 year old male in fairly good physical health but quite poor mental health. I have OCD ( Obsessive-compulsive disorder ) and social anxiety disorder. People have been talking to me like I'm an idiot for as long as I can remember. I think this is because I am shy so people don't really get to know me, also it is because of the way that I am presenting myself or maybe I seem to have low self-esteem and people can pick up on that right away. I hardly ever say anything in the company of people which might make me appear to be "dumb". Lot’s of time People take advantage of me. Like my aunt and other cousin’s keeps humiliating me and I can’t even say anything to them and just stay quit. Maybe they have a curse on me (forget this curse KAWWEY KEY CURSE SEY SHER MARA NAHIE KARTEY) . What should I do about this? It really frustrates me and sometimes I feel like I'm close to having a nervous breakdown. I've had people that probably talk to me like I'm a kid. Do you think it's because I'm shy? Or how I appear? I don't understand why this is. Any advice or help would be highly appreciated.

    Your language suggest otherwise. I dont thing you are dumb; may be you lost some confidence. be on the forum interact with people most are them are very good. talking to these people on all aspects of life will help you regain your confidence. well express yurself; right or wrong your point of view counts; everything is friendly no regrets for anytype of message just express yourself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kvs View Post
    People talk to me like I'm stupid, what should I do?


    Preeto Maam Please Help.

    Hello, I'm a 25 year old male in fairly good physical health but quite poor mental health. I have OCD ( Obsessive-compulsive disorder ) and social anxiety disorder. People have been talking to me like I'm an idiot for as long as I can remember. I think this is because I am shy so people don't really get to know me, also it is because of the way that I am presenting myself or maybe I seem to have low self-esteem and people can pick up on that right away. I hardly ever say anything in the company of people which might make me appear to be "dumb". Lot’s of time People take advantage of me. Like my aunt and other cousin’s keeps humiliating me and I can’t even say anything to them and just stay quit. Maybe they have a curse on me. What should I do about this? It really frustrates me and sometimes I feel like I'm close to having a nervous breakdown. I've had people that probably talk to me like I'm a kid. Do you think it's because I'm shy? Or how I appear? I don't understand why this is. Any advice or help would be highly appreciated.
    Hi!
    Gors 1 advise is very good indeed. To that there is not much to add but just one thing...you do NOT have any curse on you.
    Also, have you been clinically diagnosed as having OCD? or is that what YOU think you have?
    Try the suggestions that Gors has recommended. for anything further, we are all here and very willing to help in any way you want!!

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    hey there
    build some self esteem
    people usually treat you the way you treat yourself


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    Hi there, i dont know too much about your disorder problem, so might not be of much help, but just want to say...learn to respect and honour yourself first my friend..im sure you have a lot of dignity within you that just needs to be shown a little bit more,unfortunatley not all ppl are caring in how they choose words to address ppl with in life,but dont let this bother you non the least! what matters is you! ok,as i said before start by respecting yourself first,be affirmative and decisive! and never be afraid to voice your opinions ok! a lot of this has to do with listening and learning on how others around you conduct themselves on a daily basis, start socialising with all kinds of different ppl...be happy! and always try to maintain a positive mental attitude..if i were to judge you based on what i have read in your thread, i would say that you are a nice humble,introvert kind of guy..not at all dumb! so dont put yourself down !

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    have confidence in urself........u seem 2 have an inferiority complex......be the hero of ur life.......r u a teenager?

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