Will he know I'm not a Virgin?......Vexed!
hi Maam,
I have had sex with my bf many times. The fact that I already had sex with my ex-bf really worries me and i think after marriage my partner would know that I'm not virgin.Thats because i think that after sex the ****** becomes loose. d
Do you think my husband will consider that I have already done it when we will do it on the first night? Or do you think he wont know? PLEASE PLEASE TELL!!!
Dear Vexed,
Stop stressing please. It's a muscle, not just skin.
The va gina -- the muscular tube inside the vag inall opening, where you can stick a finger / a tampon, where, if you're having va ginal intercourse with a male partner, his pe nis would go -- is a muscle. It's not just skin, like on your face, fatty tissue, like your outer labia. And it's a strong muscle at that: in fact, you can feel that it's a muscle because after you urinate, when you squeeze those last couple of crops out, that movement utilizes those muscles. They can also often be felt during an orgasm. Like any other muscle, unless we lose tone in it -- and intercourse can't cause that to happen, especially given that we're usually exercising that muscle during intercourse -- movement against it / on it isn't going to change it. We chew food every single day, and that makes the muscles of our mouths stronger, not weaker.
The vag ina sits flat and closed when nothing is inside.
When nothing is inside the ******, the walls of that muscular tube sit flat right on each other, /closed, like your mouth would when your lips were closed if you didn't have bones and teeth / keep it open in there. The ****** doesn't stay open -- if it feels like they do because you're sticking a finger inside, know they ONLY do BECAUSE there is a finger inside. When you take that finger out, they collapse flat again. The ****** expands to fit whatever is put inside it, and clamps down to some degree to hold what is inside it. If it didn't women would have genital infections every single day. And women who use tampons, for instance, would have tampons just falling right out on the floor when they were walking around!
He will not come to know unless u tell him.Originally Posted by Preeto Maam
But yes he can come to know about it when you'll have sex with your bf next time after ur marriage.
virginity
hi
only if ur husband is a fool he wont come to know regarding the virginity, as far as my knowledge is concerned the hymen is very clearly visible if u split apart the lips of the ******, if u have told him ur a virgin ... then on the 1st nite wen he goes down on you while giving you a head he is gona have a look at yur ****** keenly thts for sure.
And mind you my dear friend the ****** with hymen intact is such that a finger also is dificlut to insert , & wen the entrance is wide and open its obvious u hav had sex before, and yeahhh dnt ever make the mistake to give shitty stories to yur husbands regarding the accidntal breakage of yur hymen during teenage while in gymnastics or sports, cos only a fool will belive it, in tdays world 90-95 % gals whose hymen are broken are by sexual intercourse and 5% are remaining which genuinely by breaks by accident.
so may god bless all the gals whose hymens r torn on the first night, again if u have told ur husband earlier abt it, and he has no issues regarding it, its alrite, but if u give him a sudden shock on the 1st nite, it will not only ruin the nite, but the relation will be in troubled waters, cos then he will suspect you of hiding things throughout life.
and to be very very frank all indian guys have issues regarding virginity of gals, let the guy be the coolest or the most open-minded one, he will definatly want a virgin wife,
All gals dnt understand watever i hav mentioned here and then, either ruin their lives or repent therafter.
please share your views people if i am wrong in any statements mentioned above
REGArds
Well, accidental breakage happen more than 5 % ......
Secondaly, IT would become loose after continuous sex... there is no way it would remain as tight as ever... if not y would b there any existence of surgery over there....
M not sure how exercise affects the loosening of it..
but the catch is the guy wouldn't know how tight a virgin would be if he hasn't had Sex before... so if he s a virgin n the va-gi-na is not tooooo looooose he might not find the difference... but he surely will if he had sex b4 with some virgin ..
the girl can also tell the difference.. if she s feeling the same pain she used to while she was doing it for the first time she shouldnt worry too much.. but if everything goes smoothly inside without any pain.. the girl should pray atleast her husband is a VIRGIN !!!
God bless u !
p.s. shame !
well said...
Also, its good for u if ur husband doesnt come to know about it coz he will be a fool then..
u can continue playing outside marriage...which anyways u r going to do....
It all depends on whether or not he has already slept with a virgin in the past and if he is sexually experienced,if so, then i'm afraid that there is every chance he will suss you out .Best thing to do now is have a love marriage to someone where you can share everything .. I don't condem what you have done,personally i don't see what the big farce about loosing virginity is all about anyway..but to hide this from him and to pretend is cheating in my books...you would be jumping out of the pan straight into the fire !
Hiding past
i agree that if the husband finds out some canny past about her wife which she has never told him before, there will be troubles for sure, because we all know how a mans mind works, he is ought to think to the extreme, which will ruin the relationship, and trust will be gone.
so the best suggestion is just say the thruth to your guy whom you are planning to settle down. if he is has no issues regarding it, its fine, if he has problems its better not to go ahead and look out for someone else becos later on when his guy comes to know he will definately be upset and loose all the respect for u and make ur life as good as hell.. this is exactly wat happens in practical life...
but wen you find a guy whom you confide in matters about your past, and hes ok with it, its definate that the relationship will sail smoothly throughout life becos he knows evrything, thats how even you can feel confident and live happily.
AND FOR GALS WHO HAVE LOST THEIR VIRGINITY (HYMEN RUPTURED)
YOU CAN VISIT ANY REPUTED GYNACOLOGIST IN MUMBAI AND GET YOUR HYMEN RESTORED, ITS A 2 HOUR OPERATION AFTER WHICH YOU CAN WALK HOME. ITS A CHEAP SURGURY WHICH WONT COST MORE THAN rs.30,000,
ITS JUST A PIECE OF SKIN WHICH THE GYENAC HAS TO PLANT INSIDE AND MAKE THE V*AGINA TIGHT
VIRGINITY IS UTMOST IMPORTANT ON 1ST NIGHT FOR INDIAN MALES,
AS I MENTIONED EARLIER EVRY GUY WANTS A VIRGIN WIFE
rEgArDs
HA! all u men are SICK!
"only if ur husband is a fool he wont come to know regarding the virginity"
wouldn't a man have to be a non-virgin to figure out if his wife is a virgin or not? i mean cuz if the guy is married & is having sex for the first time with his wife then how can he tell if she is a virgin??? like he needs to sleep around to know how it feels to have sex with a virgin woman.
why the double standards?
a woman wouldn't want to get married to a man who isn't a virgin.
to the idiot who said that men won't believe a woman if her hymen got torn cuz of gymnastics, etc ur REALLY dumb! if an indian man won't believe it...or rather U won't believe it then ur UNFIT to get married. don't worry...i think whether the girl is a virgin or not, she won't get married to a closed-minded person who doesn't trust her.
Once a girl reaches puberty, the hymen tends to become quite elastic. It is not possible to determine whether a woman uses tampons or not by examining her hymen. Sexual intercourse is one of the most common ways to damage the hymen, although in one survey only 43% of women reported bleeding the first time they had sex; which means that in the other 57% of women the hymen likely stretched enough that it didn't tear (or that bleeding was not noticed by the partners).
It is common to damage the hymen through physical activities such as horseback riding and biking.In fact, biking is the most common way to rupture the hymen through physical activity. Contrary to popular belief, the breaking of the hymen is not necessarily an indicator of the loss of virginity.
Hymen
hi shadowylady
now ur right in a way as well as wrong too, u said most of the women do not bleed but their hymen breks ,ur right, but here the question is even a fool who has a litte bit of knowledge and nevr had sex before WILL make out the difference between a virgin and a non-virgin gal, it necessarily does not mean you have to move yur p*enis inside a virgin gal to feel the sensation of f*cking a virgin gal, as i said earlier the hymen is clearly visible if the ***** lips are spilt open and the guy is but obvious to have a close look at the ***** on the 1st night so if hes knowledgeable he sud know , need nt necessarily mean he had sex earlier, even if you surf the porn sites you can easily glance pictures of teenage girls exposing their virgin pussies with hymens intact, this should as well give you the idea my dear friend, the world is large and there are millions of people abroad who for the sake of money get thier virgin ***** pictures clicked. i have a collection of it, if still in doubt get back to me, after seeing the pictures even you wud get a clear idea and concept reagrding the matter.
REAGRDS
if he loves u...he will not care!
Last edited by VrOoM; 05-10-2008 at 10:43 PM.
Hi
1: Id the guy really loves u, he won't care about Virginity.
2: If u want to be on safer side, U can say tht u used to Mastrbate with D***** and that can save u so far!!
3: If u want your V* to b tight on that nite, on that time, keep your V* dry!! This'll give a feeling of tightness and difficulty in getting in.
4: If you really want to convince him you are virgin - stick to the point and be confident about it. Forget the past. Think of the present and future of course!
Good luck.
Tricky topic....just one question, Why young people cant talk anything bt sex. Surely this is the land of Kamasutra...
Address other issues like career, good living, how to become a good citizen etc. as well
DI*LDOs
hahahahaaha that was a gud joke, if she tells you she used to masturbate using Dil*dos she can either be from the states or must be lying cos u dnt get dil*dos in india my friend , and very few ppl have ever seen them in india,
ther are places in mumbai wher you get them but they are used and not hygienic, i hav seen them in the streets down there, the sale of these items is banned in india.
i tried hard to procure a fleshlite but failed, its even not allowed in customs , if you try to get it from abroad, whoaah man the feeling of a fleshlite is as good as f*ucking a tight *****. one of the best means of masturbation. i swer they sud allow such things in india to stop rape, just think about it ppl am i rite... the government sud be informed regarding the launch of ****ing dolls and fleshlite by which men can masturbate and have pleasure as well as not crave for *****es.
Well said man......koi bevkoof hi hoga jo nahi pakad payega every boy knows abt all the grls' thing hw it form n wht r the ways it get destroyed within moment ur hubby will catch u it'll be gud to tell him abt all happened....today its acceptable bcoz almost all ppl have sex be4 getting married
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