Sex din't work first time!

30-10-2009, 01:07 PM

hi m 24 yr old working gurl..me and my Bf tried to have sex twice...but it didnt happen..his P***s..just didnt enter into me...he tried but didnt help..it hurt a lot to me and i asked him to stop..so we were unable to have sex...this thing happnd twice..is there any problem with me??

**Preeto Maam** · 30-10-2009, 04:27 PM

The thing is that one expects that first time sex is going to be bringing one to some huge climaxes. It usually does not happen like that especially when both the partners are completely inexperienced, but rather in the way that you have experienced it.

Sex, like any other activity, needs practice to build up confidence and perfection. Don't panic. this is all perfectly normal and a part of the process!

The one thing I want to tell you is don't stress over it. Just enjoy touching and fondling each other. the intercourse will happen sooner or later. The body knows how. Just wait!

a_decent_1 · 30-10-2009, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Unregistered

hi m 24 yr old working gurl..me and my Bf tried to have sex twice...but it didnt happen..his P***s..just didnt enter into me...he tried but didnt help..it hurt a lot to me and i asked him to stop..so we were unable to have sex...this thing happnd twice..is there any problem with me??

SEX does not mean the intercouse alone.. !!
Also, Sex for the first few times is more of a "struggle" than pleasureable act. Pain might or might not be there.. !! A few things you need to take care about are :-

(1) Were you nicely wet?
(2) Did you have foreplay?
(3) Are you actually "Mentally" ready for sex?

Most of the time the pain is psycholigical where the girls "Thinks" it will pain and it eventually does. !! Just Relax and enjoy the act. Dont think about the Pain and it would vanish.

G'day

PEACOCK · 03-11-2009, 03:01 PM

No sex before wedding also use condom if you can't wait!!!!!

Angel Lucifer · 03-11-2009, 03:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Unregistered

hi m 24 yr old working gurl..me and my Bf tried to have sex twice...but it didnt happen..his P***s..just didnt enter into me...he tried but didnt help..it hurt a lot to me and i asked him to stop..so we were unable to have sex...this thing happnd twice..is there any problem with me??

WEll...does BF GF means u need to have sex a must......r u crazy?...u want to get that feeling? fine,....do it urself...u r at the risk of catching STDs else...and plz Contraceptives were not invented to look and joke about....use them

and about ur failure.......it happens dear...u need to give him a perfect forplay BJ.....and moisten it up ...then it will follow its course and lemme warn u....u will bleed

ganesh111 · 03-11-2009, 10:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Unregistered

hi m 24 yr old working gurl..me and my Bf tried to have sex twice...but it didnt happen..his P***s..just didnt enter into me...he tried but didnt help..it hurt a lot to me and i asked him to stop..so we were unable to have sex...this thing happnd twice..is there any problem with me??

No problems there... its due to anxiety. Be calm, take ur time use lubriation..things will be better next time. Sex to be enjoyed mind must also be prepared

Midnight Valentine · 03-11-2009, 10:10 PM

Nothing to worry...i feel everything is later...i also agree with the suggestions above that it will happen sooner or later

prakash27 · 04-11-2009, 07:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Unregistered

hi m 24 yr old working gurl..me and my Bf tried to have sex twice...but it didnt happen..his P***s..just didnt enter into me...he tried but didnt help..it hurt a lot to me and i asked him to stop..so we were unable to have sex...this thing happnd twice..is there any problem with me??

If it hurts it means either u r not doing it right!! Or u dont use enough lubrication!! Put urself in relaxed positions and use lubes well!!
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it matters to me · 04-11-2009, 08:17 AM

Hi

To make the most out of your first experience, you may want to consider waiting till when you are rested reaxed and ready to explore each other in a leisurely way, without fatigue or interruption.

Experimenting with outercourse, mutual masturbation, and/or oral sex can help you sexually connect with your boy friend and can often be just as or more satisfying than intercourse. Learning how to touch and fully arouse each other before attempting vaginal penetration is a key step for minimizing any discomfort or pain and maximizing pleasure.

As you learn how your bodies fit together, you and your fiancé can try some of the following tips to help you boost your bed bliss:

Focus on touching, kissing, and caressing each other in ways that heighten arousal before penetration.

Try to relax and take it slowly.

Talk with each other about what feels good and how you both like to be touched.

Create a pleasure chest that includes water-based lube, condoms (if you aren't using birth control and don't want to get pregnant at this time), books about sex, and other products for sex play, such as massage lotion or oil, lingerie, an erotic movie or book, and/or a vibrator. You may want to check out Toys in Babeland for sex tips, toys, books and more.

To help ease penetration, add a dab of water-based lube on the opening of the vagina and to the inside of the condom (if he is wearing one) before it is unrolled, and also to the outside of the penis or the condom. Reapply as often as necessary to ease any discomfort and increase pleasure.

Experiment with various positions.

If an *****ion goes away, remember it will most certainly come back.

While many women (and their partners) worry about discomfort or pain the first time they have vaginal intercourse, not all couples have this experience. If you do experience discomfort, communicate with your partner and make sure you are fully aroused, have enough lubrication — both her own or some extra — and are as relaxed as possible. If after these ideas, you still feel either discomfort or pain, try taking a break from intercourse; you can always try again later.

Lastly, remember that it's not uncommon for the first time to be less extraordinary than expected. Sometimes one or both partners do not orgasm. Other times, a man's *****ion might not last long or it might come and go, and a woman may be more lubricated and comfortable at some moments more than others.

Being patient and taking your time, talking clearly, and learning/practicing are the best ways to allow the two of you to enjoy this newfound intimacy together. Even when the unexpected occurs, a couple's first experience can still be meaningful, positive, exciting, pleasurable, and/or fulfilling.

ddgupta.com · 06-11-2009, 02:51 PM

Foreplay should works or use Jonson & Jonson made K-Y Jelly

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30-10-2009, 04:27 PM	#2
Preeto Maam Moderator Lieutenant General Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 44,182 Rep Power: 34	The thing is that one expects that first time sex is going to be bringing one to some huge climaxes. It usually does not happen like that especially when both the partners are completely inexperienced, but rather in the way that you have experienced it. Sex, like any other activity, needs practice to build up confidence and perfection. Don't panic. this is all perfectly normal and a part of the process! The one thing I want to tell you is don't stress over it. Just enjoy touching and fondling each other. the intercourse will happen sooner or later. The body knows how. Just wait!

03-11-2009, 03:01 PM	#4
PEACOCK New Born Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 109 Rep Power: 6	No sex before wedding also use condom if you can't wait!!!!!

03-11-2009, 10:10 PM	#7
Midnight Valentine New Born Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 87 Rep Power: 0	Nothing to worry...i feel everything is later...i also agree with the suggestions above that it will happen sooner or later

04-11-2009, 08:17 AM	#9
it matters to me SB Champion Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 1,116 Rep Power: 2	Hi To make the most out of your first experience, you may want to consider waiting till when you are rested reaxed and ready to explore each other in a leisurely way, without fatigue or interruption. Experimenting with outercourse, mutual masturbation, and/or oral sex can help you sexually connect with your boy friend and can often be just as or more satisfying than intercourse. Learning how to touch and fully arouse each other before attempting vaginal penetration is a key step for minimizing any discomfort or pain and maximizing pleasure. As you learn how your bodies fit together, you and your fiancé can try some of the following tips to help you boost your bed bliss: Focus on touching, kissing, and caressing each other in ways that heighten arousal before penetration. Try to relax and take it slowly. Talk with each other about what feels good and how you both like to be touched. Create a pleasure chest that includes water-based lube, condoms (if you aren't using birth control and don't want to get pregnant at this time), books about sex, and other products for sex play, such as massage lotion or oil, lingerie, an erotic movie or book, and/or a vibrator. You may want to check out Toys in Babeland for sex tips, toys, books and more. To help ease penetration, add a dab of water-based lube on the opening of the vagina and to the inside of the condom (if he is wearing one) before it is unrolled, and also to the outside of the penis or the condom. Reapply as often as necessary to ease any discomfort and increase pleasure. Experiment with various positions. If an ***ion goes away, remember it will most certainly come back. While many women (and their partners) worry about discomfort or pain the first time they have vaginal intercourse, not all couples have this experience. If you do experience discomfort, communicate with your partner and make sure you are fully aroused, have enough lubrication — both her own or some extra — and are as relaxed as possible. If after these ideas, you still feel either discomfort or pain, try taking a break from intercourse; you can always try again later. Lastly, remember that it's not uncommon for the first time to be less extraordinary than expected. Sometimes one or both partners do not orgasm. Other times, a man's ***ion might not last long or it might come and go, and a woman may be more lubricated and comfortable at some moments more than others. Being patient and taking your time, talking clearly, and learning/practicing are the best ways to allow the two of you to enjoy this newfound intimacy together. Even when the unexpected occurs, a couple's first experience can still be meaningful, positive, exciting, pleasurable, and/or fulfilling.