Losing my sexual attraction for hubby. Is any solutoin?

My hubby and i are married from 6 years and it was always good between us. I believe we have a nice marriage.
Only problem is of late i dont feel sexually attracted to him. I was very interested in sex earlier and was a sexual perosn. But now whenever he is willing i am no intreseted.
We still have sex but something is missing. He is upset. I am here to get opinions of those who could have had similar situation or any advice is welcome. THank you

[pain!]

After we get used to anything, it will slowly begin to become boring. What you must do is to re-introduce the freshness factor into the marriage. Try to go out together atleast once in a week, watch movies, or do anything together that bring you that feeling of closeness. Things will sure begin to be better. You can also try to make your sessions of physical intimacy by adding fantasies into it

[sb_fan2]

You should try more things... like dress - sexily. Start watching porn together.

Plan for sex - something like - OK - Friday evening - Tell him that you will have great time on Friday evening... he and you will then be waiting for Friday to come...

Try more oral than usual. Tell him to perform oral on you - and u do that to him.
Try a threesome - with a girl or another man.
Try new poses and plan for it.
Try in new hole.

Try and enjoy it more...

[Eshwar Dutt]

SOlution is there.........but both of u will have to participate.
Its to spice up things to kill the boredom!!! You have to find new methods of love making..... try new positions. And spend more time in foreplay, do excercises regularly, do romantic things.......

[japun]

YOu sure have to do things to regain ur lost interst.. but ur husband also has a great role in this..I am sure he will be only glad to help as he is upset with ur loss of sex drive..First of all u need to talk and talk till both can understand each others problems and interests.. u can sure do this with out any outside help, but if u fail u can seek a professional help also..ur husband must find out ur needs with ur help and must bring them into sex to make u interested. He has to think ur intimacy times as more than chances for his satisfaction alone..

[it matters to me]

Hi

Some times we get so caught up in the rush and stress of our day to day life, that without even realizing we start drifting apart even in our closest of relationships. Husband and wife relationship, I feel, is the most intimate and yet the weakest relationship and can take years to get stronger and can break in a second.. if the partners are not careful.

Along with the emotional closeness, physical intimacy is also very important in keeping the relationship strong. If you feel this lacking in your relationship, see few tips which might help -

Love your body no matter what it looks like, find something to praise it for.

Don't worry about watching the porno. If its not your thing then skip that part, but if you do decide it does not make you a sexual deviant.

Remember safe sex first!

Sex relieves stress and releases endorphins, also when you climax it sends off a natural feel good drug called Oxytocin.

Sex is natural and its ok to desire it, don't make yourself feel guilty for wanting it.

Freshen Things Up
You may assume that there’s no way to get around the newness of the experience, but that’s not quite the case. Yes, this soul next to you in bed is still your life partner, and no doubt, a few years older and more worn than when you first laid eyes on each other. But you can use fantasy to meet your mate all over again

Waiting Game
Anticipation was also part of your original chemistry and since you kind of know that your guy or gal is a willing sex partner, there’s not that same breath-stopping moment before going to bed together. But there can be. Set up some mystery for your next sexual liaison.

You can build expectations together by going to a sex-toy shop. Walk around, get ideas and start to touch each other as you talk about what you can or won’t do together. Even if you don’t buy anything, the anticipation will guarantee that you won’t even make it out of the car before you’re all over each other.

New Tricks
Untried sexual experiences were rampant when you were dating, but unless you’ve memorized the Karma Sutra, there are sure to be sexual experiences you haven’t tried. Experimenting with new sexual practices is a great way to increase the "wow" factor in your love life. One way to get started is to actually buy a toy at the sex shop. Doesn’t matter what it is, just having something new will get the motors revved-up. Also, watching a porn movie can give you some ideas for new positions. Finally, find unusual places to have sex that will challenge you to be inventive about positions.

Bonus Sex
There’s something distinctive about the urgent ecstasy of being a teenager making out in the back seat of a Chevy. But one of the wonderful things about being hitched is it gives you the chance to find a deeper and more meaningful quality of lovemaking. Pay attention to the sense of closeness you feel with your life partner and enjoy the "buzz" of bonding not only with the person’s body, but with their soul as well.

Introducing novelty, stirring up anticipation and learning new sexual techniques won’t guarantee that all your encounters will be gangbusters, but by mixing the tried and true with the wild and new, you’ll get enough fantastic sex to keep both of you happy for a longtime.

[siddharth3.5]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

My hubby and i are married from 6 years and it was always good between us. I believe we have a nice marriage.
Only problem is of late i dont feel sexually attracted to him. I was very interested in sex earlier and was a sexual perosn. But now whenever he is willing i am no intreseted.
We still have sex but something is missing. He is upset. I am here to get opinions of those who could have had similar situation or any advice is welcome. THank you

If u were a sexual person in past and enjoyed sex with him in past, its surely because of either boredom due to same techniques.. or ur husband is not taking enough interest.
If its not amedical problem u can always solve this urself.. reignite the passion with new sex-positions and do some research on the subject. Do things like bathing together.. and both of u must take care in ur appearance, dress to attract each other..

[number1]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

My hubby and i are married from 6 years and it was always good between us. I believe we have a nice marriage.
Only problem is of late i dont feel sexually attracted to him. I was very interested in sex earlier and was a sexual perosn. But now whenever he is willing i am no intreseted.
We still have sex but something is missing. He is upset. I am here to get opinions of those who could have had similar situation or any advice is welcome. THank you

He is still interested..........but u r the uninterested one!!!!!
THat means he needs to change something.........either the way he behave, or present, or do sex!!!!!!
But this problems cure lies a looooot with him......
Another possibility is u having some job related or family related problems or tension..... Find if its due to ur tension or something like that, or if its due to ur hubby's boring styles!!!!!
If its second, tell him its time for him to change.......if its first u need to relax!!!!!

[atiqsyedpk]

try newer positions and ways

[patelyash]

Basis of sexual attraction is love. If u lost it means the romance between u two is being lost.
WOrk to get it back.. Only when love is there u can go for more
U will have to go to old days and treat everything as new, like two new lovers

Originally Posted by Unregistered

My hubby and i are married from 6 years and it was always good between us. I believe we have a nice marriage.
Only problem is of late i dont feel sexually attracted to him. I was very interested in sex earlier and was a sexual perosn. But now whenever he is willing i am no intreseted.
We still have sex but something is missing. He is upset. I am here to get opinions of those who could have had similar situation or any advice is welcome. THank you

[bhushan1982]

Common cause are psychological and physical and can be Stress, Fatigue, Depression, Poor body image and low self-esteem,Sexual performance anxiety, Serious relationship problemse, Levels of certain hormones, Certain medications, Certain diseases (diabetes, neurological diseases, anemia, cancer, etc.), Severe obesity or being very underweight, Malnutrition, Post-childbirth and breastfeeding, Onset of menopause, discomfort during sex etc...
Check if u have any of these and try to correct it by urself if possible or consult a doctor

[3stars]

my advice is go for a make over of u and ur hubby and enjoy ur married life

[rangnath]

Talk to your doctor about it.. There is no need to feel embarrassed as he or she will have seen hundreds of patients with the same problem. Sometimes just talking it through can help you to solve a problem..

Start to have more sex.. having sex makes your body start to crave it again. Obviously, if your libido is at a low you will not feel like doing this, but try it and you may be very surprised.

Consider seeing a sex therapist...These are people that can help you to rediscover your libido and get you back on track. More women than you would think use a therapist and find that they get some great results.

[ganesh111]

check wehether there are any relationship problems.. whether u like ur husband like in past. ANxiety and work related stress can also be problem.
Another reason is same sexual routine being followed in all these years..That u can remove by changing ur styles. Healthy diet is must, and healthy workout too..

[sens]

hmmmm...u know the problem... so problem is half solved... dear have fun...take interest... go on websites that give on tips on haveing and maintaining intimacy... its not just abt sex.. ahve a grt rapport thoughout.... be romantic... be fun...talk,... go out togethre... shop together... cook together... work on overall marriage... dont give up... its all up to u dera... create a new love in ur old marriage... nothig is wrong...be a diffferent person everytime... good luck to u!!!