Annonymous phone call about hubby

06-11-2009, 01:55 PM

My hubby last week had a business trip with his good friend and lady colleague and they were away for 3 days. When they were gone i got an anonymous phone saying that my hubby had affair with a female.

He is really work oriented and busy with it. I dont know if i should be worried or not. Shall i ask him or his colleague if there is something between them? But i am hesitating because it was an anonymouse call and if its not true this would be shameful for everybody.
What do you think Maam?

sb_fan2 · 06-11-2009, 02:37 PM

You will always be suspicious.

Even if everybody tells you he is nice guy you will always suspect him.

No solution. All wives are like that.

The only solution is - that your husband should really start an affair - and prove you right.

Andy

**Preeto Maam** · 06-11-2009, 02:45 PM

These people who make anonymous phone calls are really mischievous and destructive. they plant seeds of doubt that may or may not have a base but have the capability of destroying lives.

In your case too, something like that has happened. Now, the only way to tackle it is to tell your husband about the phone call and what the person said. You can ask him if there is any truth in the matter. Its better than trying some sleuthing on your own and also may help to put your mind at rest.

japun · 06-11-2009, 03:09 PM

if u trust ur hubby, and is satisfied with his past behaviour then u can be relaxed here.. its a business trip and you also know he is very busy in it.
anonymous calls originates from gossipers and those who are jealous generally. there is no need to give much importance to them. dont let urself be conquered by suspicion..evenif u need to be concerned, only check it without suspcecting him or her. One wrong comment can destroy the good atmosphere between you three

manmohanjoshi · 06-11-2009, 06:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sachu.mahadev

My hubby last week had a business trip with his good friend and lady colleague and they were away for 3 days. When they were gone i got an anonymous phone saying that my hubby had affair with a female.

He is really work oriented and busy with it. I dont know if i should be worried or not. Shall i ask him or his colleague if there is something between them? But i am hesitating because it was an anonymouse call and if its not true this would be shameful for everybody.
What do you think Maam?

Suspicion is a big relationship wrecker... when some couples live happily together always there come someboyd with their anonymous calls or mails simply to destory their family. Its ur move and make it wisely.. you can keep an eye open and can also tell ur concern about his trips with colleagues, but if u go beyond that, it may be harmful. I am totally against asking her about it

siddharth3.5 · 06-11-2009, 07:16 PM

The problem is if he is clean he will have his self respect hurt... but if he is of the type who can face such a situation with out any ego problems, then u can ask him..
We dont know how much strong ur love is, and up to which leve each will tolerate.. so if u think its safe, u can ask.
If i were in ur position i wont trust an anonymous call.. especially when its made the same time he went for trip. In a working environment one can have many enemies and they can do it due to jealousy..

narayanhegde · 06-11-2009, 08:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Preeto Maam

These people who make anonymous phone calls are really mischievous and destructive. they plant seeds of doubt that may or may not have a base but have the capability of destroying lives.

In your case too, something like that has happened. Now, the only way to tackle it is to tell your husband about the phone call and what the person said. You can ask him if there is any truth in the matter. Its better than trying some sleuthing on your own and also may help to put your mind at rest.

I like this suggestion very much maam...its fa antastic way.
By telling him directly about the call, the benefits are many...
1. she can know if its done by some jealous co-worker..
2. from his response can know if there is any truth in this or not..
3. its the cleanest way to present the matter..
Thats why i think its a superb method..

champaklal · 06-11-2009, 09:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sachu.mahadev

My hubby last week had a business trip with his good friend and lady colleague and they were away for 3 days. When they were gone i got an anonymous phone saying that my hubby had affair with a female.

He is really work oriented and busy with it. I dont know if i should be worried or not. Shall i ask him or his colleague if there is something between them? But i am hesitating because it was an anonymouse call and if its not true this would be shameful for everybody.
What do you think Maam?

Hi Ma'm,
tell me something, is this all the trust your husband has earned in all these years, that an anonimous caller, without an identity, forget the credibility is good enough to shake it? tell me why should you believe it! I'll tell you- you should ignore it. The question is- if the guy was really your wellwisher, he'd have come to you in person and told this thing [an important thing] at your face, not called you up.

Trust your husband and respect him, unless you have seen it yourself otherwise. Do not weaken your marriage. You'd be losing a friend for life.

regards

bhushan1982 · 07-11-2009, 08:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sachu.mahadev

My hubby last week had a business trip with his good friend and lady colleague and they were away for 3 days. When they were gone i got an anonymous phone saying that my hubby had affair with a female.

He is really work oriented and busy with it. I dont know if i should be worried or not. Shall i ask him or his colleague if there is something between them? But i am hesitating because it was an anonymouse call and if its not true this would be shameful for everybody.
What do you think Maam?

Dont trust that call fully.. Tell him that u r worried about his business tours and he must put some control in all these.. After that you can see if there is still something is wrong. Do not doubt with out any reason.. wait till u can see something solid urself to reach conclusion

it matters to me · 07-11-2009, 09:21 AM

Hi

Consider few things and handle the situation

Is there trust in your marriage

Is there a history of your husband cheating in the past

Is there an open communication between you and your husband

Other than the phone call, have there been any other signals which make you doubt him

If you are capable of addressing the issue with open mind without accusing, then why do u even have to think before asking him. Any way if you do not ask you will never know

avanteeka · 07-11-2009, 06:32 PM

u dnt trust ur hubby who married u n loves u but u definitely trust an anonymous caller n we, forum members! woah lady! come on, take a break! marriage n love is no "yo-yo" that once u throw, it for sure will come back...it may also get even more entangled!! so avoid suspicions!

ganesh111 · 08-11-2009, 12:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sachu.mahadev

My hubby last week had a business trip with his good friend and lady colleague and they were away for 3 days. When they were gone i got an anonymous phone saying that my hubby had affair with a female.

He is really work oriented and busy with it. I dont know if i should be worried or not. Shall i ask him or his colleague if there is something between them? But i am hesitating because it was an anonymouse call and if its not true this would be shameful for everybody.
What do you think Maam?

YOu cant be worried.. most probably its a fake call. Such anonymouse calls have generally only one aim, mischief
Atleast dont doubt ur husband right away due to that.. or think that it can be true. Keep looking for some other clues with out any doubts in mind

a_decent_1 · 08-11-2009, 12:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sachu.mahadev

My hubby last week had a business trip with his good friend and lady colleague and they were away for 3 days. When they were gone i got an anonymous phone saying that my hubby had affair with a female.

He is really work oriented and busy with it. I dont know if i should be worried or not. Shall i ask him or his colleague if there is something between them? But i am hesitating because it was an anonymouse call and if its not true this would be shameful for everybody.
What do you think Maam?

Ma'am,

If I call your Hubby and tell him you are having an Affair with 'me" ..!! Should he believe it..?

That's your Answer..!!

G'day

champaklal · 08-11-2009, 01:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by a_decent_1

Ma'am,

If I call your Hubby and tell him you are having an Affair with 'me" ..!! Should he believe it..?

That's your Answer..!!

G'day

Cool answer man!

rohitttt · 09-11-2009, 08:14 AM

see lady no point doubting your husband untill and unless you have eyewitness any such things in reality... doubting is such a deadly diesase that its destroys any realtions and leave you without a single person in your entire life...
you neva know whter the person who called upo was playing aprank or was trying to break the realtion for his /her own selfish motive? dont jump into any conclusion and spoil your married life...many people have a past .. may be even he had itin past n now he is not in touch but if he is not letting it come between you two then you should have no issues with it

06-11-2009, 01:55 PM	#1
sachu.mahadev Guest Posts: n/a	Annonymous phone call about hubby My hubby last week had a business trip with his good friend and lady colleague and they were away for 3 days. When they were gone i got an anonymous phone saying that my hubby had affair with a female. He is really work oriented and busy with it. I dont know if i should be worried or not. Shall i ask him or his colleague if there is something between them? But i am hesitating because it was an anonymouse call and if its not true this would be shameful for everybody. What do you think Maam?

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06-11-2009, 02:37 PM	#2
sb_fan2 Young Gun Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 283 Rep Power: 1	You will always be suspicious. Even if everybody tells you he is nice guy you will always suspect him. No solution. All wives are like that. The only solution is - that your husband should really start an affair - and prove you right. Andy

06-11-2009, 02:45 PM	#3
Preeto Maam Moderator Lieutenant General Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 44,182 Rep Power: 34	These people who make anonymous phone calls are really mischievous and destructive. they plant seeds of doubt that may or may not have a base but have the capability of destroying lives. In your case too, something like that has happened. Now, the only way to tackle it is to tell your husband about the phone call and what the person said. You can ask him if there is any truth in the matter. Its better than trying some sleuthing on your own and also may help to put your mind at rest.

06-11-2009, 03:09 PM	#4
japun Young Gun Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 456 Rep Power: 2	if u trust ur hubby, and is satisfied with his past behaviour then u can be relaxed here.. its a business trip and you also know he is very busy in it. anonymous calls originates from gossipers and those who are jealous generally. there is no need to give much importance to them. dont let urself be conquered by suspicion..evenif u need to be concerned, only check it without suspcecting him or her. One wrong comment can destroy the good atmosphere between you three

06-11-2009, 07:16 PM	#6
siddharth3.5 Young Gun Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 325 Rep Power: 1	The problem is if he is clean he will have his self respect hurt... but if he is of the type who can face such a situation with out any ego problems, then u can ask him.. We dont know how much strong ur love is, and up to which leve each will tolerate.. so if u think its safe, u can ask. If i were in ur position i wont trust an anonymous call.. especially when its made the same time he went for trip. In a working environment one can have many enemies and they can do it due to jealousy..

07-11-2009, 09:21 AM	#10
it matters to me SB Champion Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 1,116 Rep Power: 2	Hi Consider few things and handle the situation Is there trust in your marriage Is there a history of your husband cheating in the past Is there an open communication between you and your husband Other than the phone call, have there been any other signals which make you doubt him If you are capable of addressing the issue with open mind without accusing, then why do u even have to think before asking him. Any way if you do not ask you will never know

07-11-2009, 06:32 PM	#11
avanteeka New Born Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 4 Rep Power: 0	u dnt trust ur hubby who married u n loves u but u definitely trust an anonymous caller n we, forum members! woah lady! come on, take a break! marriage n love is no "yo-yo" that once u throw, it for sure will come back...it may also get even more entangled!! so avoid suspicions!

09-11-2009, 08:14 AM	#15
rohitttt New Born Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 35 Rep Power: 0	see lady no point doubting your husband untill and unless you have eyewitness any such things in reality... doubting is such a deadly diesase that its destroys any realtions and leave you without a single person in your entire life... you neva know whter the person who called upo was playing aprank or was trying to break the realtion for his /her own selfish motive? dont jump into any conclusion and spoil your married life...many people have a past .. may be even he had itin past n now he is not in touch but if he is not letting it come between you two then you should have no issues with it