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Old 07-11-2009, 11:28 AM   #1
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Hi mam i need some help..
Situation is i love a girl in my school but never told her.. becoz i know she loves somebody else. tragedy is all of us are great friends..
the guy whom she like is my friend as i already, he is completely opposite to what she believe.. he has all bad habits which i know but before girls he is cool.. He is tricking the girl
If i tell her this she will most probably end the relationship.. i want her to love me.
So what shall i do??? tell her the truth???
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Old 07-11-2009, 05:42 PM   #2
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Hi mam i need some help..
Situation is i love a girl in my school but never told her.. becoz i know she loves somebody else. tragedy is all of us are great friends..
the guy whom she like is my friend as i already, he is completely opposite to what she believe.. he has all bad habits which i know but before girls he is cool.. He is tricking the girl
If i tell her this she will most probably end the relationship.. i want her to love me.
So what shall i do??? tell her the truth???

I think u should tell her.. if this guy is so pretending he must be having some very bad aims set for her. As a friend u dont want her to become prey to his tricks. Telling her will help her know the truth
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Old 07-11-2009, 09:06 PM   #3
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Hi mam i need some help..
Situation is i love a girl in my school but never told her.. becoz i know she loves somebody else. tragedy is all of us are great friends..
the guy whom she like is my friend as i already, he is completely opposite to what she believe.. he has all bad habits which i know but before girls he is cool.. He is tricking the girl
If i tell her this she will most probably end the relationship.. i want her to love me.
So what shall i do??? tell her the truth???
yes u should let her know.. but not because u love her and this might create a split between her and ur opponent, but only if u are truely concerned as a friend..and worried about the future safety of the girl with him
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Old 08-11-2009, 03:55 AM   #4
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Hi mam i need some help..
Situation is i love a girl in my school but never told her.. becoz i know she loves somebody else. tragedy is all of us are great friends..
the guy whom she like is my friend as i already, he is completely opposite to what she believe.. he has all bad habits which i know but before girls he is cool.. He is tricking the girl
If i tell her this she will most probably end the relationship.. i want her to love me.
So what shall i do??? tell her the truth???
Save the girl..........Certainly this liar has very bad ideas for the girl!!!!!
ANd she desreves better than a cheating guy like this..... Atleast somebody with good habits and honest!!!!!
Telling is the best thing u can do to her as a friend...........
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So basically, what your saying is that this guy is apparently your friend and you pretty much want to stab your friend in the back because you are envious of his girlfriend . Hmm... Well, i'd like to say that with friends like you, who needs enemies. But i shan't !

As she too is also your friend...i can understand your distress.
However, my advice for you is to leave the pair of them alone at their own devices. If you really do care for her then just be prepared and be there for her, for if she was to call on you one day - be a rock for her to lean on.

Whose to say that as the relationship gets more serious and more matured, that he won't amend his illicit ways and truly start loving her ?
If they're meant to be together, then there is jack all that anyone can do about it.

Move along !
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Save the girl..........Certainly this liar has very bad ideas for the girl!!!!!
ANd she desreves better than a cheating guy like this..... Atleast somebody with good habits and honest!!!!!
Telling is the best thing u can do to her as a friend...........
I agree buddy.. if he had good intention he will not be showing good image showing bad side. If he had any change, he would be honest, but he is tricking..girl need to be told
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Hi mam i need some help..
Situation is i love a girl in my school but never told her.. becoz i know she loves somebody else. tragedy is all of us are great friends..
the guy whom she like is my friend as i already, he is completely opposite to what she believe.. he has all bad habits which i know but before girls he is cool.. He is tricking the girl
If i tell her this she will most probably end the relationship.. i want her to love me.
So what shall i do??? tell her the truth???
If the girl is in dangerous hands u must.. its ur duty to do so
Not as a lover or friend, but atleast as a fellow human being
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Old 08-11-2009, 01:31 PM   #9
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Your concern shouldnt be whether she will end the relationship or not, thats up to her to decide. Your concern must be what you are supposed to in such a moment. And that depends on the depth of your friendship with the girl. Here i hope your views about the guy is not clouded by the fact that both of you are in love with her and that there is no touch of jealousy in your opinion about him. If you can be sure on that, you can proceed to tell her. Else that will get reduced to a mere selfish act.
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Hi mam i need some help..
Situation is i love a girl in my school but never told her.. becoz i know she loves somebody else. tragedy is all of us are great friends..
the guy whom she like is my friend as i already, he is completely opposite to what she believe.. he has all bad habits which i know but before girls he is cool.. He is tricking the girl
If i tell her this she will most probably end the relationship.. i want her to love me.
So what shall i do??? tell her the truth???
Chintan,

Is the guy really that bad or is it that you wanna make him look bad..?

Maybe the guy is real serious about this Girl.. THINK before you take any step. You shouldn't be back-stabbing someone for your benefit.

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Hi

Few questions in order to give an answer

Why are you being great friends with him if he has bad habits to start with as that does not make you any better?

If the girl is being friends with 2 friends with bad habits, that means she is bad too??

What makes you think that you are a better candidate than your friend for the girl

If the girl is so dumb that she does not know the difference between good and bad - why do u think she is worthy of your love

Are you jealous or really want to protect the girl from getting hurt

I feel you should distance yourself from both your bad friends and let them find out how well they are suited for each other..

Try to keep good company
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Hi mam i need some help..
Situation is i love a girl in my school but never told her.. becoz i know she loves somebody else. tragedy is all of us are great friends..
the guy whom she like is my friend as i already, he is completely opposite to what she believe.. he has all bad habits which i know but before girls he is cool.. He is tricking the girl
If i tell her this she will most probably end the relationship.. i want her to love me.
So what shall i do??? tell her the truth???
If she cant find the wicked nature of the guy herself then u must help her.
Its more like guiding a person.. and she still has choice to accept or discard ur opinion. Just tell and forget it whatever she may reply..
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Hi mam i need some help..
Situation is i love a girl in my school but never told her.. becoz i know she loves somebody else. tragedy is all of us are great friends..
the guy whom she like is my friend as i already, he is completely opposite to what she believe.. he has all bad habits which i know but before girls he is cool.. He is tricking the girl
If i tell her this she will most probably end the relationship.. i want her to love me.
So what shall i do??? tell her the truth???
Normally its to good to get into others lives!! But since u r friends u can warn another friend from a possible danger!! But dont think she must obey u, the choice is hers!! Your role is in only giving warning!!
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Hi mam i need some help..
Situation is i love a girl in my school but never told her.. becoz i know she loves somebody else. tragedy is all of us are great friends..
the guy whom she like is my friend as i already, he is completely opposite to what she believe.. he has all bad habits which i know but before girls he is cool.. He is tricking the girl
If i tell her this she will most probably end the relationship.. i want her to love me.
So what shall i do??? tell her the truth???

if i was in ur place i would tell her.. if she is great friend i cant stand and watch somebody fooling her. Its related to her life anway
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